Care about money?

i miss her 2 · 11-29-2007, 02:07 AM

Do girls really care alot about what a guy is doing for a job? I'm 24 and work at a dog kennel for right now. I can't be in school right now unfortunately. My gf of 2 years actually makes 75 cents more than me as a cook and I actually feel kind of inferior. I think she expects me to go out and find a better job but I don't know where to look right now. How important is it to girls that their guy makes a great deal of money? Her rebound guy was pretty well off...I don't know if that was part of what attracted her to him but I'm sure not going to ask.

fragmint · 11-29-2007, 02:34 AM

well if youre not advancing in what youre doing then personally thatd be a turn off for me. i can understand that everyone's gonna go through their share of less than awesome jobs but if you just stay there and dont move up or move out then id be concerned. 'not knowing where to look' is not an excuse by the way. i dont think its as much the money than having a guy who has higher goals than working at a dog kennel.

Aleadragonhawk · 11-29-2007, 02:36 AM

I can't really speak for girls in general, but financial stability is something that I look for in a partner. Financial stability doesn't mean driving a sports car - but it does mean having a steady job with potential for growth. It really depends on what someone is looking for in a relationship. Finances are probably more of a worry for someone who is looking for a long-term partner than someone who is looking for a short-term relationship.

Ampire · 11-29-2007, 02:38 AM

man If you know my story then you would think yes....but mine was a special case - her parents were rich and she was spoiled so my job just wasnt good enough....but like I said, special case...

I would say most woman in general like a man to be financially stable...and when you are young its one thing, but when you get older and you want to have kids and what not then career oriented men are more desirable than someone who works part time obviously.....

just think about average family incomes and what they are....that would indicate to me that the majority of woman are not gold diggers...

capbit · 11-29-2007, 02:39 AM

I think financial stability is important in serious relationships, but not as important has having the ambition and drive to be better. And to be attracted to someone for money is always a bad plan, you want her to like you, not the money.

Ampire · 11-29-2007, 02:41 AM

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Originally Posted by fragmint

well if youre not advancing in what youre doing then personally thatd be a turn off for me. i can understand that everyone's gonna go through their share of less than awesome jobs but if you just stay there and dont move up or move out then id be concerned. 'not knowing where to look' is not an excuse by the way. i dont think its as much the money than having a guy who has higher goals than working at a dog kennel.

I don't think his goal in life is to work at a dog kennel but if it was would that be so bad??? to take care of animals???

I would take that as a good thing...maybe not the greatest pay but im sure there are woman out there that would find this to be a good trait....

CarnelianButterfly · 11-29-2007, 02:55 AM

I only care that my boyfriend can pay his bills and feel happy with his job. He doesn't need a fancy car or spend stupid amounts of money, I want him to be happy and not killing himself over a buck. The moments in life that mean the most are just as sweet without money.

CaptainPlanet · 11-29-2007, 02:56 AM

I'd imagine most girls would think like that until something happens.

They grow up.

They go and get a job with 'advancement' and remain single complaining the intelligent men don't value intelligent women

They get lucky and marry someone rich

yes girls are a bit snobby and want someone with money I would not worry about it if you can.

Ex_Nihilo · 11-29-2007, 03:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Ampire

just think about average family incomes and what they are....that would indicate to me that the majority of woman are not gold diggers...

The majority of women have average looks. Therefore they can only "reel in" an average income because their asset, looks, is only average.

Dako · 11-29-2007, 03:06 AM

CP,

You bring up an important consideration for choosing a partner. It might take a bit of discussion to determine her values.

Not very woman wants a meal ticket or status symbol. Moderately successful men can attain stability.

11-29-2007, 02:07 AM	#1
i miss her 2 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,146	Care about money? Do girls really care alot about what a guy is doing for a job? I'm 24 and work at a dog kennel for right now. I can't be in school right now unfortunately. My gf of 2 years actually makes 75 cents more than me as a cook and I actually feel kind of inferior. I think she expects me to go out and find a better job but I don't know where to look right now. How important is it to girls that their guy makes a great deal of money? Her rebound guy was pretty well off...I don't know if that was part of what attracted her to him but I'm sure not going to ask.

11-29-2007, 02:38 AM	#4
Ampire Offline Silver Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Ontario Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 329	man If you know my story then you would think yes....but mine was a special case - her parents were rich and she was spoiled so my job just wasnt good enough....but like I said, special case... I would say most woman in general like a man to be financially stable...and when you are young its one thing, but when you get older and you want to have kids and what not then career oriented men are more desirable than someone who works part time obviously..... just think about average family incomes and what they are....that would indicate to me that the majority of woman are not gold diggers... __________________ Hope is the last thing to go, but hope is what keeps you going!!!

11-29-2007, 02:34 AM	#2
fragmint Offline Gold Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 628	well if youre not advancing in what youre doing then personally thatd be a turn off for me. i can understand that everyone's gonna go through their share of less than awesome jobs but if you just stay there and dont move up or move out then id be concerned. 'not knowing where to look' is not an excuse by the way. i dont think its as much the money than having a guy who has higher goals than working at a dog kennel.

11-29-2007, 02:36 AM	#3
Aleadragonhawk Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 1,423	I can't really speak for girls in general, but financial stability is something that I look for in a partner. Financial stability doesn't mean driving a sports car - but it does mean having a steady job with potential for growth. It really depends on what someone is looking for in a relationship. Finances are probably more of a worry for someone who is looking for a long-term partner than someone who is looking for a short-term relationship.

11-29-2007, 02:39 AM	#5
capbit Offline Gold Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Gender: Male Posts: 631	I think financial stability is important in serious relationships, but not as important has having the ambition and drive to be better. And to be attracted to someone for money is always a bad plan, you want her to like you, not the money.

11-29-2007, 02:55 AM	#7
CarnelianButterfly Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Too far from home Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 4,473	I only care that my boyfriend can pay his bills and feel happy with his job. He doesn't need a fancy car or spend stupid amounts of money, I want him to be happy and not killing himself over a buck. The moments in life that mean the most are just as sweet without money.

11-29-2007, 02:56 AM	#8
CaptainPlanet Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Australia Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 4,259	I'd imagine most girls would think like that until something happens. They grow up. They go and get a job with 'advancement' and remain single complaining the intelligent men don't value intelligent women They get lucky and marry someone rich yes girls are a bit snobby and want someone with money I would not worry about it if you can.

11-29-2007, 03:06 AM	#10
Dako Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 9,113	CP, You bring up an important consideration for choosing a partner. It might take a bit of discussion to determine her values. Not very woman wants a meal ticket or status symbol. Moderately successful men can attain stability.