When's it time to give up?

IronHorse · 05-14-2008, 04:51 PM

Been dateless for a long time and that eventually just lead to not asking anyone out. There was no point as they all said "No" whenever asked... Didn't see the need to being put down any longer and just quit trying.

I can accept the fact of being viewed as undiserable... I guess I just waited too long for the right one. I miss the days when I would over hear the ladies in the corner whisper to themselves "Who's that, cutie" when ever I entered a place. Now I don't get noticed at all... O' well I guess that's life?

ghost69 · 05-14-2008, 04:58 PM

you typing is reflecting outward. women sense that.

MD Geist · 05-14-2008, 05:06 PM

Not to be negative in anyway but not everybody will ever experience a relationship, certain things where meant to happen for certain people. I have not had a g/f in my life not once ever so about a month ago I decided to completely close my mind off from even trying to ask anyone out since then life has been much better.

Lana0120 · 05-14-2008, 05:06 PM

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Originally Posted by ghost69

you typing is reflecting outward. women sense that.

Yep, afraid so.

thejigsup · 05-14-2008, 05:24 PM

Do you see that girl over there in the corner? Well, do you? Nobody has ever asked her out, ever. She's shy and isn't all bubbly and witty like the girls who every guy hits on. Ask her for a date. Smile and be nice. Say she has a pretty smile. She will most likely say yes and go out with you. It may grow into love, it may not. But you will both be glad you were accepted and noticed by somebody. She will probably treat you very nicely, not cheat on you, and always appreciate you. But no, you won't ask her. Everyone wants the hot guy or girl while there are wonderful people standing over there in the corner, waiting for someone to notice them.

iwishiknew · 05-14-2008, 06:27 PM

I just turned 30 last week and I have always been dateless..I am trying hard to get a date, I have been going to the park everyday running, and I go to the store everyday even though I don't have to buy anything, I go to the bookstore, Dairy Queen,..I am trying anything to narrow the odds of me getting a date.

IronHorse · 05-14-2008, 07:54 PM

I don't bother asking any longer because it's pointless. All I ever heard was "No" from any female I ever asked... Just exactly how many no's does a person have to hear before they realize it's fruitless to continue?

This has nothing to do with Confidence or neagativity... It's math! You ask 1 woman out and she says no. Nothing unusally about that ask 10 and get 10 no's still nothing strange about that... Ask 100's and still getting all no's then something is a miss and it has nothing to do with confidence or neagativity....

iwishiknew · 05-14-2008, 08:35 PM

Same here with me, when I asked out girls before they always come up with some excuse, and they always say no to me. I don't bother asking anymore unless the girl says hi to me or smiles at me, which never happened to me yet, but if it did then I would ask her out other than that no I would not bother asking a girl out.

IronHorse · 05-14-2008, 08:49 PM

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Originally Posted by iwishiknew

Same here with me, when I asked out girls before they always come up with some excuse, and they always say no to me. I don't bother asking anymore unless the girl says hi to me or smiles at me, which never happened to me yet, but if it did then I would ask her out other than that no I would not bother asking a girl out.

Well, I wasn't always that way but the last few years I have grown tired of the BS. At this point I don't go out of my way to speak to any females (unless it's a non-interest question.) I don't bother looking thier direction I wouldn't want to creep them out.

They all want someone else anyway so I just stay out of their way... I suppose somewhere along the walk of chances I must have accidently stepped into the forever dateless abyss and just need to accept that's how it's going to be...

I tried the online thing for a very long time and couldn't get a single reponse. I tried the singles clubs and no one would speak to me... Heck if I'm going to spend time to myself I can do that from home. It's cheaper and I don't have to torture myself be being a round a bunch of people that have no interest in me...

doyathink · 05-14-2008, 09:05 PM

How sad.

Dont give up on hope.
Can I ask you how old you are? I'm just wondering what age group you're in. There seems to be a ton of singles in the later 20's out there.

