Stressed to death

citizenx · 10-19-2007, 05:52 PM

There's a girl i've known for 12 years now who i've always been madly in love with.

We saw each other as good friends on and off over this time and met up again a few months ago.

Six weeks ago i told her how i felt and she didn't reciprocate but was ok about it all.

Her comments were just that we were friends for too long and "you know how i feel about x" x being a random nobody she's been sort of on and off seeing in this time.

In some messed up attempt to force myself to get over her, i didn't stop one of her friends from kissing me which she knew about. It went further than that which again i told her about (can't lie to her).

Long story short, for various reasons i told the other girl we could only be friends (again, which "she" knew).

The other night we were talking and I said part of it was in this attempt to force myself to get over her and that "its obvious it was never going to happen between us".

She responded that "it was but it won't now" (because of what happened with her mate).

That night when i saw her friend home we spoke, she was upset about something else and i said "should i come around" to which she said "yes". She did the whole crying on my shoulder thing and then i stayed over. Slept in her bed with her and behaved myself (difficult as that was). We hugged/cuddled for most of the night and there was a very intense/electric moment when I think we both knew something was between us - but we didnt act upon it.

I sent her a text today saying something she said had been playing on my mind and i needed to speak with her. She said she was going around to see this guy tonight so it wasn't possible.

I'm so confused. Did she say it 'cos she meant it or to mess with my mind? Should I text her even though its late and shes there and ask her to make the time for me tomorrow? I can't rest/relax/sleep..its playing so heavily on my mind at the moment and I can't stand it!

Someone! Please give me your thoughts 'cos this is driving me MAD!

She keeps saying how important/special i am but then doesn't make that time for me even if i do for her.

What the hell am i supposed to think?!

Firehawk13 · 10-19-2007, 07:29 PM

She's messing with you man. I don't want to say drop her like a bad habit, but give her some space and come to terms with the fact that she is not interested in you, regardless of how she may have acted or how hard it is to admit.

citizenx · 10-19-2007, 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Firehawk13

She's messing with you man. I don't want to say drop her like a bad habit, but give her some space and come to terms with the fact that she is not interested in you, regardless of how she may have acted or how hard it is to admit.

You know.. i really think you're right but I just can't quite understand why anyone would do that to someone especially when they keep telling you they care so much.

If she is messing with me I'm going to call her on it. She can't treat people like that, especially not after such a long time.

She must have known the effect something like that would have?

I don't feel like this when we're together 'cos she treats me like the only person on earth.

Argh. This sucks!

MushroomGod · 10-19-2007, 07:35 PM

The Original girl is not into you. Her saying that "it won't now" is just her being jealous her friend will get the attention you used to give her. It was VERY selfish of her to say that. Stick with the girl that obviously likes you (her friend).

SuperSport · 10-19-2007, 07:36 PM

Shes using you as her shoulder to cry on. Its not a good situation to be in. Ive bene there, it sucks, and its hard to let go, like the above poster said, dont ignore her, just give her space...

citizenx · 10-19-2007, 07:45 PM

Hi guys, replying to both here.. seems to be a consensus and it, i guess confirms my worst fears. Of course, I've screwed up 'cos between my original post and your replies i sent her a message on myspace asking her to meet up tomorrow.

Think i should back out if she agrees?

I think I probably should.

I'd never treat someone like that. Can't quite get my head around it but i understand what you're saying.

Doesn't life suck? Grr!

citizenx · 10-19-2007, 08:26 PM

Well.. replying to my own post.. sad but hey.. i'm worth it ;o)

Was feeling pretty down about this but I'd started to resign myself to the fact it was going nowhere anyway. Won't give her the satisfaction of bringing me down again!

so.. I've replied just saying i misunderstood something and have worked it out now.. hope she has a nice weekend yada yada.

Hope that'll do the trick.. now.. tomorrow i must text the other girl and treat her better. FWIW though, last time I saw her we still ended up kissing and i told her she was hot and that i was getting really keen. She knows nothing of the other stuff that i know of (and they don't talk much about it amazingly) so i might just scrape through..

Difficult! You bet but suppose it gets the old adrenalin pumping!

kim_uk · 10-20-2007, 11:17 AM

I hope you scrape through too! Sounds like the other girl is one of these thats likes a guys fan club, men friends that she can dangle abit and play with when there is no one else on the scene. You're well clear!!!

