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    How Long Does the 'Honeymoon Stage' of a Relationship Last?

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    What is the honeymoon stage of a relationship?...How long does it last?...and What happens after?

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    I think the honeymoon stages of a relationship last for a few weeks to a few months.

    Afterwards is the "make it or break it" point of a relationship for people start to really exhibit their true personality as the relationship moves into a more comfortable stage.

    Those who are just out for the newness and thrills of meeting someone, usually jump ship at this time.

    The honeymoon stage of a relationship is when everything is new and exhilarating and everything about your SO is dear to you, including their idiosyncracies and foibles. After the honeymoon stage, the idiosyncracies start to bother you and you and your SO actually have to work at seeing whether this relationship is for the long term.

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    It's when you're in the very beginning stages of a relationship. You are blind to the other person's flaws and absolutely adore every moment with them. You can't get enough of each other. You are always happy and totally enamored with the other person. Unfortunately, it doesn't last very long (maybe 2-6 months, give or take). Reality sets in and the rose-colored glasses come off. What happens after the honeymoon stage depends upon whether the relationship is meant to go the distance or not. It depends on your compatibility once you see each other for who you really are, and whether or not both people can deal with their partner and the everyday humdrum stuff that goes along with a mature relationship. It will either (a) crash and burn or (b) move forward into something better.

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    In my experience the honeymoon phase typically lasts a year to 18 months, and is when you tend to be more infatuated with one another and unable to see fault in each other. Around 2 years is when the relationship starts to settle into an honest, long term deep relationship where it takes more of an effort to keep things going, passion tends to slow a bit and you grow more comfortable with each other, develop a real companionship, you've been through some tough times together and know if you have what it takes as a team to make it stick.

    Of course this isn't the same for everyone but it's what I've observed in my own relationships and in those around me.
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    i have realized the honeymoon period lasts as long as you remain in a fantasy land and not in real life. its when situations arise where the two of you need to work things out , then you start finding the negatives in your partner. its the bad times which make you realize more about your partner and their ability to work at things and how they are in in them.

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    According to study, "love" is really a chemical reaction in a person's brain. This chemical reaction is very much like a drug to the human body. It makes us relaxed and makes us feel good. However, after a certain period, we become immune to the reaction, and have to find a "new person" in order to have a new reaction.

    On average, the length before a person becomes immune is 18 months, according to some study (the following link gives more information, but it's not where I learned the study from.):
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/liv...9&in_a_source=
    http://www.dimaggio.org/Eye-Openers/what_is_love.htm


    ... on an unrelated note, the reason behind why humans kiss, is because that kiss is how we determine genetic compatibility. In the instance saliva's exchanged, we're supposed to be able to naturally analyze if the person is a possible candidate with whom to produce the next generation:
    http://www.sciam.com/article.cfm?id=...iss&print=true
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    Quote Originally Posted by Shiranai View Post
    According to study, "love" is really a chemical reaction in a person's brain. This chemical reaction is very much like a drug to the human body. It makes us relaxed and makes us feel good. However, after a certain period, we become immune to the reaction, and have to find a "new person" in order to have a new reaction.

    On average, the length before a person becomes immune is 18 months, according to some study (the following link gives more information, but it's not where I learned the study from.):
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/liv...9&in_a_source=
    http://www.dimaggio.org/Eye-Openers/what_is_love.htm


    ... on an unrelated note, the reason behind why humans kiss, is because that kiss is how we determine genetic compatibility. In the instance saliva's exchanged, we're supposed to be able to naturally analyze if the person is a possible candidate with whom to produce the next generation:
    http://www.sciam.com/article.cfm?id=...iss&print=true
    I recently read a similar article in National Geographic called 'Love: The Chemical Reaction'... and it essentially said the brain produces dopamine (the feel good hormone) during the initial phases of a relationship, known as the honeymoon phase, and this is not sufficient to sustain a long term relationship. In short "dopamine creates intense energy, exhilaration, focused attention, and motivation to win rewards." (National Geographic, 2/06 pp. 34) MRI's have shown that a specific part of the brain is activated when the honeymoon phase occurs- the ventral tegmental area and the caudate nucleus. (NG pp 35).

    The brains of couples in longer term relationships showed different sections of the brain activated and different neurotransmitters. Oxytocin was the neurotransmitter activated following the decrease of dopamine, and actually fostered the long term attachment that couples who stay in monogamous relationships together have. It is also true that making love with your long term partner stimulates the production of more oxytocin, furthering the connection and bond between long term partners.

    Studies have shown that couples who fail after the honeymoon phase ends have not been able to produce enough oxytocin in response to one another, and thus lack those feelings of bonding that lead to long term relationships. (NG, 2/06 pp. 4

    Interesting stuff.
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    I also vote for 18 months. It's what my friends and I have observed.

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    On an interesting side note- oxytocin is also released when a mother breastfeeds her infant, and contributes to bonding between mother an infant, which is a long term attachment as well.
    Mama to a beautiful baby girl born 6-25-09. :) AND a beautiful baby boy born 6-14-11. :)

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    "Victory is sweetest when you have known defeat"
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    18 months!? Sheeesh...none of my relationships have EVER made it that far

    I think length of the honeymoon stage totally depends on the couple. For my relationships it was nowhere near eighteen months.

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