Alcohol... my only rescue

Quetzal621 · 05-02-2008, 04:58 PM

Hello everyone, I posted a while back about what had happened to me (dead mom, alcoholic father, feeling alone, autistic brother, no really family, friends seem to never be there when you need them the most, depression). Anyways I wanted to know if anyone else has gone through a situation that seems to be coming up more and more often. I have now gone to drinking to ease the pain I have and that happened once when I felt so depressed that I had to go out and just get wasted/hammered/ whatever you want to call it. Anyways I have not had a really depressing moment until now, and I am afraid that if I do this same thing, drinking to make my probs go away, I will become an alcoholic like my father and what apparently has happened to his brothers. I am so scared because it can all collapse so easily what I had once been so proud of in myself. Anyways I wondered if anyone could give me tips to get through this period it wont last long seeing as though I have finals (I am a senior in college) I know but its going to be rough these couple of days. Thanks in advance

i_win · 05-02-2008, 05:03 PM

It is a proven fact that alcoholism is genetic. You are unfortunately predisposed to become an alcoholic yourself. It was a part of you from the moment of conception.

Relax, take a deep breath, and do your best. Instead of drinking, exercise in it's place. If you feel the need for a drink then go jog around the block or do a series of pushups/situps.

RelaxByWater84 · 05-02-2008, 05:15 PM

Do not bring alcohol into the house. Do not even look at the alcohol aisle. Try to by-pass it.

**greensleeves** · 05-02-2008, 05:24 PM

It's good that you recognize that this is a potential problem for you. Just try to find something, anything to do when you start to feel under pressure....exercise, meditation, watch a funny movie, whatever. Come and post here, they'll be someone around to talk to you. Good luck.

TheSmilingTurnip · 05-02-2008, 05:35 PM

If you are a real alcoholic, then not one of these suggestions will solve your problem. I recommend you check out Alcoholics Anonymous, a program which has had proven success and guess what else? It costs nothing. The only requirement for membership is to stop drinking.

[Only registered and activated users can see links. ]

Anotherday · 05-02-2008, 05:48 PM

I really wish I had a good answer for you. I struggle with bipolar depression and honestly sometimes wine is the ONLY thing that helps me cope for a few hours.

No, it's not good as I am on medication, but sometimes I just get tired of being depressed.

Do you have anyone you can call? There is this online forum called sober recovery and you might get some ideas.

I've gone to AA and hate it so it's not for me. There is a group called LifeRing that might be in your area which I only wish were where I live. There is also Women for Sobriety and SMART.

For me I don't have much support and none from my family. I am going to try to force myself to get out and meet new people. I really think having friends is probably the best solution to what you are dealing with (real friends)

In this sense AA is good, but in my opinion it's a cult and if you don't tow the line, well, it's been my experience of just getting shunned, which makes me feel even worse than I already do.

TheSmilingTurnip · 05-02-2008, 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Anotherday

In this sense AA is good, but in my opinion it's a cult and if you don't tow the line, well, it's been my experience of just getting shunned, which makes me feel even worse than I already do.

Please know that your experience is the exception, not the rule. I'm sorry you had that experience, but AA is no cult. Every AA group is as different as the people who attend it. My experience with this has been the opposite of yours.

Anotherday · 05-02-2008, 06:16 PM

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Originally Posted by phrecklesrsexy

Please know that your experience is the exception, not the rule. I'm sorry you had that experience, but AA is no cult. Every AA group is as different as the people who attend it. My experience with this has been the opposite of yours.

Thanks. This isn't my thread and I don't want to hijack it. I have many years of experience and it's not for me.

Anyway, to the OP, you can always try it and see what you think.

05-02-2008, 04:58 PM	#1
Quetzal621 Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 3	Alcohol... my only rescue Hello everyone, I posted a while back about what had happened to me (dead mom, alcoholic father, feeling alone, autistic brother, no really family, friends seem to never be there when you need them the most, depression). Anyways I wanted to know if anyone else has gone through a situation that seems to be coming up more and more often. I have now gone to drinking to ease the pain I have and that happened once when I felt so depressed that I had to go out and just get wasted/hammered/ whatever you want to call it. Anyways I have not had a really depressing moment until now, and I am afraid that if I do this same thing, drinking to make my probs go away, I will become an alcoholic like my father and what apparently has happened to his brothers. I am so scared because it can all collapse so easily what I had once been so proud of in myself. Anyways I wondered if anyone could give me tips to get through this period it wont last long seeing as though I have finals (I am a senior in college) I know but its going to be rough these couple of days. Thanks in advance

05-02-2008, 05:15 PM	#3
RelaxByWater84 Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: In the Now Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 923	Do not bring alcohol into the house. Do not even look at the alcohol aisle. Try to by-pass it. __________________ Now caught in a waltz With the eternal dancer I'm courted by death But death isn't the answer I say. Beethoven's Last Night Trans-Siberian Orchestra

05-02-2008, 05:24 PM	#4
greensleeves Online Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 2,941	It's good that you recognize that this is a potential problem for you. Just try to find something, anything to do when you start to feel under pressure....exercise, meditation, watch a funny movie, whatever. Come and post here, they'll be someone around to talk to you. Good luck. __________________ Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them. Dalai Lama

05-02-2008, 05:35 PM	#5
TheSmilingTurnip Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2005 Age: 33 Posts: 2,042	If you are a real alcoholic, then not one of these suggestions will solve your problem. I recommend you check out Alcoholics Anonymous, a program which has had proven success and guess what else? It costs nothing. The only requirement for membership is to stop drinking. [Only registered and activated users can see links. ] __________________ BOUNDARIES...where you end and someone else begins. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Keep the fights clean and the sex dirty." ~ Kevin Bacon on keeping marriage together.

05-02-2008, 05:03 PM	#2
i_win Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 1,080	It is a proven fact that alcoholism is genetic. You are unfortunately predisposed to become an alcoholic yourself. It was a part of you from the moment of conception. Relax, take a deep breath, and do your best. Instead of drinking, exercise in it's place. If you feel the need for a drink then go jog around the block or do a series of pushups/situps.

05-02-2008, 05:48 PM	#6
Anotherday Offline Silver Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 790	I really wish I had a good answer for you. I struggle with bipolar depression and honestly sometimes wine is the ONLY thing that helps me cope for a few hours. No, it's not good as I am on medication, but sometimes I just get tired of being depressed. Do you have anyone you can call? There is this online forum called sober recovery and you might get some ideas. I've gone to AA and hate it so it's not for me. There is a group called LifeRing that might be in your area which I only wish were where I live. There is also Women for Sobriety and SMART. For me I don't have much support and none from my family. I am going to try to force myself to get out and meet new people. I really think having friends is probably the best solution to what you are dealing with (real friends) In this sense AA is good, but in my opinion it's a cult and if you don't tow the line, well, it's been my experience of just getting shunned, which makes me feel even worse than I already do.