10-19-2007, 05:52 PM	#1
citizenx Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 13	Stressed to death There's a girl i've known for 12 years now who i've always been madly in love with. We saw each other as good friends on and off over this time and met up again a few months ago. Six weeks ago i told her how i felt and she didn't reciprocate but was ok about it all. Her comments were just that we were friends for too long and "you know how i feel about x" x being a random nobody she's been sort of on and off seeing in this time. In some messed up attempt to force myself to get over her, i didn't stop one of her friends from kissing me which she knew about. It went further than that which again i told her about (can't lie to her). Long story short, for various reasons i told the other girl we could only be friends (again, which "she" knew). The other night we were talking and I said part of it was in this attempt to force myself to get over her and that "its obvious it was never going to happen between us". She responded that "it was but it won't now" (because of what happened with her mate). That night when i saw her friend home we spoke, she was upset about something else and i said "should i come around" to which she said "yes". She did the whole crying on my shoulder thing and then i stayed over. Slept in her bed with her and behaved myself (difficult as that was). We hugged/cuddled for most of the night and there was a very intense/electric moment when I think we both knew something was between us - but we didnt act upon it. I sent her a text today saying something she said had been playing on my mind and i needed to speak with her. She said she was going around to see this guy tonight so it wasn't possible. I'm so confused. Did she say it 'cos she meant it or to mess with my mind? Should I text her even though its late and shes there and ask her to make the time for me tomorrow? I can't rest/relax/sleep..its playing so heavily on my mind at the moment and I can't stand it! Someone! Please give me your thoughts 'cos this is driving me MAD! She keeps saying how important/special i am but then doesn't make that time for me even if i do for her. What the hell am i supposed to think?!

10-19-2007, 07:29 PM	#2
Firehawk13 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Washington Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 248	She's messing with you man. I don't want to say drop her like a bad habit, but give her some space and come to terms with the fact that she is not interested in you, regardless of how she may have acted or how hard it is to admit. __________________ "A woman has three reasons for everything she does: the reason she says she has, the reason she thinks she has, and the reason she really has."

10-19-2007, 07:35 PM	#4
MushroomGod Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Chicago Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 785	The Original girl is not into you. Her saying that "it won't now" is just her being jealous her friend will get the attention you used to give her. It was VERY selfish of her to say that. Stick with the girl that obviously likes you (her friend). __________________ Kisses aren't contracts baby and these days neither are words...

10-19-2007, 07:36 PM	#5
SuperSport Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Midwest Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 300	Shes using you as her shoulder to cry on. Its not a good situation to be in. Ive bene there, it sucks, and its hard to let go, like the above poster said, dont ignore her, just give her space... __________________ I drive fastly, call me Jeff Gordon, in the Black SS with the Navigation.

10-19-2007, 07:45 PM	#6
citizenx Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 13	Hi guys, replying to both here.. seems to be a consensus and it, i guess confirms my worst fears. Of course, I've screwed up 'cos between my original post and your replies i sent her a message on myspace asking her to meet up tomorrow. Think i should back out if she agrees? I think I probably should. I'd never treat someone like that. Can't quite get my head around it but i understand what you're saying. Doesn't life suck? Grr!

10-19-2007, 08:26 PM	#7
citizenx Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 13	Well.. replying to my own post.. sad but hey.. i'm worth it ;o) Was feeling pretty down about this but I'd started to resign myself to the fact it was going nowhere anyway. Won't give her the satisfaction of bringing me down again! so.. I've replied just saying i misunderstood something and have worked it out now.. hope she has a nice weekend yada yada. Hope that'll do the trick.. now.. tomorrow i must text the other girl and treat her better. FWIW though, last time I saw her we still ended up kissing and i told her she was hot and that i was getting really keen. She knows nothing of the other stuff that i know of (and they don't talk much about it amazingly) so i might just scrape through.. Difficult! You bet but suppose it gets the old adrenalin pumping!

10-20-2007, 11:17 AM	#8
kim_uk Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 16	I hope you scrape through too! Sounds like the other girl is one of these thats likes a guys fan club, men friends that she can dangle abit and play with when there is no one else on the scene. You're well clear!!!