Astrology, signs of the Zodiac. Do they have a say in how a relationship turns out?

asdf-u · 01-26-2008, 12:15 PM

I want everyone to at least give me your opinion. I've been reading into Astrology and the signs of the zodiac and I keep coming across how this sign is most compatable with another sign or how this sign is incompatable with another. Or that these signs can have a good relationship if they work with their differences. I'm wondering what you all think. Does the zodiak sign that you're born under have a say in your relationship with someone of the same or different zodiak sign? And why/why not?

I personally am stuck on the border, I look at it from both view points. I'm a cancerian. I have had relationships with a few girls that are born under signs that (what astrology says) would be compatable and girls with signs that are incompatable with the Cancer sign. Some have worked out great and others have turned out horrible, all have eventually ended.

toshiba · 01-26-2008, 12:34 PM

Anyone who bases their relationships on zodiac signs, is not ready for a relationship. This is like basing relationships on tarot cards.

renaissancewoman101 · 01-26-2008, 12:40 PM

I like to read the horoscopes for fun.

Doesn't mean I use it to chart my relationships.

Believe in yourself, for you control your destiny.

moreloveinside · 01-26-2008, 12:50 PM

The zodiac DOES give some clues as to the primary needs of each sign and their love style.

By understanding that person's basic priorities and outlook you can become more considerate and thereby get better results.

Here is a very simple rule of thumb to figure out the love style of a person and what to expect in a relationship with that individual.

Take note of the numerical order of the signs:

1. Aries
2. Taurus
3. Gemini
4. Cancer
5. Leo
6. Virgo
7. Libra
8. Scorpio
9. Sagittarius
10. Capricorn
11. Aquarius
12. Pisces

The odd numbered signs are essentially MALE in their orientation to life.
The even numbered signs are essentially FEMALE in their approach.

This means that the male approach is to MAKE things happen. The female orientation is to LET things happen.

One is the giver and the other the receiver.

If you have two of the same orientation you have stability.
With two opposites you have energy dynamics.

However even with two friends of the same sex, one typically falls into the leader role and the other falls into the follower mode. Doesn't matter if it's men or women.

The male oriented role is expected to PROVIDE more of the raw energy into the relationship. The female half RECEIVES and transforms this energy, multiplies it and then gives it back. The man or the woman can take on either role.

This is in the ideal universe. Relationship troubles happen when either the male or female
acts in bad faith. The male may not provide much energy beyond his initial bid for attachment. The female may not in fact circulate her energy back to the male, but rather to someone else. This can devastate the person who is in the provider role.

Often the provider of energy, feels the need to go out and supplement his or her energy from other sources than just relying on the receiving partner for circulation.

This is the root of the urge to cheat at an energetic level.

Even the receiving party needs to have their energy traded out into the collective energy of society, in order to feel refreshed occasionally. In many couples the woman (in leader role) supplements her energy from her children and career interactions. The male may supplement his energy from association with other males, and from his career.

The key to attraction and stability is understanding which roles come naturally to you and what types are a comfortable, working complement to that role.

It is necessary to develop self awareness by paying attention to your FEELINGS. A good feeling usually means that someone is ADDING to your energy. A bad feeling means that your energy is being pulled, or that you are blocking your flow somehow.

Early in childhood, many kids are put into an unnatural relationship with their parents, where the child is forced to take on certain grown up roles to keep their world from falling apart. This leads to a lifelong habit of putting ones own needs and self maintenance on the back burner.

Every time you subjugate one of your legitimate instinctual needs in favor of supporting another, you create an internal blockage to your flow.

This leads to low energy, depression, and DEPENDENCY on another to provide energy that you could be providing for your self. This co dependency is the root of abuse in relationships.

