My best friend's father is probably going to die

HyruleGuardian · 10-16-2007, 07:53 PM

My best friend's father has been an alcoholic his entire life and his liver is basically shot. He had to be rushed to the hospital because of alcohol poisoning and it's looking like he won't make it. He hasn't eaten anything since Wednesday and the alcohol won't filter through his body. My friend was crying hysterically on the phone to me about it and I just kept telling her it's going to be okay...you've done all you can...I'm here for you...just all of that. I feel so bad for her. I really don't know what to do.

I was actually quite close to him as well, but I can't even imagine what she's going through right now. Her dad was the person she cared about most in her life and he wasted his life away to drinking. He had so much to live for and he just threw it all away.

Ugh...what can I really do. This situation just sucks.

Atticus90 · 10-16-2007, 07:56 PM

The best thing to do is be for her when she needs a shoulder to cry on.
May seem like it's not much, but it's the best thing and only thing to do.

Crazyaboutdogs · 10-16-2007, 07:57 PM

Is there no chance of a liver transplant, or is it too late for that. Some people can be alcoholics and they end up living a long life and die of something else. It is sad when someone throws away their life like that. How old is he?

HyruleGuardian · 10-16-2007, 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Crazyaboutdogs

Is there no chance of a liver transplant, or is it too late for that. Some people can be alcoholics and they end up living a long life and die of something else. It is sad when someone throws away their life like that. How old is he?

They tried for it when he was sober (which only lasted 2 months) but then he started drinking again, so they couldn't do it. It's too late for it now.

He's only 42. My friend is 17. It's so horrible. It really is a shame that he threw his life away for alcohol. Without the alcohol, he was a very smart and knowledgable man. He had so much to live for. My friend has gone through so much loss in her life and she's trying so hard to get through it, but it seems like whenever she hits a high, there's another bump in the road. She tried her hardest to get her dad to stop and even told him she'd stop talking to him, but he never seemed to care. I'm sitting here in tears thinking about it.

Crazyaboutdogs · 10-16-2007, 08:05 PM

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Originally Posted by HyruleGuardian

They tried for it when he was sober (which only lasted 2 months) but then he started drinking again, so they couldn't do it. It's too late for it now.

He's only 42. My friend is 17. It's so horrible. It really is a shame that he threw his life away for alcohol. Without the alcohol, he was a very smart and knowledgable man. He had so much to live for. My friend has gone through so much loss in her life and she's trying so hard to get through it, but it seems like whenever she hits a high, there's another bump in the road. She tried her hardest to get her dad to stop and even told him she'd stop talking to him, but he never seemed to care. I'm sitting here in tears thinking about it.

Oh wow! That's two years younger than me. How very sad. I feel badly for your friend...she is so young to lose a father.

frail · 10-16-2007, 08:20 PM

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She tried her hardest to get her dad to stop and even told him she'd stop talking to him, but he never seemed to care.

I know what it's like to have an alcoholic parent who won't stop for anything. I'm sorry it's gotten to that point with her dad.

You are doing all you can do for her. Keep being supportive and understanding.

**Hope75** · 10-16-2007, 09:32 PM

Hi There,

I am sorry for your friend. Alcohol is a very powerful and addicting drug, and it can do tremendous damage, and it is legal. It is very difficult to watch a loved one battle with alcohol and even worse to watch it win. Both of my grandparents were alcoholics and ultimately it contributed to their death and destroyed their relationships with their daughter (my mom).

Liver donor programs will not consider a transplant on someone who has a history of alcohol abuse that is still recent. It's very sad but they feel that giving a liver to someone who still battles with alcohol only prolongs the time until the next liver fails, and someone else who desperately needs that liver who lives a 'clean' lifestyle has a better long term prognosis.

I think the best thing you can do for your friend is just be there and be supportive.

((HUGS))

shyguy1 · 10-16-2007, 10:59 PM

Losing a parent is never easy... so I empathize with your friend.

I lost my mother to stomach cancer a few years ago. I was 25 at the time.. my older sister 30.. younger brother 19 and younger sister 7.

I can't speak for them.. but in speaking for myself the most helpful thing was simply having friends to talk to and to be there for me when the emotional aspect got to be too much.

That's honestly the best thing you can do... simply be there for her and listen if she needs to talk about it and support her if she needs to have a good cry.

It's definitely tough and having been through it myself within the last few years, it pains me to see anyone else go through it.

42 is quite young and my mother wasn't much older. It just goes to show how precious life truly is.

10-16-2007, 07:53 PM	#1
HyruleGuardian Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 567	My best friend's father is probably going to die My best friend's father has been an alcoholic his entire life and his liver is basically shot. He had to be rushed to the hospital because of alcohol poisoning and it's looking like he won't make it. He hasn't eaten anything since Wednesday and the alcohol won't filter through his body. My friend was crying hysterically on the phone to me about it and I just kept telling her it's going to be okay...you've done all you can...I'm here for you...just all of that. I feel so bad for her. I really don't know what to do. I was actually quite close to him as well, but I can't even imagine what she's going through right now. Her dad was the person she cared about most in her life and he wasted his life away to drinking. He had so much to live for and he just threw it all away. Ugh...what can I really do. This situation just sucks.

10-16-2007, 07:56 PM	#2
Atticus90 Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: North Carolina Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 1,194	The best thing to do is be for her when she needs a shoulder to cry on. May seem like it's not much, but it's the best thing and only thing to do. __________________ When in battle, show no mercy, for you shall receive none"

10-16-2007, 09:32 PM	#7
Hope75 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: kitteh ville Gender: Female Age: 33 Posts: 12,512	Hi There, I am sorry for your friend. Alcohol is a very powerful and addicting drug, and it can do tremendous damage, and it is legal. It is very difficult to watch a loved one battle with alcohol and even worse to watch it win. Both of my grandparents were alcoholics and ultimately it contributed to their death and destroyed their relationships with their daughter (my mom). Liver donor programs will not consider a transplant on someone who has a history of alcohol abuse that is still recent. It's very sad but they feel that giving a liver to someone who still battles with alcohol only prolongs the time until the next liver fails, and someone else who desperately needs that liver who lives a 'clean' lifestyle has a better long term prognosis. I think the best thing you can do for your friend is just be there and be supportive. ((HUGS)) __________________ Muffin cats need love too. Please refer to the forum rules before posting: http://www.enotalone.com/forum/forum-rules.php Mama to a beautiful baby girl born 6-25-09. :)

10-16-2007, 10:59 PM	#8
shyguy1 Offline Silver Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 628	Losing a parent is never easy... so I empathize with your friend. I lost my mother to stomach cancer a few years ago. I was 25 at the time.. my older sister 30.. younger brother 19 and younger sister 7. I can't speak for them.. but in speaking for myself the most helpful thing was simply having friends to talk to and to be there for me when the emotional aspect got to be too much. That's honestly the best thing you can do... simply be there for her and listen if she needs to talk about it and support her if she needs to have a good cry. It's definitely tough and having been through it myself within the last few years, it pains me to see anyone else go through it. 42 is quite young and my mother wasn't much older. It just goes to show how precious life truly is. __________________ I tried to stay away... I failed.

10-16-2007, 07:57 PM	#3
Crazyaboutdogs Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 15,631	Is there no chance of a liver transplant, or is it too late for that. Some people can be alcoholics and they end up living a long life and die of something else. It is sad when someone throws away their life like that. How old is he?