Quick advice asap - Should I try calling?..again

Muylinda · 03-09-2008, 05:37 AM

Without getting into the particulars Im upset today wit the guy Ive been seeing. He knows Im cut right now, he knows why and especially the way I was on the phone earlier. But at the time I just couldn't get out what I needed to say. I felt that it was pretty obvious what was upsetting me and that he just didn't want to acknowledge it. So the conversation ended abruptly with me saying Im going, he said see you Tues? I was aloof. He said Let me know.

And of course, immediately off the phone I wanted to call him back and tell him exactly what the problem was and confront him with it. But also hopefully talk it through.

An hour later I give in and I txt him to call me if he's at home. He replies "Drivin". A bit later I say 'Well call me when you do get home? Up to you'. And I haven't heard a word since.

Im completely itching to call him again and have it out with him! What should I do?

amberche · 03-09-2008, 05:47 AM

don't call, go to sleep, tell him why you were pissed tuesday when you can say it in a manner he will understand without either of you being defensive

Nurseman · 03-09-2008, 06:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Muylinda

Im upset today wit the guy Ive been seeing. He knows Im cut right now, he knows why and especially the way I was on the phone earlier. But at the time I just couldn't get out what I needed to say. I felt that it was pretty obvious what was upsetting me and that he just didn't want to acknowledge it.

"Obvious"? We ARE talking about a man here, right? Keep in mind we guys can be totally oblivious to something a woman will think is blaringly obvious.

Buy don't call him. He'll call.

knowinggirl · 03-10-2008, 12:55 AM

To offer an alternative viewpoint, I say go ahead and call him. You alienated him, and he's feeling it. I think you are the one that was aloof and you should be the one to reconcile things between you two. Apologize. Then Tuesday you can enjoy the time you have together instead of working this out. Plus the longer you let him stew about it the longer he may become resentful.

Muylinda · 03-10-2008, 03:33 AM

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Originally Posted by knowinggirl

I think you are the one that was aloof and you should be the one to reconcile things between you two.

Hmmmmmm see I had hoped that by contacting him again yesterday by asking him to call me might have done that trick. I was very much the silent passive aggressive on the phone, expecting him to come up with the goods, which probably didn't help but I was fairly upset.

Believe me Im still itching to call him. But I feel that because he hasn't gotten hold of me yet, it means he doesn't want to talk to me about it?

He's more the laid back type as opposed to the temper type. If his silence means he wants space to think whatever through then wouldn't me calling again just seem a nuisance?

Muylinda · 03-10-2008, 05:42 AM

Right, so I tried calling. Twice in fact. Got no answer.
So much for that idea.

amberche · 03-10-2008, 12:45 PM

Really Glad everything worked out for you!!!!

Muylinda · 03-10-2008, 05:31 PM

Well as it turns out Knowinggirl kinda lived up to her name. He rang me back last night and talked it out. He said I didn't seem to want to talk so he hadn't contacted me to give some space. Issue sorted. Nothing worse than both people sitting back too stubborn to call the other.

ghost69 · 03-11-2008, 03:01 PM

so you freaked for no reason pretty much. glad it all worked out.

03-09-2008, 05:37 AM	#1
Muylinda Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 21	Quick advice asap - Should I try calling?..again Without getting into the particulars Im upset today wit the guy Ive been seeing. He knows Im cut right now, he knows why and especially the way I was on the phone earlier. But at the time I just couldn't get out what I needed to say. I felt that it was pretty obvious what was upsetting me and that he just didn't want to acknowledge it. So the conversation ended abruptly with me saying Im going, he said see you Tues? I was aloof. He said Let me know. And of course, immediately off the phone I wanted to call him back and tell him exactly what the problem was and confront him with it. But also hopefully talk it through. An hour later I give in and I txt him to call me if he's at home. He replies "Drivin". A bit later I say 'Well call me when you do get home? Up to you'. And I haven't heard a word since. Im completely itching to call him again and have it out with him! What should I do?

03-10-2008, 12:45 PM	#7
amberche Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 90	Really Glad everything worked out for you!!!! Last edited by amberche; 03-10-2008 at 11:50 PM.

03-11-2008, 03:01 PM	#9
ghost69 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Desert Gender: Male Posts: 33,434	so you freaked for no reason pretty much. glad it all worked out. __________________ Not only am I friendly, but I'm invisible too. Too perfect of a relationship is too weird-g69 If you say you are normal, I'd think you are weird-g69 The world can only get better, it depends on how you look at it-g69 'As wicked as you are, you're beautiful to me'-5fingerdeathpunch you cannot control the world, you can only live in it the best you can for you-g69 NooOoOoooOOoOoOoooooo

03-09-2008, 05:47 AM	#2
amberche Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 90	don't call, go to sleep, tell him why you were pissed tuesday when you can say it in a manner he will understand without either of you being defensive

03-10-2008, 12:55 AM	#4
knowinggirl Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 4	To offer an alternative viewpoint, I say go ahead and call him. You alienated him, and he's feeling it. I think you are the one that was aloof and you should be the one to reconcile things between you two. Apologize. Then Tuesday you can enjoy the time you have together instead of working this out. Plus the longer you let him stew about it the longer he may become resentful.

03-10-2008, 05:42 AM	#6
Muylinda Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 21	Right, so I tried calling. Twice in fact. Got no answer. So much for that idea.

03-10-2008, 05:31 PM	#8
Muylinda Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 21	Well as it turns out Knowinggirl kinda lived up to her name. He rang me back last night and talked it out. He said I didn't seem to want to talk so he hadn't contacted me to give some space. Issue sorted. Nothing worse than both people sitting back too stubborn to call the other.