I could really use some advice. My wife of only 9 months (been together for 5.5 years), just told me that she is absolutely sure she doesn't want to have kids. Her reasons for not wanting them are the lifestyle change and not wanting to give up her "freedom" in exchange for the big responsibility that children bring. I, on the other hand, DO want kids and have always wanted kids. She has always told me that she wasn't sure if she wanted kids, but as time went on I felt like she was leaning more towards having kids at some point. And then BAM! 2 days ago she tells me that she's been thinking about it more (since we have many friends who are pregnant or having kids), and she has decided she doesn't want them. She is 25 and I am 31.
So now I am completely torn and heartbroken. I love her to death and truly feel that we are perfect for each other (besides this disagreement with children). I can't imagine my life without her. And I know she loves me to pieces as well. I am afraid that I will start resenting her as time goes on, especially when I see my friends with their kids. This is all I think about (given it just happened 2 days ago), and it really scares me because I don't know what to do. We have talked about seeing a counselor, and probably will soon. I'm afraid the counselor will say we should get a divorce, because that is not what I want at all. We have 2 dogs now, and she is so great at taking care of them. She has even said she would be willing to get more dogs!!! (sigh). What do I do???