My Boyfriend is Skinny and I'm...Not...

ashley001 · 03-17-2008, 02:39 AM

I guess this is bothering me now because we're starting to get more intimate, but he's 5'8", 120 lbs and I'm 5'4", 140 lbs. I'm not 'fat', but I have meat on my bones and an athletic structure.

My boyfriend has never made a comment about my weight, infact he always tells me how beautiful I am and a few times he's told me that I have a beautiful body. I can't help but feel insecure when he holds my 'fat' areas...I mean when he puts his hands on my lower waist and feels my side fat, I can't help but move his hand up...or when we're lying in his bed and he'll put his hand on my stomach, I can't help but move his hand (I'll usually pretend to want to hold his hand). Or when I'm sitting on his legs and he'll hold my side (all of us with a little meat on our bones knows that when we're sitting the fat just goes plop)...I'll move his hands...

I just feel so obese whenever I'm around him, even though he does tell me I'm beautiful...I wish he didn't have to hold fat when he put his hand on my waist...I don't know, maybe I'm succumbing to what society wants the female role in a relationship to be...tiny and petite...but it's not that I don't like when we puts his hands on my lower back, I just hate that he has to feel my meat...:[

I don't know...anyone been through this situation? And I know I could lose a few pounds, but I don't ever see myself being SKINNY to the point where I won't have meat on my bones...

musicguy · 03-17-2008, 02:49 AM

first off your boyfriend likes/loves you for who you are. I'd rather have a woman with a little meat on her bones than a skinny minny like me

Daddy Bear · 03-17-2008, 02:58 AM

He's comfortable with you. Be comfortable with yourself.

amure · 03-17-2008, 03:24 AM

yeah like everyones saying, he loves you for you, and all of you :P

enchiladaman · 03-17-2008, 04:15 AM

Sounds like he loves you. 5'4" -140 is a great size. And if he is your age, he still has a few years to grow and might end up packing on more weight.

AngelEyez · 03-17-2008, 04:39 AM

I'm not really in the same situation because my boyfriend is very huge & muscular and weighs 250 lbs...I'm 120 lbs...but I still feel flubberish...When I'm lying on my side, my skin/fat droops and he grabs onto it...and I try to move his hand...and I say "Ew, you're holding onto that?" All he says is that he likes it...I'm personally going to try to tone my body up...so he doesn't have to see that even though he says he likes it. I'll also do it for myself. If he thinks you're beautiful just the way you are, then you shouldn't change. But, if you also feel uncomfortable with your body, do something for yourself...rather than being afraid of what others may think/say otherwise.

jsx730 · 03-17-2008, 08:34 AM

Yea, I agree with the other posters, 5'4" and 140lbs is just fine. But WOW, 5'8 and 120lbs?!

Feed that man!

I'm 5'8 160 and I feel scrawny most of the time!

ghost69 · 03-17-2008, 12:25 PM

you can afford to lose a few lbs. and it sounds like you want to. for yourself it seems. hit some cardio and lift light weights. you will get to where you want.

Mavis VDSande · 03-17-2008, 03:11 PM

My bf is very underweight, think he's 6'1 and 140 lbs!!! Arggggh!

Anyway, I've obviously got so much more meat on me, it's ok. I think a super skinny guy is going to be more self conscious than a girl who's got the right curves. We can loose the weight, but for some guys, they struggle to keep it on.

You have to be happy with your own weight and look. No matter how much your bf tells you he loves the way you look. Maybe just adjust your diet slightly and do a little exercise? The better you feel about yourself the better he'll be able to enjoy being intimate with you!

And plus, you guys are so young! Don't feel bad about the way you look.

musicguy · 03-17-2008, 08:09 PM

I'm 5'5, 108 lbs and I eat like a horse

03-17-2008, 02:39 AM	#1
ashley001 Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Los Angeles, CA Gender: Female Posts: 100	My Boyfriend is Skinny and I'm...Not... I guess this is bothering me now because we're starting to get more intimate, but he's 5'8", 120 lbs and I'm 5'4", 140 lbs. I'm not 'fat', but I have meat on my bones and an athletic structure. My boyfriend has never made a comment about my weight, infact he always tells me how beautiful I am and a few times he's told me that I have a beautiful body. I can't help but feel insecure when he holds my 'fat' areas...I mean when he puts his hands on my lower waist and feels my side fat, I can't help but move his hand up...or when we're lying in his bed and he'll put his hand on my stomach, I can't help but move his hand (I'll usually pretend to want to hold his hand). Or when I'm sitting on his legs and he'll hold my side (all of us with a little meat on our bones knows that when we're sitting the fat just goes plop)...I'll move his hands... I just feel so obese whenever I'm around him, even though he does tell me I'm beautiful...I wish he didn't have to hold fat when he put his hand on my waist...I don't know, maybe I'm succumbing to what society wants the female role in a relationship to be...tiny and petite...but it's not that I don't like when we puts his hands on my lower back, I just hate that he has to feel my meat...:[ I don't know...anyone been through this situation? And I know I could lose a few pounds, but I don't ever see myself being SKINNY to the point where I won't have meat on my bones... __________________ -ashley an air force academy cadet has my <3. Last edited by ashley001; 03-17-2008 at 02:48 AM.

