Tired of seeing sexy images of women everywhere I look!

Is it just me or is other women really sick of having "sexy" fake women plastered all over the media in movies, magazines, videos etc? It seems like there can't even be a simple advertisement without having sexed up women selling the product, and it's only getting worse as time goes by. We women do our best to look good for our men, but what good does it do when there is always "perfect" computer generated images of anorexic, embellished and made up models at every turn we make constantly reminding of us what society wants us to look like? I get so jealous I could spit fire sometimes. It's no wonder women and young girls are walking around as emotional wrecks anymore. Sometimes it actually causes me to want to be distant from my boyfriend because I know he sees the "eye candy", and there's nothing I can do. He doesn't ogle or make comments in front of me, but it consumes anyway. One example was when we went to see a movie that we both looked forward to seeing. The movie ended up with having many scenes which included scantilly clad women or cleavage at times. How can I get over this? I'm starting to hate who I am and what I look like, when I used to be proud. What do others do to get past it?

I think you're generalizing men a bit. I love looking at Jessica Simpson as much as the next guy, but in all honesty, I'm as attracted too, if not more attracted to real life women. I enjoy looking at the eye candy, but I'd always take the "real" looking women. Also, I think that is not gender biased. I mean, how many cologne commercials have you seen with guys who are RIPPED and have huge six packs, running around with all these women clamoring after them?

Bring In The Sexy Women!!!!!

Throw out the cosmo magazines, stop watching popular TV, ignore the ads you do see, and I guarantee you will feel better about yourself. I cut all of that stuff out now. I only watch national geographic, history channel, travel channel, science shows, animal planet and the news.

This stuff is not going to go away because WE want to look at it. If we didn't, then it wouldn't exist because they wouldn't be making any money from it.

Is it just me or is other women really sick of having "sexy" fake women plastered all over the media in movies, magazines, videos etc? It seems like there can't even be a simple advertisement without having sexed up women selling the product, and it's only getting worse as time goes by.

I can understand where your coming from. I feel exactly the same way at times. Sometimes you want to just switch on the tv and relax without having to encounter semi nudity/nudity every time. Even with a simple advert that cant even be accomplished! Ridiculous. Im not interested in watching naked people. If that were the case, id hire soft porn .

I love the new Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue where the suits are painted on

I don't have a problem with both men and women who look and feel genuinely sexy and confident in real life. It's all the fake ones that you see anymore...which are created by photoshopping and digital technology. People are so ignorant to what's real and what isn't anymore. Most of the time, what you see is not what you get.

I get pretty sick of it sometimes too. Take music videos, for example. There might be female artists that I like listening to, but I am not so keen on their videos for the kind of reason you're talking about. It is too artificial. I think though, you have to think to yourself about how many hours it took them to look like that... chances are, must of us could have a shot at looking if not AS good, nearly as good, if we spent about ten hours a day exercising, doing our hair make-up and getting dressed. I think you may be being a bit hard on men though... sure, some of them might want girls like that, but most guys prefer a real girl, faults and all, not some representation, like those on TV.

You're just feeling the pressure of being 'perfect' and we all know damn well there's no 'perfect'. So what if he sees the eye candies, you distancing yourself is just going to push him out there. Just be on the ball and be yourself, it's not his fault those women are out there ....

This stuff sells and you are not likely to get around it anytime in the foreseeable future so my suggestion is come to terms with yourself before this eats you alive.

Billboards, mag covers, etc with airbrushed beauties do not bother me at all. I know that decent men understand that these women have the benefit of photoshop and airbrushing, and this is their business to look this way. I am not competing with these women because it is not necessary. I am not in the business of modeling, thereforeee, it would be crazy for me to stress about looking like that all the time.

If I went to a photoshoot and hired make up professionals, hair stylists, professional photogs with incredible lighting and then hired someone to touch up those photos and photoshop out any flaws I didn't like I could look like that too. But that is an incredible amount of work for a picture, isn't it (seeing that I am not going to sell them because that is not my profession)?

