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    Question Can't eat...can't sleep..is it love?

    The title says it all....Met someone just last week.....and we've hung out everday since....I can't eat, or sleep....can't concentrate at work...we've been emailing and texting throughout the day....is it love?? Throughout my 26 yrs of existence, and 3 failed relationships....I have NEVER felt this way before??!!! I now know the true meaning of all those corny phrases, "weak in the knees", "love at first sight", "felt it in my toes" etc....could it be L-o-v-e??
    ~Sorrow looks back, worry looks around, faith looks up~

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    I think a little more info, because I really don't believe in love at first sight... but I am always open for examples!!

    What do you think attracts you SO much to him?
    How did you meet? Have you known each other for awhile?
    As far hanging out, what are you guys doing?

    Just a couple of questions to see how you two have blossomed so fast....

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    That sounds like excitement to me . ..

    The excitement of something new not nessacarily love.

    I believe that love takes time, but that is just me of course.
    Last edited by barbielovesmac; 01-29-2008 at 02:19 PM.

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    You will know whether it is true love after you have known this person for at least 6 to 9 months and dated him at least once a week or so. Right now it sounds like you are having loving feelings or infatuation based on who you think this person is and based on enjoying the feelings more than the actual person. I would suggest slowing things down so that you get to know him over time rather than "we talked every day for a week so it's like I've known him forever" You haven't. You've known one of your pairs of socks for far longer.

    You have yet to see what he's like when he's: sick, happy about a work project, annoyed with his boss or his mother or best friend, annoyed with you, stressed, cranky (more than once!), engrossed in one of his hobbies, out with his friends, how he treats you in front of his parents, friends, colleagues, the waiter, the busdriver, etc.

    Anyone can seem perfect after a week. It could be love but if it is -what's the rush in knowing that?

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    sounds more like infatuation. you might be in love with your idea of who he might be, but truthfully you don't know him, and therefore can't be in love with who he truly is.

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    Sounds like infatuation to me! But that's necessary when you've just met someone - it makes you want to spend all your time with them. It sounds like it certainly could lead to love...
    "Don't jump FROM something; jump TO something."

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    Sounds like excitement and "being in LIKE" to me.
    Love is when you want to be with them and no other and would do anything for them.. Just a really deep feeling. I doubt it's possible to feel so strong for someone you met 1 week ago ( call me a realist.)
    It could turn into love though.
    You're just too good to be true... Can't take my eyes off of you...

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    Batya --that was funny...and true! Thanks for the quick responses...trust and believe, I am one of the most super cautious and leery ppl I know....which makes this even more NUTS to me!

    If a friend would be telling me this situation, I would tell her to pump her brakes ASAP...not saying that feeling those feelings so soon is a bad thing, but just to be extra sure, regardless...

    I agree with what everyone is saying....and I completely agree....but I feel like I'm on some kind of high or something...weird.

    Nope, haven't known him before...met on a site..exchanged emails for a couple of weeks, moved to the phone, had a couple of chats, met up last week, and have been seeing each other everyday since...its absolutely incredible, and so scary and dangerous at the same time......thanks for the reality check...This past year has been one of the toughest I've faced in my life....and within the last couple of months, everything has been turning around for me...with my career, schooling(2 A's this semester in my grad program) family, etc...could it be love too? Either way, I'm going to enjoy the ride while it lasts, even if it does lead to.. Tommorrow is never promised right..?
    ~Sorrow looks back, worry looks around, faith looks up~

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    Wow.. well happy to hear how well everything else is going in your life.
    I say give it time. Yea sometimes we need people to snap us back to reality just a bit lol. You known him a week. Still got alot to find out about him..
    Still. Good luck and enjoy the ride, excitement, and joy of getting to know him..
    You're just too good to be true... Can't take my eyes off of you...

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    Quote Originally Posted by JeckyllNHyde View Post
    Wow.. well happy to hear how well everything else is going in your life.
    I say give it time. Yea sometimes we need people to snap us back to reality just a bit lol. You known him a week. Still got alot to find out about him..
    Still. Good luck and enjoy the ride, excitement, and joy of getting to know him..
    Thanks Jeck I was never really the hopeless romantic type...but I'm as giddy as schoolgirl again...YIKES..LOL
    ~Sorrow looks back, worry looks around, faith looks up~

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