Everyone I regret not calling the goofy girl back, i think I made a mistake

ConfusedDater · 02-05-2008, 09:38 AM

I was only talking to 2 women at the time and I had been out with the girl who was a little silly 3 times and then decided to not call her anymore so I can focus my attention on the other girl which didn't work out at all. But I think it was dumb of me to not call her anymore when I wasn't talking to that many females. The last i heard from her was the end of december when she asked-"why didn't you call me to say Merry Christmas?" So I screwed up again, knowing that i can't meet women in public, knowing how hard it is to meet a cute female who is also attracted to me and I just eliminate someone completely like I had so much going on. Now I'm back to zero girls again on the hunt all because of MY foolishness not to talk to as many girls as possible. I was in no position to eliminate anyone and can't believe I'm back at a number I hated being at, the number 0. I'm so annoyed with myself

tylercdurden2004 · 02-05-2008, 09:42 AM

Whoa whoa whoa dude.

What do you want?

It sounds like you wish you called this girl strictly because the others didnt work out.

Not a good reason to date or be with someone.

So.......what do you want?

Censored · 02-05-2008, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by tylercdurden2004

Whoa whoa whoa dude.

What do you want?

It sounds like you wish you called this girl strictly because the others didnt work out.

Not a good reason to date or be with someone.

So.......what do you want?

I was about to post the same thing.

ConfusedDater · 02-05-2008, 09:50 AM

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Originally Posted by tylercdurden2004

Whoa whoa whoa dude.

What do you want?

It sounds like you wish you called this girl strictly because the others didnt work out.

Not a good reason to date or be with someone.

So.......what do you want?

well my ego has taken a beating over the last 4 years and I think it would have been smart of me to stay in contact with her and see how tthings play out because I would have been more comfortable going out on dates. Now that I'm back at 0, I will be Mr. Shaky again when I go on my next date because I 'm currently talking to no one.

3 things I have to remember for the remainder of the year

1.There are a lot of men in the city of phila
2.Knowing that I can only meet women online makes me unqualified to eliminate anyone after 3 dates
3.Don't be so quick to judge someone I only being know for 2 weeks

Sunshine75 · 02-05-2008, 10:02 AM

"I think it would have been smart of me to stay in contact with her and see how tthings play out because I would have been more comfortable going out on dates. Now that I'm back at 0, I will be Mr. Shaky again when I go on my next date because I 'm currently talking to no one."

So you wish you stayed in contact with her for dating practice?

tylercdurden2004 · 02-05-2008, 10:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ConfusedDater

well my ego has taken a beating over the last 4 years and I think it would have been smart of me to stay in contact with her and see how tthings play out because I would have been more comfortable going out on dates. Now that I'm back at 0, I will be Mr. Shaky again when I go on my next date because I 'm currently talking to no one.

3 things I have to remember for the remainder of the year

1.There are a lot of men in the city of phila
2.Knowing that I can only meet women online makes me unqualified to eliminate anyone after 3 dates
3.Don't be so quick to judge someone I only being know for 2 weeks

will add more later.

But for the meantime you need to get to that place where regardless if you are talking/dating to a woman it has little bearing on your confidence. Of course it always helps. But its letting go of your attachment to outcomes. IE I am worthy if I am dating someone.

ghost69 · 02-05-2008, 10:12 AM

you could have still continued with the silly girl and started to see the other girl. you aren't exclusive with anybody yet. slow down.

ConfusedDater · 02-05-2008, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Sunshine75

"I think it would have been smart of me to stay in contact with her and see how tthings play out because I would have been more comfortable going out on dates. Now that I'm back at 0, I will be Mr. Shaky again when I go on my next date because I 'm currently talking to no one."

So you wish you stayed in contact with her for dating practice?

isn't it important for a guy to be confident around women?

ConfusedDater · 02-05-2008, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by tylercdurden2004

will add more later.

But for the meantime you need to get to that place where regardless if you are talking/dating to a woman it has little bearing on your confidence. Of course it always helps. But its letting go of your attachment to outcomes. IE I am worthy if I am dating someone.

If I'm talking to 2 women already and I'm going out on a date, it would be no reason for me to be nervous because it the date didn;t go well I'm still talking to 2 other women. see the difference? Like going on a job interview when you are already working is a lot different than when you have NO JOB at all

ghost69 · 02-05-2008, 10:29 AM

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Originally Posted by ConfusedDater

isn't it important for a guy to be confident around women?

absolutely. but too much is a turn off.

02-05-2008, 09:38 AM	#1
ConfusedDater Offline Gold Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 4,635	Everyone I regret not calling the goofy girl back, i think I made a mistake I was only talking to 2 women at the time and I had been out with the girl who was a little silly 3 times and then decided to not call her anymore so I can focus my attention on the other girl which didn't work out at all. But I think it was dumb of me to not call her anymore when I wasn't talking to that many females. The last i heard from her was the end of december when she asked-"why didn't you call me to say Merry Christmas?" So I screwed up again, knowing that i can't meet women in public, knowing how hard it is to meet a cute female who is also attracted to me and I just eliminate someone completely like I had so much going on. Now I'm back to zero girls again on the hunt all because of MY foolishness not to talk to as many girls as possible. I was in no position to eliminate anyone and can't believe I'm back at a number I hated being at, the number 0. I'm so annoyed with myself

02-05-2008, 09:42 AM	#2
tylercdurden2004 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Middle East Gender: Male Age: 33 Posts: 3,696	Whoa whoa whoa dude. What do you want? It sounds like you wish you called this girl strictly because the others didnt work out. Not a good reason to date or be with someone. So.......what do you want? __________________ "Depend Upon it, Sir, when a man knows he is to be hanged in a fortnight, it concentrates his mind wonderfully." - Samuel Johnson "A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds" - Ralph Waldo Emerson Avatar: Whale Skin Hubcaps Dealer. Nice guys: www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=136757&highlight=horsey

02-05-2008, 10:12 AM	#7
ghost69 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Desert Gender: Male Posts: 33,424	you could have still continued with the silly girl and started to see the other girl. you aren't exclusive with anybody yet. slow down. __________________ Not only am I friendly, but I'm invisible too. Too perfect of a relationship is too weird-g69 If you say you are normal, I'd think you are weird-g69 The world can only get better, it depends on how you look at it-g69 'As wicked as you are, you're beautiful to me'-5fingerdeathpunch you cannot control the world, you can only live in it the best you can for you-g69 NooOoOoooOOoOoOoooooo

02-05-2008, 10:02 AM	#5
Sunshine75 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 188	"I think it would have been smart of me to stay in contact with her and see how tthings play out because I would have been more comfortable going out on dates. Now that I'm back at 0, I will be Mr. Shaky again when I go on my next date because I 'm currently talking to no one." So you wish you stayed in contact with her for dating practice?