I would not want that fussy world those models lead for nothing. Be careful what you wish for. I like to eat a meal at least once a week that includes a big ole steak, a sloppy loaded baked potato and bread with lots of real butter. I don't want to stress that this week i gained a lb and i have to starve to get rid of it. I don't want to wake up at 6am and have a team of professionals hanging all over me getting me ready for the next photo shoot....or having to wear that bikini and thinking WOW where did THAT new cellulite come from..>! Be careful what you covet. Those women seem to lead a glamorous life but i bet they are so competitive inside and stressed out that they probably don't have a lot of truly enjoyable moments in life.

You're just feeling the pressure of being 'perfect' and we all know damn well there's no 'perfect'. So what if he sees the eye candies, you distancing yourself is just going to push him out there. Just be on the ball and be yourself, it's not his fault those women are out there ....

There arent women like that out there like that though are there? They are all perfect, airbrushed, false representations of how you SHOULD look. Yet, you cannot look like that. I think its very bad in todays society. With increasing weight issues with younger and old people. This is what causes it, scantily clad, perfect women who you cannot look like. They make perfectly attractive and beautiful women (all women are beautiful to someone) Feel insecure and not beautiful. My god I was watching Smallville and the actress that plays Lana Lang makes me feel like a troll!!!

I always think, at the end of the day, there are always going to be people that think your beautiful and people that think you arent. Do all these rich beautiful people have true love and good relationships? Not really! Do they know the value of life and real appearances? I mean, you could be Angelina Jolie and theres still going to be people that think your ugly!

Most people do not drive a brand new mercedes either, but i don't get pi$$ed over seeing the commercials all the time and compare that mercedes to my four year old jeep.

And Ford isn't going to put a 1992 Ford taurus on a ford commercial to sell their new cars.

I agree with this, but an image of a car isnt going to make someone anorexic or hate how they look.

I agree with this, but an image of a car isnt going to make someone anorexic or hate how they look.

Actually "status anxiety" is becoming a massive social problem for both MEN and women. However Men seem to be more affected by it.

It can and does cause all sorts of behavioural and attitude problems in people. Dissatisfaction and misery with many facets of their lives including, family, work and "friends"

Actually "status anxiety" is becoming a massive social problem for both MEN and women. However Men seem to be more affected by it.

 

It can and does cause all sorts of behavioural and attitude problems in people. Dissatisfaction and misery with many facets of their lives including, family, work and "friends"

Yes Im merely saying that Image problems are more likely to arise due to the amount of adverts etc. I understand that nearly ALL adverts could cause jealousy issues and dissatisfaction. But with all this size 0 and pressure to look good I feel like going mad! Im size 6 and some people STILL call me curvy or say ' I wouldnt say you were thin' Its ridiculous! I know its not just images its society. And its not all being jealous, its being conditioned to look a certain way and when you cant you feel like you have failed and it causes all sorts of problems.

I agree with this, but an image of a car isnt going to make someone anorexic or hate how they look.

You don't think it can affect men? You don't think a man who is insecure driving an old Gremlin doesn't become affected by seeing a ripped guy in some great threads driving a new lexus on these commercials and this guy gets all the great girls beacuse of this?

Try realizing the world has two genders in it. Guys get affected by stuff too. Society makes it hard on the ones who are not ripped or have status like a great car, job and pad.

I think some women think that they are the only ones who are affected by things like this. The world is tough on everybody, to include the men that women are dating who have such high standards set upon them by their girl. As a general rule of thumb i think most men are easier on women for the things they look at and do then women are them. I have yet to read many threads where a guy is upset over his girl looking at orlando bloom on the net.

You don't think it can affect men? You don't think a man who is insecure driving an old Gremlin doesn't become affected by seeing a ripped guy in some great threads driving a new lexus on these commercials and this guy gets all the great girls beacuse of this?

 

Try realizing the world has two genders in it. Guys get affected by stuff too. Society makes it hard on the ones who are not ripped or have status like a great car, job and pad.

I do agree with JS and the OP in general. However it is something that we need to look at with a grain of salt.

I also do feel some sort of pressure sometimes that i MUST look like that guy on the cover of mens health. I need to be fit, strong, muscular and successful.

But then i simply have a beer, light a cigarette and think to myself, i really gotta sell that gym set i never use.