The process of change begins with creating an independent self identity based on your own values, needs, and design.

saturnnalia · 01-26-2008, 12:51 PM

i just had to post a reply when i saw this topic!

my best friend is OBSESSED with all things related to astrology, a true believer in the zodiac, she has been called Miss Cleo on occasion. lol. anyways, the first thing she ever asks when she meets someone is what is their sign. and from that moment on she would "know" the outcome of their relationship. i am not saying that the information they give is not true, when i read the description a cancer, it really seems to fit my personality, but honestly, i think to rely on that alone is RIDICULOUS.

because she had these preconceived notions coming into the relationships, she made them a reality, self-fulfilling prophecy, you know? well now she has finally met a man that doesn't know his real birth date (long story) and she is now coming to the realization that maybe it doesn't really matter after all . . . but i know in the back of her mind she wishes she knew lol because she used it as an excuse.

oh well , i don't know if i really helped you lol but i just wanted to share that!

toshiba · 01-26-2008, 12:54 PM

But then "Leap Year" comes along and screws it all up.......

Do you REALLY think that things can be based upon a Julian calendar?

And if Jesus didn't even know he was a Capricorn, how could he have made a wise choice picking Mary? This throws all of theology into a crapshoot. I'm disillusioned now...

JadedStar · 01-26-2008, 12:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by moreloveinside

The zodiac DOES give some clues as to the primary needs of each sign and their love style.

By understanding that person's basic priorities and outlook you can become more considerate and thereby get better results.

Here is a very simple rule of thumb to figure out the love style of a person and what to expect in a relationship with that individual.

Take note of the numerical order of the signs:

1. Aries
2. Taurus
3. Gemini
4. Cancer
5. Leo
6. Virgo
7. Libra
8. Scorpio
9. Sagittarius
10. Capricorn
11. Aquarius
12. Pisces

The odd numbered signs are essentially MALE in their orientation to life.
The even numbered signs are essentially FEMALE in their approach.

This means that the male approach is to MAKE things happen. The female orientation is to LET things happen.

One is the giver and the other the receiver.

If you have two of the same orientation you have stability.
With two opposites you have energy dynamics.

However even with two friends of the same sex, one typically falls into the leader role and the other falls into the follower mode. Doesn't matter if it's men or women.

The male oriented role is expected to PROVIDE more of the raw energy into the relationship. The female half RECEIVES and transforms this energy, multiplies it and then gives it back. The man or the woman can take on either role.

This is in the ideal universe. Relationship troubles happen when either the male or female
acts in bad faith. The male may not provide much energy beyond his initial bid for attachment. The female may not in fact circulate her energy back to the male, but rather to someone else. This can devastate the person who is in the provider role.

Often the provider of energy, feels the need to go out and supplement his or her energy from other sources than just relying on the receiving partner for circulation.

This is the root of the urge to cheat at an energetic level.

Even the receiving party needs to have their energy traded out into the collective energy of society, in order to feel refreshed occasionally. In many couples the woman (in leader role) supplements her energy from her children and career interactions. The male may supplement his energy from association with other males, and from his career.

The key to attraction and stability is understanding which roles come naturally to you and what types are a comfortable, working complement to that role.

It is necessary to develop self awareness by paying attention to your FEELINGS. A good feeling usually means that someone is ADDING to your energy. A bad feeling means that your energy is being pulled, or that you are blocking your flow somehow.

Early in childhood, many kids are put into an unnatural relationship with their parents, where the child is forced to take on certain grown up roles to keep their world from falling apart. This leads to a lifelong habit of putting ones own needs and self maintenance on the back burner.

Every time you subjugate one of your legitimate instinctual needs in favor of supporting another, you create an internal blockage to your flow.

This leads to low energy, depression, and DEPENDENCY on another to provide energy that you could be providing for your self. This co dependency is the root of abuse in relationships.

The process of change begins with creating an independent self identity based on your own values, needs, and design.

The sun sign only one part of the entire astrological chart.

Every influence you state above can be influenced by many external events - to include how one was raised, the birth order, relationships with other people....it is NOT just based on that sun sign.