Am I unattractive?

[shyguy1]

Simple question.. figured I had seen multiple others ask, so it wouldn't hurt if one more person did.






The first pic was taken around a year and a half ago

The second pic about four months ago roughly.

Sorry don't have anything more recent, as I don't have a lot of pics online and my digital camera was stolen and can't take more. Sorry as well for the first one not being the clearest view of my face.

If you all have seen one too many of this sort of thread, then please don't hesitate to let me know and I'll delete.

[Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll]

do you think your attractive?

thats the only opinion that matters

[shyguy1]

Originally Posted by Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll

do you think your attractive?

thats the only opinion that matters

I realize how frustrating it is that it's always the same people on here asking this sort of question (I'm as guilty as anyone)

Just a hard cycle to break. Odd time to mention that... but meant to mention it in my original post. and figured I would get it out of the way now.

Anyway to answer your question... I go through cycles.

I rarely consider myself attractive, though I do 'at times' consider myself to be average.. other times well below.

The thing is if I could learn how to better handle things like my shyness and my chronic depression... with my wit... intelligence and sense of humor, average would likely be enough....

[Lana0120]

You're not unattractive. You seem like a nice looking guy. You look quite young for your age as well, so you'll probably wear well over time. As SBJ says, it's YOUR opinion that matters. I've seen some guys who in my personal opinion were actually ugly, who had no problems getting girlfriend, so that means, if chances are based on looks, your success rate should be even better. You just need some confidence and some practice is all.

[Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll]

Originally Posted by shyguy1

I realize how frustrating it is that it's always the same people on here asking this sort of question (I'm as guilty as anyone)

Just a hard cycle to break. Odd time to mention that... but meant to mention it in my original post. and figured I would get it out of the way now.

Anyway to answer your question... I go through cycles.

I rarely consider myself attractive, though I do 'at times' consider myself to be average.. other times well below.

The thing is if I could learn how to better handle things like my shyness and my chronic depression... with my wit... intelligence and sense of humor, average would likely be enough....

answer me this

what is stopping you from being as sexy as some of the men that women say are sexy?

what physical boundary is stopping you other than your mentality? whats stopping you from feeling oh so damn sexy?

[shoppingGirl]

You are a nice looking guy. You probably just need to gain confidence...Definetely NOT ugly.

[shyguy1]

Originally Posted by Lana0120

You're not unattractive. You seem like a nice looking guy. You look quite young for your age as well, so you'll probably wear well over time. As SBJ says, it's YOUR opinion that matters. I've seen some guys who in my personal opinion were actually ugly, who had no problems getting girlfriend, so that means, if chances are based on looks, your success rate should be even better. You just need some confidence and some practice is all.

Thanks for your honest assessment.... I've actually been told by quite a few people than I look younger than what I am. Have never known if it were a blessing or a curse, though right now I lean more toward the curse... if as you say I continue to look younger upon reaching my 30's and 40's a blessing....

Originally Posted by Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll

answer me this

what is stopping you from being as sexy as some of the men that women say are sexy?

what physical boundary is stopping you other than your mentality? whats stopping you from feeling oh so damn sexy?

My outlook on life is likely the biggest deterrent , I just have a heck of a time trying to change it. Depression is and of itself is hard to break through.. when one's left it fester as long as I have.. it gets that much harder.

It's hard to be confident when you've only had one serious relationship and haven't gone on a single date in over a decade... Then you have things like my advancing virginity and I realize you've said in the past that sort of thing isn't a big deal... and that's an admirable way to look at it... from my standpoint though as I get closer to 30 it's a genuine fear of mine that most women won't be able to accept it.

I'm not a doctor (nor do I play one on TV) but if I were to harbor a guess, I would say that my depression is the single biggest issue and it at least in part plays right into and leads to a certain extent everything else (IE: the shyness, the lack of self esteem and the fear of how girls would react to certain things about me)

Find a way to fix it and everything else would likely slowly begin to fall into place.

Reading what I've put... I guess I could've kept this a lot more simple and say other than my mentality? Perhaps nothing

[Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll]

Originally Posted by shyguy1

My outlook on life is likely the biggest deterrent , I just have a heck of a time trying to change it. Depression is and of itself is hard to break through.. when one's left it fester as long as I have.. it gets that much harder.

i know that. my question was outside of your mindstate what is the issue?

It's hard to be confident when you've only had one serious relationship and haven't gone on a single date in over a decade...

lies. i only had one realationship and havent been on a date since late 06...wonder why i attract attention and have females come up to me sometimes? wanna know my secret? i always find myself attractive and so do they and i have the utmost confidence (arrogance to some) so whats your issue

Then you have things like my advancing virginity and I realize you've said in the past that sort of thing isn't a big deal... and that's an admirable way to look at it... from my standpoint though as I get closer to 30 it's a genuine fear of mine that most women won't be able to accept it.

/yawn. its only your buisness that your a virgin. no one elses, if they dont accecpt it move on

I'm not a doctor (nor do I play one on TV) but if I were to harbor a guess, I would say that my depression is the single biggest issue and it at least in part plays right into and leads to a certain extent everything else (IE: the shyness, the lack of self esteem and the fear of how girls would react to certain things about me)

thats not the question asked. outside of your cynical mindstate "WHAT" is holding you back?

Find a way to fix it and everything else would likely slowly begin to fall into place.

Reading what I've put... I guess I could've kept this a lot more simple and say other than my mentality? Perhaps nothing....

exactly. you dont know how a woman is going to react to you but rather than go up to bat you rather sit in the dugout and fiddle with your meat

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[Lana0120]

Hehe, yeah, when you get carded and you left your ID at home, THEN, it's a curse. When you're older, you'll definitely appreciate it.

[Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll]

Originally Posted by Lana0120

Hehe, yeah, when you get carded and you left your ID at home, THEN, it's a curse. When you're older, you'll definitely appreciate it.

i can understand his pain on that one. it is a curse in someway i cant even buy a m rated video game w/o them asking me to break out ID