In this example it was woman asking for advice so I gave my opinion. I ACTUALLY know a man whose anorexic due to bullying and image problems so I understand its not just women who are affected. I was just saying that in my opinion I think people are more affected by images of people and trying to look like that.

To be honest Its about ho you look, which isnt a material thing. Your stuck with how you look nless you have plastic surgery when you COULD possibly oneday achieve that car you cant achieve looking like those people. Its the unattainable goal.

I do agree with JS and the OP in general. However it is something that we need to look at with a grain of salt.

 

I also do feel some sort of pressure sometimes that i MUST look like that guy on the cover of mens health. I need to be fit, strong, muscular and successful.

 

But then i simply have a beer, light a cigarette and think to myself, i really gotta sell that gym set i never use.

Most men simply don't stress about this stuff like women do.

Of course some do, as evidenced by the threads we see here on this forum alone. And for the ones who stress i think they actually make themselves SICKER about it than the women do.

NGL you are a hoot (sell that gym set you are yet to use ROFLMAO).

And Im very aware there are two genders in this world.

And Im very aware there are two genders in this world.

I was being facetious.....just illustrating that I think we sometimes forget that men stress too, just over different things.

I can imagine a guy who is really strapped for dollars who doesn't like the way he looks can get pretty depressed seeing all of these commercials that tout the guy who has the bling gets the chicks.

Honestly...I don't get bothered. I realize very well how much airbrushing, photoshopping or surgery goes into those looks...and I have no desire to look like that - I have never found it very attractive at all. Some very beautiful women are natural....but guarantee they still have flaws they are self-conscious.

The men I know seem to also realize this & appreciate "real" women.

There is a joke out there "show me the most beautiful women in the world, and I will show you at least one guy bored of her". Being beautiful is not just about having the "perfect body".

I am not perfect by any means, but I am strong, intelligent and I think I am attractive. I am also far from the model look...petite, red haired, very pale skin, freckles, athletic & I definitely can't be a "walking coat rack" with my boobs. Does that mean I appeal to "everyone"? No. Do I care that I don't appeal to everyone? Nope. I have flaws that are "me", and I have physical qualities that I like that are "me"....but most of all I like who I am as a complete person and would not change being me to be any model in the world.

Even as a former anorexic I can tell you my anorexia had nothing to do with "other women" or models or movie stars or trying to be "like them". I am not doubting some girls do turn to anorexia or other ED's to emulate them, but in most cases the disease is far far deeper than wanting to look like someone else.

This thread made me think of an email I received yesterday. Some things I always try to keep in mind.

A POEM ABOUT OUR GIRLFRIENDS

Someone will always be prettier.

Someone will always be skinnier.

Someone will always be smarter.

Some of their houses will be bigger.

Some will drive a better car.

Their children will do better in school.

And their husband will fix more things around the house..

So let it go, and love you and your circumstances.

Think about it!

The prettiest woman in the world can have hell in her heart.

And the most highly favored woman on your job may be unable to have children.

And the richest woman you know, she's got the car, the house, the clothes~~~~ might be lonely.

And the word says, 'If I have not Love, I am nothing.'

So, again, love you.

Love who you are.

Look in the mirror in the morning and smile and say,

'I am too Blessed to be Stressed and too Anointed, to be Disappointed!'

I used to buy the magazines and check out the advertisements often as a dieting tool. It gave me the motivation to not eat that extra serving at dinner, etc. It got out of control. So I trained myself to pay the advertisements no attention. We are normal people. We are not airbrushed, we are not perfect. They aren't perfect either.

One thing - I hate that this sexy image is sold and everywhere! I understand why you dislike it. My biggest complaint about it is that it does nothing for individual personal images and confidence. I worry about women that already have image problems and low self esteem.

There is a joke out there "show me the most beautiful women in the world, and I will show you at least one guy bored of her".

 

I tell this joke often but my version is a bit raunchier. LOL

 

"Show me a beuatiuful woman and I will show you a guy sick of ******* her".

 

Hope that was not to graphic.

I hear that one too, I just thought this version was more.....to the point of the post...haha.

Thank you to all who have been posting for me. It's helping. I appreciate them, and welcome even more. It's inspiring to hear others, both male and female, are also dealing with this, I welcome more replies. It truly helps.