05-14-2008, 04:51 PM	#1
IronHorse Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: USA Gender: Male Posts: 482	When's it time to give up? Been dateless for a long time and that eventually just lead to not asking anyone out. There was no point as they all said "No" whenever asked... Didn't see the need to being put down any longer and just quit trying. I can accept the fact of being viewed as undiserable... I guess I just waited too long for the right one. I miss the days when I would over hear the ladies in the corner whisper to themselves "Who's that, cutie" when ever I entered a place. Now I don't get noticed at all... O' well I guess that's life?

05-14-2008, 04:58 PM	#2
ghost69 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Desert Gender: Male Posts: 33,444	you typing is reflecting outward. women sense that. __________________ Not only am I friendly, but I'm invisible too. Too perfect of a relationship is too weird-g69 If you say you are normal, I'd think you are weird-g69 The world can only get better, it depends on how you look at it-g69 'As wicked as you are, you're beautiful to me'-5fingerdeathpunch you cannot control the world, you can only live in it the best you can for you-g69 NooOoOoooOOoOoOoooooo

05-14-2008, 05:06 PM	#3
MD Geist Offline Silver Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: CO Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,195	Not to be negative in anyway but not everybody will ever experience a relationship, certain things where meant to happen for certain people. I have not had a g/f in my life not once ever so about a month ago I decided to completely close my mind off from even trying to ask anyone out since then life has been much better. __________________ Formerly known as Madoc

05-14-2008, 06:27 PM	#6
iwishiknew Offline Silver Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Illinois Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 1,231	I just turned 30 last week and I have always been dateless..I am trying hard to get a date, I have been going to the park everyday running, and I go to the store everyday even though I don't have to buy anything, I go to the bookstore, Dairy Queen,..I am trying anything to narrow the odds of me getting a date. __________________ "Some people more than others judge people by their looks, moreover attractiveness probably most affects first impressions" (Livingston) "To give anything less than your best is to sacrifice the Gift." "I am an ugly duckling"

05-14-2008, 08:35 PM	#8
iwishiknew Offline Silver Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Illinois Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 1,231	Same here with me, when I asked out girls before they always come up with some excuse, and they always say no to me. I don't bother asking anymore unless the girl says hi to me or smiles at me, which never happened to me yet, but if it did then I would ask her out other than that no I would not bother asking a girl out. __________________ "Some people more than others judge people by their looks, moreover attractiveness probably most affects first impressions" (Livingston) "To give anything less than your best is to sacrifice the Gift." "I am an ugly duckling"

05-14-2008, 05:24 PM	#5
thejigsup Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Los Angeles, CA Gender: Female Age: 53 Posts: 4,131	Do you see that girl over there in the corner? Well, do you? Nobody has ever asked her out, ever. She's shy and isn't all bubbly and witty like the girls who every guy hits on. Ask her for a date. Smile and be nice. Say she has a pretty smile. She will most likely say yes and go out with you. It may grow into love, it may not. But you will both be glad you were accepted and noticed by somebody. She will probably treat you very nicely, not cheat on you, and always appreciate you. But no, you won't ask her. Everyone wants the hot guy or girl while there are wonderful people standing over there in the corner, waiting for someone to notice them.

05-14-2008, 07:54 PM	#7
IronHorse Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: USA Gender: Male Posts: 482	I don't bother asking any longer because it's pointless. All I ever heard was "No" from any female I ever asked... Just exactly how many no's does a person have to hear before they realize it's fruitless to continue? This has nothing to do with Confidence or neagativity... It's math! You ask 1 woman out and she says no. Nothing unusally about that ask 10 and get 10 no's still nothing strange about that... Ask 100's and still getting all no's then something is a miss and it has nothing to do with confidence or neagativity....

05-14-2008, 09:05 PM	#10
doyathink Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Venus Gender: Female Posts: 5,313	How sad. Dont give up on hope. Can I ask you how old you are? I'm just wondering what age group you're in. There seems to be a ton of singles in the later 20's out there. __________________ When life hands you lemons, ask for tequila and salt and call me over.