movie

cichlid · 12-02-2007, 07:26 PM

A movie is playing for free at my university the Friday before finals. I want to go but don't want to go alone.

I have a guy friend that I'm not sure likes me or not in a serious way, but I want to hang out with him and go see it regardless. I've known him since the beginning of the year, but it's only lately that we have really started to hang out. We were lab partners together, worked on a project together, and hung out twice already this week. When we were together on Friday he said he wanted to see the movie too.

He said a few times how much fun I am to hang out with and has given me a kiss (but only when we cuddled) or several...and lots of kisses on the nose and stuff. LOL! He gave up a night of drinking with his buddies to hang out with me.

Should I see if he wants to see this movie with me on Friday or not?
Even if it is as just friends...or do you think he just wants in my pants (he knows I'm a virgin and not going to give it away easily) and it would be awkward?

I know he thinks I am attractive, fun to hang out with, etc. I really like his personality, he's a nice person but does have a slight wild side.

pacman · 12-02-2007, 07:39 PM

sure

he already said he wants to see it and you guys already hang out, so I dont see why not.

Zackinlaw · 12-02-2007, 07:41 PM

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or do you think he just wants in my pants (he knows I'm a virgin and not going to give it away easily) and it would be awkward?

He knows you are still a virgin at 22 ... yet he really wants to spend time with you.

The chances that he "just wants into your pants" is zero. That doesn't mean that he doesn't, it just means that's not the only (or even the driving) reason he wants to be with you.

Enjoy the movie together.

Zack.

cichlid · 12-02-2007, 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Zackinlaw

He knows you are still a virgin at 22 ... yet he really wants to spend time with you.

The chances that he "just wants into your pants" is zero. That doesn't mean that he doesn't, it just means that's not the only (or even the driving) reason he wants to be with you.

Enjoy the movie together.

Zack.

Perhaps, but the first thing he offered me at him place was cranberry juice and vodka...I ended up just taking a Smirnoff out of the fridge, while he mixed rum (like a shot of rum) with some Coke.

I'll mention Superbad to him tomorrow in class and see what he says. Most likely he will say yes.

I guess I'm questioning his motives until he takes me on a date, if ever. He might just be taking whatever he can get.

Gratsy · 12-02-2007, 08:34 PM

I think that its okay to just hang out with him as a friend. Unless he mentions it, don't think of it as anything more than a friendship. Just enjoy a friendship. If he starts making moves without clarifying anything, stand up for yourself and ask him what he's doing. Don't do anything you don't want to do.

cichlid · 12-02-2007, 08:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Gratsy

I think that its okay to just hang out with him as a friend. Unless he mentions it, don't think of it as anything more than a friendship. Just enjoy a friendship. If he starts making moves without clarifying anything, stand up for yourself and ask him what he's doing. Don't do anything you don't want to do.

True...I'm enjoying his friendship quite a bit. He pretty much told me I can pester him as much as I want. So any contact with him is fair game now. It's confusing, I can't get over him preferring to spend an evening with me rather than his buddies. And then watching a movie together while cuddling. whoops! Just no official date...

Gratsy · 12-02-2007, 09:13 PM

Yeahhh, be careful with that. You don't want to be friends with benefits, right? My personality would just make that clear but he might be attracted to you cuz you're nicer than me or something.

cichlid · 12-03-2007, 09:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Gratsy

Yeahhh, be careful with that. You don't want to be friends with benefits, right? My personality would just make that clear but he might be attracted to you cuz you're nicer than me or something.

No, I don't want to be friends with benefits. See that's what I'm afraid of; I've been down that road and I never want to go back. But he's introduced me to his friends (my past friends with benefits never did that) and seems to enjoy just talking with me. It could go either way so I am cautious of his motives and I'm very hesitant of everything.

It could be a maturity thing. He is 2 years older than me, and my last FWBs were age 20 to 18 (I was 18-19 at the time). And in general he's a very caring soul. I've tried to get inside his head when we were hanging out. We were cuddling, he gave me a kiss on my face (not lips), I asked him what he was thinking, he smiled and said nothing was on his mind.

It's all so confusing and could go either way. I'm being careful. If all he wants me for is a good time, then I'll probably stop all his advances. It doesn't seem that way, but then again it could be seen that way.

I'm seeing how it goes. If he does like me in a serious way, I won't start dating him until after Christmas break. Two more weeks and then I leave town for two weeks. Then a couple of days after I get back he leaves to go to the same area that I was just in for vacation. Ha!

cichlid · 12-03-2007, 11:15 PM

He's got a party to attend...but I'm invited and I may not go unless it's gonna be pretty tame. I don't feel like a repeat from last week with my parents.

Gratsy · 12-04-2007, 10:47 AM

Don't overanalyze. Just have fun with the guy. If he asks you out, go with him. It sounds good that you're cautious. Just make intentions clear. One thing I just would avoid is when a guy hangs out with you but isn't asking you out...he tries making out and stuff but isn't clear on where the both of you stand.

12-02-2007, 07:26 PM	#1
cichlid Offline Gold Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: the South Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 1,172	movie A movie is playing for free at my university the Friday before finals. I want to go but don't want to go alone. I have a guy friend that I'm not sure likes me or not in a serious way, but I want to hang out with him and go see it regardless. I've known him since the beginning of the year, but it's only lately that we have really started to hang out. We were lab partners together, worked on a project together, and hung out twice already this week. When we were together on Friday he said he wanted to see the movie too. He said a few times how much fun I am to hang out with and has given me a kiss (but only when we cuddled) or several...and lots of kisses on the nose and stuff. LOL! He gave up a night of drinking with his buddies to hang out with me. Should I see if he wants to see this movie with me on Friday or not? Even if it is as just friends...or do you think he just wants in my pants (he knows I'm a virgin and not going to give it away easily) and it would be awkward? I know he thinks I am attractive, fun to hang out with, etc. I really like his personality, he's a nice person but does have a slight wild side. __________________ "Monday monkey lives for the weekend, sir" -- Leela (from Futurama)

12-03-2007, 11:15 PM	#9
cichlid Offline Gold Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: the South Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 1,172	He's got a party to attend...but I'm invited and I may not go unless it's gonna be pretty tame. I don't feel like a repeat from last week with my parents. __________________ "Monday monkey lives for the weekend, sir" -- Leela (from Futurama)

12-02-2007, 07:39 PM	#2
pacman Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: USA Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 195	sure he already said he wants to see it and you guys already hang out, so I dont see why not.

12-02-2007, 08:34 PM	#5
Gratsy Offline Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 2,436	I think that its okay to just hang out with him as a friend. Unless he mentions it, don't think of it as anything more than a friendship. Just enjoy a friendship. If he starts making moves without clarifying anything, stand up for yourself and ask him what he's doing. Don't do anything you don't want to do.

12-02-2007, 09:13 PM	#7
Gratsy Offline Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 2,436	Yeahhh, be careful with that. You don't want to be friends with benefits, right? My personality would just make that clear but he might be attracted to you cuz you're nicer than me or something.

12-04-2007, 10:47 AM	#10
Gratsy Offline Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 2,436	Don't overanalyze. Just have fun with the guy. If he asks you out, go with him. It sounds good that you're cautious. Just make intentions clear. One thing I just would avoid is when a guy hangs out with you but isn't asking you out...he tries making out and stuff but isn't clear on where the both of you stand.