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    Unhappy Would it be safe to cum in my girls ass ?

    Ummm.. ok dont know how to ask dis... So, me and my girlfriend have a healthy relationship for the past 1 year. Our sex life has also been great. But recently she has been wanting to try anal. Actually, let me be more elaborate .. she wants me to cum in her ass.

    Now dis is where I really am not sure if it is safe cos i hv heard all abt stds and stuff and I dont want to do anythin that can cause her any kinda harm. Maybe its just a taboo aspect(the fact dat i wont b using a condom) in my head thats perhaps worrying me ... i really am lost n confused on this !

    Can anyone please advice me on this ?
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    I can't speak from experince, because this act totally doesn't interest me.

    I really don't think it could be safe, not from an STD point of view (which would also be a concern) but from the fact is she wants you to cum in her, that means you'd be putting your unprotected member into an area that has a lot of bacteria that could get, umm, well shoved up your urethra and cause some problems. Bacteria from your digestive tract is good where it's at, but causes infectons when it gets in areas it shouldn't be. That's why females get urinary tract infections from wiping back to front, instead of front to back.

    I know the porno's do it, but I wouldn't look to those as the gold standard of cleanliness.

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    It's unsafe to be having unprotected sex with her no matter what whether you cum in her or not.
    Obviously judging by what you said, you have already been sexually active together so if STD's were a concern you have already been exposed unless you have been using condoms (even then there are a few STD/STI's that condoms won't fully protect against)
    Have you both been tested for STD's?

    and besides the STD factor, there is so much bacteria lingering in that area that you are running a risk even just having anal sex without a condom in general.

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    Essentially, this is a medical question. I'm pretty sure this would spread an STD assuming either of you have one. Failing that, spread of bacteria could lead to infection in either of you. Personally, I don't think there's a great risk if you don't do it all the time, but that's just my opinion.....

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    a zlillion spermies lol

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    Firstly i recommened that you get tested for all the STDS. You can get them from having anal sex too. Aids, for many years was largely associated with homosexuals.

    Also, speaking from experience for a woman having cum in their ass is unpleasant. Its nice at the time though....just afterwards....Its worth a try though.

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    dan39 - be very careful with that thought of 'if you only do it once in awhile'. There is risk from the very first time and it doesn't matter the duration or frequency.

    Just like having unprotected vaginal sex - if you only do it once in awhile, sure your risk of std's or pregnancy are not as great - but should one take that 'chance'?

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    Yea I'd like to make it clear, it's NEVER a good idea only doing it 'once in a while' if you unsure whether or not either of you has an STD. I was referring to the risk of bacterial infection. Still, it's still probably not a good idea to risk it for this reason either.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mythical_Suicide View Post
    It's unsafe to be having unprotected sex with her no matter what whether you cum in her or not.
    Obviously judging by what you said, you have already been sexually active together so if STD's were a concern you have already been exposed unless you have been using condoms (even then there are a few STD/STI's that condoms won't fully protect against)
    Have you both been tested for STD's?

    and besides the STD factor, there is so much bacteria lingering in that area that you are running a risk even just having anal sex without a condom in general.
    oh yes.. both of us are clean .. meanin no diseases or infections !
    Still if she is strongly urging me to do it wat shud i do ? I hv already had a talk wit her on this ... dat we need to be very very careful "if" we are gonna even goin to do this .... and dat i need some time to think on this...
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