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    After a while of "doing it yourself", I think you get used to how you do it and any other way doesn't seem as good.

    I guess there is two suggestions.

    1) stop doing it youself. I know that sucks but, maybe that will make you more sensitive or needy for it after awhile

    2) as someone else said, help you boy out by doing some of it yourself (aka touch urself down there while he is doing his thing

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    good sex music and fantasies

    A lot of the sensitivity and ability to reach orgasm for women comes from the mind-body connection. Orgasms are much easier for me if I have watched or am watching porn during sex and then fantasizing about those scenes. Fantasies are awesome but they have to be varied and fresh. And, I have found recently that certain songs, "sex music", can instantly flip the switch- going from okay, this is fun, to full throttle TILT!

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    Since you can give yourself an orgasm, try doing things in stages. First, masturbate yourself to orgasm while he is there, jut the way you do when he isn't. This will get you used to having him there for your orgasm and will also let him see what stimulation gets you there. Then, the next time, begin masturbating yourself to orgasm but as you get close let him take over and see if he can get you there. If that works, the next time begin masturbating but let him take over very soon. Once you can do that, then let him touch you from start to finish.

    If all of this works, then have intercourse and repeat the same stages during intercourse.

  4. 01-03-2013, 07:06 AM

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    sensuality is key

    Hey Hun,
    so I had the same exact problem between my boyfriend of five years and myself. I discovered that making him get sensual and slow was the key. So try this and see if it helps. Put on some nice music, grab three dark colored and long fashion scarfs. For doing this the first time its important you set the precedent. So blind fold him with one scarf, and tie him to the bed with the others. Tell him that you're in control, so no touching no thrusting unless you tell him to. Its all about taking it slow and thinking about nothing but the sensation. The key is that you are on top and in control. You can position everything so its just right so you can feel it. Tell him to completely relax and focus completely on the way it feels, and you have to do the same thing. Find your groove and that special spot. This all helped me out because you're showing him what feels good and its not crazy and wild. The blind fold helps make you focus ( when its your turn to wear it) on nothing but how it feels. For women this is great because you aren't focused on how you look doing various things and are more likely to surrender, and it helps to build sexual suspense. Now if you're not a slow and sensual couple, I recommend his and hers, some foreplay, and then the ultimate combination in the end. It makes you a little more sensitive. Hope this helps a bit.

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