I'm too nice. . .help me?

that.girl · 12-02-2007, 10:29 PM

SO there is a person I need to rid myself of. I have to be very gentle of her feelings as she is in an emotional state (she has depression) but I do need her out of my life (as posters have reminded me) So can someone help? How can I kick her out of my life without hurting her feelings. . .I dont want to end something on bad terms (then it will just nag my conscience) but I know I need to end it before she brings me down. . .so PLEASE pretty PLEASE help!

iwishiknew · 12-02-2007, 10:41 PM

Yeah, I know the feeling of driving a crappy car. I drive an 88 town car, and it's an eye sore...No girl would ever go out with me in that car.

Entropy Smith · 12-02-2007, 10:41 PM

I think my retinas are permanently damaged...

...iron sharpens iron...hang around with weak friends you become weaker yourself...

AwdreeHpburn · 12-02-2007, 10:47 PM

well said Entropy!

I agree. Ditch her to save yourself. I have had quite a few friends like her. (I'm a slow learner. ) Take it from me, you'll be SOO much better off with out her. You don't need her dragging you down.

Ditch her.

musicguy · 12-02-2007, 10:52 PM

she doesn't seem like a friend, more like an acquaintance..I don't know, but a friend wouldn't spurt out your sexual activities to other people and other stuff that bring you down. She sounds like my "friend" he does insults me without realizing what he says until I get mad at him. What should you do? don't associate with her anymore

that.girl · 12-02-2007, 11:14 PM

:: SIGH :: i hear what your saying, and its something I have thought about SO very often (her bringing me down) but I . . . I guess I worry about her. She definetly doesn't handle rejection very well. I am going to change the O.P. to address the question of ridding myself of her.

Entropy Smith · 12-03-2007, 12:25 AM

Ridding yourself of people who bring you down isn't easy. But its not your job to be her friend. Try and put some distance between you two and maybe she'll get the hint.

that.girl · 12-03-2007, 01:10 AM

well I have tried that. . .she just commences stalking me at that point. calls me NON-stop and i mean non-stop (when she calls my phone her specialty ring is silent) has showed up at my job to ask me where i've been and why i haven't been answering her calls. . .what to do? I know its not my job to be her friend and if it is I'm not getting paid nearly enough for what I go through. urgh. Maybe I could just send her a video of tom petty's "dont come around here no more" with the subject line " here's an idea " lol but i do want to thank you for your advice. . im not trying to shoot it down even though it seems that way.

Aleadragonhawk · 12-03-2007, 01:11 AM

Wow. With a friend like her, who needs enemies? If you're interested in helping her out, don't let her get away with walking all over you. The way she treats you isn't okay, and allowing her to behave like that with you is just going to show her that she can do whatever she wants and still have friends. Sleeping with your boyfriend? Telling people that you're a little [color=#fa7777]* [/color][color=#fa7777]* [/color][color=#fa7777]* [/color][color=#fa7777]* [/color]ty? Constantly putting down your belongings? Why do you want to be around someone like that?

musicguy · 12-03-2007, 01:17 AM

Block her number if you can and tell her straight up how you feel about her

12-02-2007, 10:29 PM	#1
that.girl Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Eastern NC Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 130	I'm too nice. . .help me? SO there is a person I need to rid myself of. I have to be very gentle of her feelings as she is in an emotional state (she has depression) but I do need her out of my life (as posters have reminded me) So can someone help? How can I kick her out of my life without hurting her feelings. . .I dont want to end something on bad terms (then it will just nag my conscience) but I know I need to end it before she brings me down. . .so PLEASE pretty PLEASE help! __________________ Being convinced, I seek not to convince. E.A. Poe It is not worth an intelligent (wo)man's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that. Last edited by that.girl; 12-03-2007 at 01:14 AM. Reason: different question

12-02-2007, 10:41 PM	#2
iwishiknew Online Silver Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Illinois Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 1,231	Yeah, I know the feeling of driving a crappy car. I drive an 88 town car, and it's an eye sore...No girl would ever go out with me in that car. __________________ "Some people more than others judge people by their looks, moreover attractiveness probably most affects first impressions" (Livingston) "To give anything less than your best is to sacrifice the Gift." "I am an ugly duckling"

