miricra Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Either to make them jealous or to get them off your back? Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Either to make them jealous or to get them off your back? absolutely..... Link to comment
bronte Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 I actually went the opposite route and tried to keep the fact that I actually did have new suitors from my ex--I thought that since I would want him to be discreet about anyone new in his life, I should be discreet about my own dating. So I got to find out about his new relationship from my Facebook feed and now I'm not sure he believes me when I say that I've been dating, too...*sigh* lol...I have to laugh or I'd cry! Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 you hide new suitors while you are dating!!!! Link to comment
jettison Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 I've lied to my ex about seeing someone new... sort of. Unless they ask me in a strightforward manner, I won't tell them who or even if I'm dating someone else. It's none of their business. I suppose that's not a lie, but it's not exactly open. If asked, of course, I'd tell them. Link to comment
bronte Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Well, I wasn't seeing anyone exclusively--then I would absolutely have told the ex. I just tried not to be blatant about my casual dating on Facebook or anything like that. Yeah, I know...it was weird behavior but it seemed sane at the time. Link to comment
shes2smart Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Well, that'd require me to talk or write to an ex and that goes against everything I believe. When I'm done, I'm done and (with one exception) I never have anything to do with an ex again. Link to comment
Addicus Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 why is there a need to lie? Doesn't that make any relationship doomed for failure? Right now I wouldn't want to know if my ex was dating....so I stay away....however, if i was to be in contact in anyway then I would always want her to be open and honest...if you can't then why be around certain people? I am not at that point yet so NC is the best thing! I am quite not happy to be dating certinly not because of her and hopes of getting back..but because I am quite happy enjoying my own space without someone putting demands on my time. Link to comment
miricra Posted March 14, 2008 Author Share Posted March 14, 2008 I've done it when i wanted the person to understand we couldnt be more than friends. This was some time after the break up though Link to comment
pryda Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 I think lying outright probably isn't a good thing nor is it gonna get you anywhere. If you want to go down that route, I'd suggest hinting at it rather than telling them crystal clear in an attempt to make them jealous. I played that card with my ex over the Christmas period and it did kinda work. She asked me if I was seeing anyone or had been seeing anyone since the break-up and I just told her "not really, nothing serious". She then followed up with "so that's a yes then?" and I simply said "I don't think either of us wants to have this conversation" and it shut her up. With that, I wasn't really lying as such, I was just making her wonder. She spent the rest of the evening kissing me and trying to come back to my place, so I guess it worked - but to be honest, my ex is the kind of girl who is probably easier to manipulate than your average girl. Needless to say, it didn't amount to anything, but it did make me feel somewhat empowered and put me in a better position to initiate NC a few days later. Link to comment
Clementine orange Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Lies by omission. I really don't think it's any of their business. Why play games, if I am seeing on then they will probably find out one way or the other (thanks facebook) Link to comment
bobsiesprincess Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 no hes never asked. and i wouldnt if he did. i do always wish when i see him that i had some hot guy with me to make him wonder. on one very heartbroken and drunken night i kissed a guy i didnt even like cos my ex was in the same club... oh the shame Link to comment
Daria_Lane Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 If an ex were to tell you he's seeing someone and asks you the same and you're not, how would you reply? and no nothing rude like "mind your business" Link to comment
Andy_2007 Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 rather stupidly, yes. when i found out she was with another guy after dumping me, i did lie and say i was dating someone too. childish i know, but i was extremely hurt and upset at the time and wanted to 'get back at her' and show her i didn't need her anymore. never mind, eh? Link to comment
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