So, I signed up for a dating site. Dumb.

segor56 · 04-02-2008, 08:29 PM

I signed up for a dating site today because I wanted to feel better about me.. you know.. the random 'wink' from the guys.. the nice emails from time to time. I honestly dont' know if I'm ready to date, but I don't really have time to kill here, ya know?

So, I signed up. I got a weird wink right off the bat. The weirdness of it, is it is totally a made up profile. TOTALLY. It's actually pretty funny. It has no photo and is clearly the kind you can sign up for without paying. BUT>> it also sounds a lot like the ex's words. I know, I know... it could be anyone... but seriously.. I know he lurks around this site and I KNOW he's checking it.

I CAN'T get away... from his mom from him. HELP.

Daligal83 · 04-02-2008, 08:37 PM

If you want to get away from your ex, why did you sign yourself up on a site that you know he checks?

segor56 · 04-02-2008, 08:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Daligal83

If you want to get away from your ex, why did you sign yourself up on a site that you know he checks?

He's everywhere. We have a ton of mutual friends. His ex work for my company. It s*cks. But, why should I sacrafice future happiness because he's a dating site stalker?

Godless_Heathen · 04-02-2008, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by segor56

He's everywhere.

You used to date Chicken Man?

segor56 · 04-02-2008, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Godless_Heathen

You used to date Chicken Man?

I have no idea who chicken man is, but that made me laugh out loud.

Daligal83 · 04-02-2008, 09:10 PM

I'd say that you're not really ready to date. You don't know who this random person is, and your first thought is that it's your ex. I think you can't get away from him because you're not over him yet. Your mind is still focused on him. And that's OK. It takes time to move on from a break up. But I don't think it's a good idea to start dating just because you feel that you should. Start dating when you feel that your mind and heart have moved on from your ex and you're truly ready to start a new relationship.

CallingAllAngels · 04-02-2008, 09:26 PM

I have to say.....I think a lot of these dating sites to more damage to the ego than good...especially for men.

At least this has been my experience from the men that I KNOW and have spoken with who have been on them.

No bashing please, as I mean this with all due respect.

Thank you

~Allie

bubbledot · 04-17-2008, 09:50 PM

actually....that's one of the reasons why I can't really belong to an online site anymore. It's pretty terrible because it's like I'm banned from doing it ever again, on any site. I'm paranoid that my ex will be browsing the web and find me. It sounds ludacris, but it could actually happen. He was an awful individul and had stalker tendencies.

I joined one site anyway...but I can't put a proper photo of myself up because of this. I'm also afraid that someone else...anyone...in real life will recognize me. I can't get over this fear, and so I can't date online ever again it seems. Which is probably better, because I have had lots of bad experiences.

I think it gives you an ego boost or an instant cure for loneliness, but in the end I'd agree that it damages you more than it helps. There's also the annoying cycle of getting a wink from a guy who doesn't interest you whatsoever, so you don't reply. Then he sends an e-mail, and then another e-mail asking why you haven't replied. Then it turns into personal attacks. Not something that will raise your spirits in the long run. And then it starts to make you believe that everyone is out to get you.

So that's my two cents.

04-02-2008, 08:29 PM	#1
segor56 Offline Silver Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 363	So, I signed up for a dating site. Dumb. I signed up for a dating site today because I wanted to feel better about me.. you know.. the random 'wink' from the guys.. the nice emails from time to time. I honestly dont' know if I'm ready to date, but I don't really have time to kill here, ya know? So, I signed up. I got a weird wink right off the bat. The weirdness of it, is it is totally a made up profile. TOTALLY. It's actually pretty funny. It has no photo and is clearly the kind you can sign up for without paying. BUT>> it also sounds a lot like the ex's words. I know, I know... it could be anyone... but seriously.. I know he lurks around this site and I KNOW he's checking it. I CAN'T get away... from his mom from him. HELP.

04-02-2008, 08:37 PM	#2
Daligal83 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 3,031	If you want to get away from your ex, why did you sign yourself up on a site that you know he checks? __________________ Have no fear of perfection, you'll never reach it. ~Salvador Dali~ "If you can't trust, then you can't be trusted" -Ben Folds

04-02-2008, 09:10 PM	#6
Daligal83 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 3,031	I'd say that you're not really ready to date. You don't know who this random person is, and your first thought is that it's your ex. I think you can't get away from him because you're not over him yet. Your mind is still focused on him. And that's OK. It takes time to move on from a break up. But I don't think it's a good idea to start dating just because you feel that you should. Start dating when you feel that your mind and heart have moved on from your ex and you're truly ready to start a new relationship. __________________ Have no fear of perfection, you'll never reach it. ~Salvador Dali~ "If you can't trust, then you can't be trusted" -Ben Folds

04-02-2008, 09:26 PM	#7
CallingAllAngels Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 4,904	I have to say.....I think a lot of these dating sites to more damage to the ego than good...especially for men. At least this has been my experience from the men that I KNOW and have spoken with who have been on them. No bashing please, as I mean this with all due respect. Thank you ~Allie __________________ "Accept Life On Life's Terms"....JAH You can't change yesterday but you can ruin today worrying about tomorrow. God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change The Courage to change the things I can And the Wisdom to know the difference...

04-17-2008, 09:50 PM	#8
bubbledot Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 21	actually....that's one of the reasons why I can't really belong to an online site anymore. It's pretty terrible because it's like I'm banned from doing it ever again, on any site. I'm paranoid that my ex will be browsing the web and find me. It sounds ludacris, but it could actually happen. He was an awful individul and had stalker tendencies. I joined one site anyway...but I can't put a proper photo of myself up because of this. I'm also afraid that someone else...anyone...in real life will recognize me. I can't get over this fear, and so I can't date online ever again it seems. Which is probably better, because I have had lots of bad experiences. I think it gives you an ego boost or an instant cure for loneliness, but in the end I'd agree that it damages you more than it helps. There's also the annoying cycle of getting a wink from a guy who doesn't interest you whatsoever, so you don't reply. Then he sends an e-mail, and then another e-mail asking why you haven't replied. Then it turns into personal attacks. Not something that will raise your spirits in the long run. And then it starts to make you believe that everyone is out to get you. So that's my two cents.