12-02-2007, 10:47 PM	#4
AwdreeHpburn Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Tiffany's Gender: Female Age: 37 Posts: 4,637	well said Entropy! I agree. Ditch her to save yourself. I have had quite a few friends like her. (I'm a slow learner. ) Take it from me, you'll be SOO much better off with out her. You don't need her dragging you down. Ditch her. __________________ What i really meant to say, is that I'm sorry for the way I am......

12-02-2007, 10:52 PM	#5
musicguy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tattoo Land Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 3,735	she doesn't seem like a friend, more like an acquaintance..I don't know, but a friend wouldn't spurt out your sexual activities to other people and other stuff that bring you down. She sounds like my "friend" he does insults me without realizing what he says until I get mad at him. What should you do? don't associate with her anymore __________________ Crush Crush Crush Crush, crush (Two, three, four!) Nothing compares to a quiet evening alone Just the one-two of us, who's counting on That never happens I guess I'm dreaming again Let's be more than this Crushcrushcrush -- Paramore R.I.P. Aaron Link. Sept. 1979- Jan. 13. 2008. We love and miss you buddy!

12-02-2007, 11:14 PM	#6
that.girl Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Eastern NC Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 130	:: SIGH :: i hear what your saying, and its something I have thought about SO very often (her bringing me down) but I . . . I guess I worry about her. She definetly doesn't handle rejection very well. I am going to change the O.P. to address the question of ridding myself of her. __________________ Being convinced, I seek not to convince. E.A. Poe It is not worth an intelligent (wo)man's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that. Last edited by that.girl; 12-03-2007 at 01:15 AM.

12-02-2007, 10:41 PM	#3
Entropy Smith Offline Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: New Yawk Gender: Male Posts: 925	I think my retinas are permanently damaged... ...iron sharpens iron...hang around with weak friends you become weaker yourself...

12-03-2007, 12:25 AM	#7
Entropy Smith Offline Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: New Yawk Gender: Male Posts: 925	Ridding yourself of people who bring you down isn't easy. But its not your job to be her friend. Try and put some distance between you two and maybe she'll get the hint.

12-03-2007, 01:10 AM	#8
that.girl Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Eastern NC Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 130	well I have tried that. . .she just commences stalking me at that point. calls me NON-stop and i mean non-stop (when she calls my phone her specialty ring is silent) has showed up at my job to ask me where i've been and why i haven't been answering her calls. . .what to do? I know its not my job to be her friend and if it is I'm not getting paid nearly enough for what I go through. urgh. Maybe I could just send her a video of tom petty's "dont come around here no more" with the subject line " here's an idea " lol but i do want to thank you for your advice. . im not trying to shoot it down even though it seems that way. __________________ Being convinced, I seek not to convince. E.A. Poe It is not worth an intelligent (wo)man's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

12-03-2007, 01:11 AM	#9
Aleadragonhawk Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 1,423	Wow. With a friend like her, who needs enemies? If you're interested in helping her out, don't let her get away with walking all over you. The way she treats you isn't okay, and allowing her to behave like that with you is just going to show her that she can do whatever she wants and still have friends. Sleeping with your boyfriend? Telling people that you're a little [color=#fa7777]* [/color][color=#fa7777]* [/color][color=#fa7777]* [/color][color=#fa7777]* [/color]ty? Constantly putting down your belongings? Why do you want to be around someone like that?

12-03-2007, 01:17 AM	#10
musicguy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tattoo Land Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 3,735	Block her number if you can and tell her straight up how you feel about her __________________ Crush Crush Crush Crush, crush (Two, three, four!) Nothing compares to a quiet evening alone Just the one-two of us, who's counting on That never happens I guess I'm dreaming again Let's be more than this Crushcrushcrush -- Paramore R.I.P. Aaron Link. Sept. 1979- Jan. 13. 2008. We love and miss you buddy!