pain in the ass friend

dogspencil · 05-17-2008, 03:45 PM

hiya all just curious to now if anyone has or has had this problem and can help me shed light on it....had this best mate for years and we morless do all together go on holidays play for same football teams been each others wingman as such...but just these last few months he has become extreamly competitive with me....when he fails at somthing when we are together its my fault always my fault for everything...he seems to go out his way to make me look small..if were out with a group of freinds he will make sure im the centre of the joke if anyone starts having a joke about him hes straight on my case directing to me...if we start talking to couple of girls all of a sudden im lazy...unfit...boring....or whatever he can think off at the time...i dont understand this as i have done so much much for him and saved his ass so many times when i could have just left him in the gutter...why all of a sudden would he be like this around me. i could fight fire with fire but hes my mate and just cant insult him....it really winds me up.....

Broken*hearted · 05-18-2008, 09:25 AM

He's jealous of you for some reason ?

Perhaps he sees himself in your shadow all the time and wants a bit of the limelight ?

Antimonic · 05-18-2008, 10:16 AM

talk to him? tell him you think what hes doing is very uncool and unjust

justkeepon · 05-18-2008, 10:50 PM

Exactly, talk to him to clarify. Don't be aggressive, but talk to him.

disowned_angel · 05-19-2008, 03:26 PM

You really need to give him a shock, next time you're out with your friends and he makes you the laughing stock; just stand up, shout "get off your high horse!" Then go and sit at the bar (e.g. if you're in a bar). At this point he'll realise he's pushed you too far and when he goes to talk to you just tell him you're sick of it, you want to be respected.
Trust me, the shock and embarrassment can often make people realise that they've gone too far.

05-17-2008, 03:45 PM	#1
dogspencil Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Age: 24 Posts: 21	pain in the ass friend hiya all just curious to now if anyone has or has had this problem and can help me shed light on it....had this best mate for years and we morless do all together go on holidays play for same football teams been each others wingman as such...but just these last few months he has become extreamly competitive with me....when he fails at somthing when we are together its my fault always my fault for everything...he seems to go out his way to make me look small..if were out with a group of freinds he will make sure im the centre of the joke if anyone starts having a joke about him hes straight on my case directing to me...if we start talking to couple of girls all of a sudden im lazy...unfit...boring....or whatever he can think off at the time...i dont understand this as i have done so much much for him and saved his ass so many times when i could have just left him in the gutter...why all of a sudden would he be like this around me. i could fight fire with fire but hes my mate and just cant insult him....it really winds me up.....

05-18-2008, 10:16 AM	#3
Antimonic Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: London Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 66	talk to him? tell him you think what hes doing is very uncool and unjust __________________ When the remarkable turns bizarre, reason turns rancid.

05-19-2008, 03:26 PM	#5
disowned_angel Offline Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: UK Gender: Female Posts: 27	You really need to give him a shock, next time you're out with your friends and he makes you the laughing stock; just stand up, shout "get off your high horse!" Then go and sit at the bar (e.g. if you're in a bar). At this point he'll realise he's pushed you too far and when he goes to talk to you just tell him you're sick of it, you want to be respected. Trust me, the shock and embarrassment can often make people realise that they've gone too far. __________________ ----------------------------------------- http://www.myspace.com/disowned_angel -----------------------------------------

05-18-2008, 09:25 AM	#2
Brokenhearted Offline* Member Join Date: May 2008 Gender: Female Age: 36 Posts: 58	He's jealous of you for some reason ? Perhaps he sees himself in your shadow all the time and wants a bit of the limelight ?

05-18-2008, 10:50 PM	#4
justkeepon Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Seattle, WA Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 107	Exactly, talk to him to clarify. Don't be aggressive, but talk to him.