I never felt this pain in my life

i_love_chocolate · 10-22-2007, 08:07 AM

Now that I broke up with my gf, I am experiencing so much pain that I can't even deal with it. She contacted me out of the blue telling me that she misses me. Then we talked online and she started telling me that she fell out of love with me, she doesn't know what it feels like to be with me anymore, even pictures don't refresh her memory. She told me that she doesn't remember what it feels like to kiss me, touch me or smell me. She has forgotten all of that. She said that she wasn't sure if she misses me or just misses the idea and the life that we had together.

I have been feeling so depressed this whole time and I was hurt but never contacted her. Apparently she has been so busy with her friends that she hasn't been even thinking about it but then she felt lonely and decided to contact me. So selfish.

I swear I was in a plane two days ago and I was wishing that the plane would crash so that I would die. I have been smoking so much my chest hurts. I have no desire to work or do anything. I feel hopeless and I wish I could end it all. I cried a lot. I hate the fact that I'm so in love with her.

Angel_baby · 10-22-2007, 08:27 AM

NC is your friend in this case. In the future I think it is best to avoid all contact from her.

You can get through this with time. It is always hardest the first few weeks but it will get better.

RayKay · 10-22-2007, 08:36 AM

Yet she wanted you to marry her? You are right, she is selfish as it is all about her.

Be glad you did NOT marry her, and did NOT move across the world with her.

Ugh...this girl cheated on you.

You should have enough self respect to not even give her the time of day.

Do not talk to her anymore, no good can come of it.

istillluvu06 · 10-22-2007, 09:06 AM

There are'nt any words to say to you right now, other than you are definatley not alone in how you are feeling.
I am sorry for your pain, love is not fair. I will pray for you.
Time will help this. <HUGS>

agent · 10-22-2007, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by i_love_chocolate

So selfish.

Yup, she is.

She just happened to be lonely and called you, just in time to tell you all those wounding things?

She's good, I'll give her that, she really knows the weak spots to go after.

bubblyblonde11 · 10-22-2007, 09:12 AM

Hey hun sorry you are going through this. Times like these are hard, I agree with the others that NC is best for YOU right now.

You are not hopeless, just human and hurting, I know how it feels and hope that others kind words gives you comfort as it did me in my darkest hours.

You will get past this, the pain with subside hun, in time.

For this week why don't you treat yourself extra well, get a massge (a fav of mine), go shopping, make some arrangements to go out, by some nice foods to eat and indulge a little. Small things like this can perk you up just enough to get you through, its not a cure just might make the pain a little more bareable for you.

((((((((hugs))))))))))

Feel free if you;d like to PM anytime, if you need to vent

vertex · 10-22-2007, 09:43 AM

You can deal with it.
You can deal with it.
You can deal with it.

I felt the exact same way as you during the break-up and immediately after I finally instituted NC (I stuck around with my ex-girlfriend for a good 4-5 weeks after the break-up... baaaaad idea). I lost sleep, my appetite, my willpower to do anything. I spent days sitting in my room doing absolutely nothing but thinking and rethinking my relationship with her, tears in my eyes. I couldn't figure out why things turned out the way they did, and that only seemed to make things worse for me. I was a mess just 18 days ago.

After days and days of feeling like my life was done for without her... I found eNA. I told my story here. The outpouring of support helped me get through the roughest time of my life. I read so much amazing advice that has helped me heal faster than I thought possible.

Do I still feel that heartache? Yeah... but I've learned to deal with it as it comes. You will too, I promise you. The pain has been my greatest motivation to get out and improve myself. In time, you'll see that you can turn that pain into something positive for yourself too. It will only get you down if you let it!

And don't hate the fact that you love her so much. It shows that you can love, that you can be loved. Is that such a bad thing? I don't think so. All this hurting you are going through shows that your love is not shallow. You can (and will) love again.

Hang in there, i_love_chocolate!

10-22-2007, 08:07 AM	#1
i_love_chocolate Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Earth Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 308	I never felt this pain in my life Now that I broke up with my gf, I am experiencing so much pain that I can't even deal with it. She contacted me out of the blue telling me that she misses me. Then we talked online and she started telling me that she fell out of love with me, she doesn't know what it feels like to be with me anymore, even pictures don't refresh her memory. She told me that she doesn't remember what it feels like to kiss me, touch me or smell me. She has forgotten all of that. She said that she wasn't sure if she misses me or just misses the idea and the life that we had together. I have been feeling so depressed this whole time and I was hurt but never contacted her. Apparently she has been so busy with her friends that she hasn't been even thinking about it but then she felt lonely and decided to contact me. So selfish. I swear I was in a plane two days ago and I was wishing that the plane would crash so that I would die. I have been smoking so much my chest hurts. I have no desire to work or do anything. I feel hopeless and I wish I could end it all. I cried a lot. I hate the fact that I'm so in love with her.

