Where to go for Christmas

Tierra · 12-10-2007, 02:19 PM

Me and my boyfriend are at odds about who's family do we go to for christmas. It's a six hour drive to mine and a six hour drive to his, in opposite directions!

I moved in with my boyfriend in October of last year. I went to my parents house for thanksgiving and he went to his family. Then for christmas we drove to his famly and on christmas nite we drove to my family. It was one heck of a haul! We slept at a hotel over nite then finished driving in the morning.

Well it was decided that we should only go to one family's house because it's just too much driving. I want to go to my family for christmas though...

This year I went with him to his family's house for Thanksgiving. Last year I was with his family christmas eve and day. I didn't get to see my family until the day after then we left the next day because my parents had to work.

I kinda feel cheated on family time with my side. He wants to go to his family again because this year it wouldn't be a six hour drive to get there. It would only be a couple hours.

Am I being selfish for wanting to go to my family's house for christmas? I told him he didn't have to come with me, I'd go alone...but he doesn't want to do that.

RayKay · 12-10-2007, 02:34 PM

I think it is only fair you guys trade-off years honestly.

The benefit of dating a Ukrainian - we can do Christmas at my parents and then make the long trek to his parents (they are a few hours away too!) for Ukrainian Christmas!

In the past though I have been able to split it (Eve at one, Day at the other) but it seems only fair to me that you alternate years - or go separately though I know that would bother me too.

Aurian · 12-10-2007, 03:12 PM

Sounds like its fair for you guys to go to your family if you went to Christmas Eve/Day and Thanksgiving with his family.

My bf and I are going separately in our case.

woebegone · 12-10-2007, 06:04 PM

My boyfriend and I are spending Christmas separately so we don't have to decide! Sad but... that's the way it is.

Aurian · 12-10-2007, 07:03 PM

Who's to say you can`t have your own little Christmas celebration on the 23rd or Boxing Day?

woebegone · 12-11-2007, 01:56 AM

Aurian has a good point. We're celebrating our own Christmas on the 27th when we'll be together again.

I think you should spend quality time with your family regardless if he is there or not.

shygirl23 · 12-12-2007, 01:50 AM

Perhaps you two could go separate ways but then plan something else special for just the two of you?

12-10-2007, 02:19 PM	#1
Tierra Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Gender: Female Age: 31 Posts: 9	Where to go for Christmas Me and my boyfriend are at odds about who's family do we go to for christmas. It's a six hour drive to mine and a six hour drive to his, in opposite directions! I moved in with my boyfriend in October of last year. I went to my parents house for thanksgiving and he went to his family. Then for christmas we drove to his famly and on christmas nite we drove to my family. It was one heck of a haul! We slept at a hotel over nite then finished driving in the morning. Well it was decided that we should only go to one family's house because it's just too much driving. I want to go to my family for christmas though... This year I went with him to his family's house for Thanksgiving. Last year I was with his family christmas eve and day. I didn't get to see my family until the day after then we left the next day because my parents had to work. I kinda feel cheated on family time with my side. He wants to go to his family again because this year it wouldn't be a six hour drive to get there. It would only be a couple hours. Am I being selfish for wanting to go to my family's house for christmas? I told him he didn't have to come with me, I'd go alone...but he doesn't want to do that.

12-10-2007, 02:34 PM	#2
RayKay Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Middle of Canada Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 13,270	I think it is only fair you guys trade-off years honestly. The benefit of dating a Ukrainian - we can do Christmas at my parents and then make the long trek to his parents (they are a few hours away too!) for Ukrainian Christmas! In the past though I have been able to split it (Eve at one, Day at the other) but it seems only fair to me that you alternate years - or go separately though I know that would bother me too. __________________ [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=darkolivegreen][B]<--- [COLOR=sienna]Carbun the Super-Bunny[/COLOR][/B][/COLOR][/FONT] [B][FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=#556b2f][/COLOR][/FONT][/B] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=darkolivegreen][B]At the end of the day, how you imprinted on someones life and heart is the only true mark any of us leave on this earth and is what we are most proud of... [/B][/COLOR][/FONT][I][SIZE=1]- My Biggest Hero and Mentor: My Mum.[/SIZE][/I] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=orange][B]Il faut d'abord durer [/B][/COLOR][/FONT][I][SIZE=1]- Ernest Hemingway[/SIZE][/I]

12-10-2007, 03:12 PM	#3
Aurian Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Vancouver, Canada Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 2,364	Sounds like its fair for you guys to go to your family if you went to Christmas Eve/Day and Thanksgiving with his family. My bf and I are going separately in our case. __________________ How to spot a loser and understanding the abused victim: http://www.drjoecarver.com/3/miscellaneous2.htm Excellent articles!

12-10-2007, 07:03 PM	#5
Aurian Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Vancouver, Canada Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 2,364	Who's to say you can`t have your own little Christmas celebration on the 23rd or Boxing Day? __________________ How to spot a loser and understanding the abused victim: http://www.drjoecarver.com/3/miscellaneous2.htm Excellent articles!

12-10-2007, 06:04 PM	#4
woebegone Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Gender: Female Posts: 205	My boyfriend and I are spending Christmas separately so we don't have to decide! Sad but... that's the way it is.

12-11-2007, 01:56 AM	#6
woebegone Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Gender: Female Posts: 205	Aurian has a good point. We're celebrating our own Christmas on the 27th when we'll be together again. I think you should spend quality time with your family regardless if he is there or not.

12-12-2007, 01:50 AM	#7
shygirl23 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: USA Gender: Female Posts: 303	Perhaps you two could go separate ways but then plan something else special for just the two of you?