03-17-2008, 02:49 AM	#2
musicguy Online Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tattoo Land Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 3,736	first off your boyfriend likes/loves you for who you are. I'd rather have a woman with a little meat on her bones than a skinny minny like me __________________ Crush Crush Crush Crush, crush (Two, three, four!) Nothing compares to a quiet evening alone Just the one-two of us, who's counting on That never happens I guess I'm dreaming again Let's be more than this Crushcrushcrush -- Paramore R.I.P. Aaron Link. Sept. 1979- Jan. 13. 2008. We love and miss you buddy!

03-17-2008, 03:24 AM	#4
amure Offline Gold Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 631	yeah like everyones saying, he loves you for you, and all of you :P __________________ www.myspace.com/alex_000

03-17-2008, 04:39 AM	#6
AngelEyez Offline Gold Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 419	I'm not really in the same situation because my boyfriend is very huge & muscular and weighs 250 lbs...I'm 120 lbs...but I still feel flubberish...When I'm lying on my side, my skin/fat droops and he grabs onto it...and I try to move his hand...and I say "Ew, you're holding onto that?" All he says is that he likes it...I'm personally going to try to tone my body up...so he doesn't have to see that even though he says he likes it. I'll also do it for myself. If he thinks you're beautiful just the way you are, then you shouldn't change. But, if you also feel uncomfortable with your body, do something for yourself...rather than being afraid of what others may think/say otherwise. __________________ ()¤·.¸¸.×º¤Ångel¤º´Eyez¤º×.¸¸.·¤()

03-17-2008, 12:25 PM	#8
ghost69 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Desert Gender: Male Posts: 33,424	you can afford to lose a few lbs. and it sounds like you want to. for yourself it seems. hit some cardio and lift light weights. you will get to where you want. __________________ Not only am I friendly, but I'm invisible too. Too perfect of a relationship is too weird-g69 If you say you are normal, I'd think you are weird-g69 The world can only get better, it depends on how you look at it-g69 'As wicked as you are, you're beautiful to me'-5fingerdeathpunch you cannot control the world, you can only live in it the best you can for you-g69 NooOoOoooOOoOoOoooooo

03-17-2008, 02:58 AM	#3
Daddy Bear Offline Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: TBA Gender: Male Age: 47 Posts: 4,358	He's comfortable with you. Be comfortable with yourself.

03-17-2008, 04:15 AM	#5
enchiladaman Offline Silver Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 405	Sounds like he loves you. 5'4" -140 is a great size. And if he is your age, he still has a few years to grow and might end up packing on more weight.

03-17-2008, 08:34 AM	#7
jsx730 Offline Silver Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Ohio Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 685	Yea, I agree with the other posters, 5'4" and 140lbs is just fine. But WOW, 5'8 and 120lbs?! Feed that man! I'm 5'8 160 and I feel scrawny most of the time!

03-17-2008, 03:11 PM	#9
Mavis VDSande Offline Gold Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 863	My bf is very underweight, think he's 6'1 and 140 lbs!!! Arggggh! Anyway, I've obviously got so much more meat on me, it's ok. I think a super skinny guy is going to be more self conscious than a girl who's got the right curves. We can loose the weight, but for some guys, they struggle to keep it on. You have to be happy with your own weight and look. No matter how much your bf tells you he loves the way you look. Maybe just adjust your diet slightly and do a little exercise? The better you feel about yourself the better he'll be able to enjoy being intimate with you! And plus, you guys are so young! Don't feel bad about the way you look. __________________ "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Albert Einstein

03-17-2008, 08:09 PM	#10
musicguy Online Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tattoo Land Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 3,736	I'm 5'5, 108 lbs and I eat like a horse __________________ Crush Crush Crush Crush, crush (Two, three, four!) Nothing compares to a quiet evening alone Just the one-two of us, who's counting on That never happens I guess I'm dreaming again Let's be more than this Crushcrushcrush -- Paramore R.I.P. Aaron Link. Sept. 1979- Jan. 13. 2008. We love and miss you buddy!