10-22-2007, 08:27 AM	#2
Angel_baby Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Missouri Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 1,333	NC is your friend in this case. In the future I think it is best to avoid all contact from her. You can get through this with time. It is always hardest the first few weeks but it will get better. __________________ Buy a PS3 if you like movies, Buy a 360 if you're a hardcore gamer. -- Tyler101

10-22-2007, 08:36 AM	#3
RayKay Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Middle of Canada Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 13,270	Yet she wanted you to marry her? You are right, she is selfish as it is all about her. Be glad you did NOT marry her, and did NOT move across the world with her. Ugh...this girl cheated on you. You should have enough self respect to not even give her the time of day. Do not talk to her anymore, no good can come of it. __________________ [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=darkolivegreen][B]<--- [COLOR=sienna]Carbun the Super-Bunny[/COLOR][/B][/COLOR][/FONT] [B][FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=#556b2f][/COLOR][/FONT][/B] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=darkolivegreen][B]At the end of the day, how you imprinted on someones life and heart is the only true mark any of us leave on this earth and is what we are most proud of... [/B][/COLOR][/FONT][I][SIZE=1]- My Biggest Hero and Mentor: My Mum.[/SIZE][/I] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=orange][B]Il faut d'abord durer [/B][/COLOR][/FONT][I][SIZE=1]- Ernest Hemingway[/SIZE][/I] Last edited by RayKay; 10-22-2007 at 09:13 AM.

10-22-2007, 09:06 AM	#4
istillluvu06 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Stuck in NY But soon to be under the sunshine, next to the ocean, sand on my feet Gender: Female Age: 43 Posts: 758	There are'nt any words to say to you right now, other than you are definatley not alone in how you are feeling. I am sorry for your pain, love is not fair. I will pray for you. Time will help this. <HUGS> __________________ **We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us** Joseph Campbell

10-22-2007, 09:12 AM	#6
bubblyblonde11 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: London. UK Gender: Female Age: 36 Posts: 1,761	Hey hun sorry you are going through this. Times like these are hard, I agree with the others that NC is best for YOU right now. You are not hopeless, just human and hurting, I know how it feels and hope that others kind words gives you comfort as it did me in my darkest hours. You will get past this, the pain with subside hun, in time. For this week why don't you treat yourself extra well, get a massge (a fav of mine), go shopping, make some arrangements to go out, by some nice foods to eat and indulge a little. Small things like this can perk you up just enough to get you through, its not a cure just might make the pain a little more bareable for you. ((((((((hugs)))))))))) Feel free if you;d like to PM anytime, if you need to vent __________________ Once you start laughing you start healing. Being single DOES NOT equate to 1) being alone 2) leading boring life 3) being unhappy Sometimes the best way to throw a punch is to take a step back - Million Dollar Baby It doesn't seem like it at the time, but everything happens for a reason.

10-22-2007, 09:43 AM	#7
vertex Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 143	You can deal with it. You can deal with it. You can deal with it. I felt the exact same way as you during the break-up and immediately after I finally instituted NC (I stuck around with my ex-girlfriend for a good 4-5 weeks after the break-up... baaaaad idea). I lost sleep, my appetite, my willpower to do anything. I spent days sitting in my room doing absolutely nothing but thinking and rethinking my relationship with her, tears in my eyes. I couldn't figure out why things turned out the way they did, and that only seemed to make things worse for me. I was a mess just 18 days ago. After days and days of feeling like my life was done for without her... I found eNA. I told my story here. The outpouring of support helped me get through the roughest time of my life. I read so much amazing advice that has helped me heal faster than I thought possible. Do I still feel that heartache? Yeah... but I've learned to deal with it as it comes. You will too, I promise you. The pain has been my greatest motivation to get out and improve myself. In time, you'll see that you can turn that pain into something positive for yourself too. It will only get you down if you let it! And don't hate the fact that you love her so much. It shows that you can love, that you can be loved. Is that such a bad thing? I don't think so. All this hurting you are going through shows that your love is not shallow. You can (and will) love again. Hang in there, i_love_chocolate!