Grandmother is most likely passing away tonight

Rosesarered · 10-20-2007, 11:19 PM

I have never lost anyone close to me. When they ran the tests today, they said her kidneys were failing and that her heart was failing as well. I wish I could be there, or that I had even talked to her in a few months....I feel guilty for not calling more, and being there more. I have not seen her in a year and a half either. I dont know how to deal with this, since this is the first time dealing with this. I guess there really is no advice...moreover I just needed to talk, and get it out. I also feel bad for my father since he is gone on a 3 week vacation and only reached through email. I know he is going to be really sad about it, and regretful and I wish I could be there to comfort him. I dont know, Im just sad.

Starrjenna · 10-20-2007, 11:26 PM

I am so sorry for you! I lost my grandfather last thurs. We had the funeral yesterday. I also had never lost anyone close to me. It is so sad and I cried and cried my eyes out. But I just prayed about it and if you listen hard enough god will tell you what to do to get through it. I am not even religious but I really believe he helped me cope. I wrote some poetry to get the feelings out and just followed my heart. i know this is a hard time for you, but you will make it and you grandmothers spirit will live on through you! PM me if you want to talk or anything! Xoxox

musicguy · 10-20-2007, 11:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Rosesarered

I have never lost anyone close to me. When they ran the tests today, they said her kidneys were failing and that her heart was failing as well. I wish I could be there, or that I had even talked to her in a few months....I feel guilty for not calling more, and being there more. I have not seen her in a year and a half either. I dont know how to deal with this, since this is the first time dealing with this. I guess there really is no advice...moreover I just needed to talk, and get it out. I also feel bad for my father since he is gone on a 3 week vacation and only reached through email. I know he is going to be really sad about it, and regretful and I wish I could be there to comfort him. I dont know, Im just sad.

****HUGS****

chigal28 · 10-21-2007, 01:36 AM

I'm so sorry to hear that!!!! I lost my grandma, my mom's mom, whom I was very close to, in 1999, and it was very tough. :0( I think that being there for your dad will be very important...even if you can't actually see him right now because he's traveling, sending him e-mails/calling to let him know you're thinking of him would certainly help. Also, talking about your favorite memories of your grandma, and thinking of the ways in which she influenced your life, will help keep her memory and her spirit alive.

android12 · 10-21-2007, 01:39 AM

aww hun im so sorry! i have lost so many people in my short lifetime - one of them my own father and its really hard at the start but time really does help. i cried and cried and still do find myself crying every once in a while. it does help to just talk and cry it out to people, either family, friends, a councilor. i know what its like to feel the regret of "if only i had done this more" or "i wish i had done this more" but you cant do anything to change the past...its now what you do in the future. and she will be watching and smiling down at you. if you express yourself through poems well, write her one from the family, including your dad, if you have a chance to get one to her before she goes. or if not...one for the funeral. get someone to tell her from ur dad how much he cares for her. if it helps, choose a song that really touches you and devote it to her and/or play it at the funeral if u like...to help you express your feelings and grieve. *hug* this will get better over time

Mysterygirl · 10-21-2007, 01:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Rosesarered

I have never lost anyone close to me. When they ran the tests today, they said her kidneys were failing and that her heart was failing as well. I wish I could be there, or that I had even talked to her in a few months....I feel guilty for not calling more, and being there more. I have not seen her in a year and a half either. I dont know how to deal with this, since this is the first time dealing with this. I guess there really is no advice...moreover I just needed to talk, and get it out. I also feel bad for my father since he is gone on a 3 week vacation and only reached through email. I know he is going to be really sad about it, and regretful and I wish I could be there to comfort him. I dont know, Im just sad.

Oh hunny im so sorry for your pain ... im sending you a big hug

obscurity · 10-21-2007, 01:49 AM

*HUGS*

I want to send you my thoughts and hugs. Keep posting here and all of ENA will help you through this. Stay strong for yourself and your family. Know that she loves you. Take it from my personal experience, think of the good memories you shared with her, celebrate her life, dont dwell on her death. Its about a women that lived a great life. Stay positive, she would want you to be happy.

10-20-2007, 11:19 PM	#1
Rosesarered Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 34	Grandmother is most likely passing away tonight I have never lost anyone close to me. When they ran the tests today, they said her kidneys were failing and that her heart was failing as well. I wish I could be there, or that I had even talked to her in a few months....I feel guilty for not calling more, and being there more. I have not seen her in a year and a half either. I dont know how to deal with this, since this is the first time dealing with this. I guess there really is no advice...moreover I just needed to talk, and get it out. I also feel bad for my father since he is gone on a 3 week vacation and only reached through email. I know he is going to be really sad about it, and regretful and I wish I could be there to comfort him. I dont know, Im just sad.

10-21-2007, 01:36 AM	#4
chigal28 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Chicago Gender: Female Age: 32 Posts: 616	I'm so sorry to hear that!!!! I lost my grandma, my mom's mom, whom I was very close to, in 1999, and it was very tough. :0( I think that being there for your dad will be very important...even if you can't actually see him right now because he's traveling, sending him e-mails/calling to let him know you're thinking of him would certainly help. Also, talking about your favorite memories of your grandma, and thinking of the ways in which she influenced your life, will help keep her memory and her spirit alive. __________________ You can't cast aspersions on someone just because they wear a cape. Superman wore a cape. --Seinfeld

10-20-2007, 11:26 PM	#2
Starrjenna Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: up the stars, Colorado Posts: 58	I am so sorry for you! I lost my grandfather last thurs. We had the funeral yesterday. I also had never lost anyone close to me. It is so sad and I cried and cried my eyes out. But I just prayed about it and if you listen hard enough god will tell you what to do to get through it. I am not even religious but I really believe he helped me cope. I wrote some poetry to get the feelings out and just followed my heart. i know this is a hard time for you, but you will make it and you grandmothers spirit will live on through you! PM me if you want to talk or anything! Xoxox

10-21-2007, 01:39 AM	#5
android12 Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Australia Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 348	aww hun im so sorry! i have lost so many people in my short lifetime - one of them my own father and its really hard at the start but time really does help. i cried and cried and still do find myself crying every once in a while. it does help to just talk and cry it out to people, either family, friends, a councilor. i know what its like to feel the regret of "if only i had done this more" or "i wish i had done this more" but you cant do anything to change the past...its now what you do in the future. and she will be watching and smiling down at you. if you express yourself through poems well, write her one from the family, including your dad, if you have a chance to get one to her before she goes. or if not...one for the funeral. get someone to tell her from ur dad how much he cares for her. if it helps, choose a song that really touches you and devote it to her and/or play it at the funeral if u like...to help you express your feelings and grieve. hug this will get better over time

10-21-2007, 01:49 AM	#7
obscurity Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 147	HUGS I want to send you my thoughts and hugs. Keep posting here and all of ENA will help you through this. Stay strong for yourself and your family. Know that she loves you. Take it from my personal experience, think of the good memories you shared with her, celebrate her life, dont dwell on her death. Its about a women that lived a great life. Stay positive, she would want you to be happy.