Loss of my grandmother

al627681 · 09-18-2007, 07:35 PM

I am 19 years old and a mess. On september 30th, it will be one year since I have lost my grandmother to lung cancer. I have been living in denial that she is gone and each day I just keep hoping that one day she will be back. I am a college student and find myself thinking about her all of the time while sitting in my room by myself. I need advice, and comfort, and help to get through this. I have been also looking for a book to help me get through these times but have yet to find one. Any suggestions?

Dako · 09-18-2007, 08:00 PM

I'm sorry for your loss.
Even though you might feel like she'll walk in the room any minute, you surely know better. It takes time for such a loss to become real and you may accept her presence inside your heart.

People I've lost seem to always be with me, including my grandmother.

crystalpistel11 · 09-18-2007, 08:03 PM

Im very sorry for your loss , Death of a loved one is always a hard thing to deal with . Just remember that she is no longer in pain , If she was still on the earth she would be suffering . And even though you are suffering now , she will always be in your heart ..always , you can count on that , Just think of all the good times you had with her , and how she isnt suffering anymore , that always helped me when i was in your situation , which ive been in quite a few times

Crazyaboutdogs · 09-18-2007, 08:47 PM

The first year after losing someone close to you is the hardest. You always think that last year at this time the person was still alive. After my grandmother died, I used to dream about her...in the dreams her back was to me and the minute she would turn around to face me, I would wake up. I wouldn't get to see her face in my dream. After the first year, it started getting easier. You never forget the person but the fond memories replace the pain.

Elizabeth07 · 09-18-2007, 10:09 PM

So sorry for your pain. I know it all too well
My dad passed away from lung cancer 6 months ago and it is harder now than ever. I dream about him being healthy.. and I wake up to realize he is gone. It is so hard when you realize you won't see your loved one again on this earth.
There is NOTHING easy about losing someone. I'm so sorry.
I don't know of any books that you could read. A grief counselor suggested to me to read "Hinds feet on high places" but I have yet to.
Try to focus on your fond memories of your grandma. It may bring tears because you miss her, but there is joy in those great times you shared. I hope you can find that today.
Peace and blessings to you.

al627681 · 09-24-2007, 07:36 PM

thank you for your support. i take such comfort in the fact that others are reaching out and helping me. this is such a tough week, so having support means more than the world

09-18-2007, 07:35 PM	#1
al627681 Offline Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 2	Loss of my grandmother I am 19 years old and a mess. On september 30th, it will be one year since I have lost my grandmother to lung cancer. I have been living in denial that she is gone and each day I just keep hoping that one day she will be back. I am a college student and find myself thinking about her all of the time while sitting in my room by myself. I need advice, and comfort, and help to get through this. I have been also looking for a book to help me get through these times but have yet to find one. Any suggestions?

09-18-2007, 08:00 PM	#2
Dako Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 9,113	I'm sorry for your loss. Even though you might feel like she'll walk in the room any minute, you surely know better. It takes time for such a loss to become real and you may accept her presence inside your heart. People I've lost seem to always be with me, including my grandmother.

09-18-2007, 08:03 PM	#3
crystalpistel11 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Union City Pennsylvania Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 237	Im very sorry for your loss , Death of a loved one is always a hard thing to deal with . Just remember that she is no longer in pain , If she was still on the earth she would be suffering . And even though you are suffering now , she will always be in your heart ..always , you can count on that , Just think of all the good times you had with her , and how she isnt suffering anymore , that always helped me when i was in your situation , which ive been in quite a few times

09-18-2007, 08:47 PM	#4
Crazyaboutdogs Online Platinum Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 15,627	The first year after losing someone close to you is the hardest. You always think that last year at this time the person was still alive. After my grandmother died, I used to dream about her...in the dreams her back was to me and the minute she would turn around to face me, I would wake up. I wouldn't get to see her face in my dream. After the first year, it started getting easier. You never forget the person but the fond memories replace the pain.

09-18-2007, 10:09 PM	#5
Elizabeth07 Offline Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 32	So sorry for your pain. I know it all too well My dad passed away from lung cancer 6 months ago and it is harder now than ever. I dream about him being healthy.. and I wake up to realize he is gone. It is so hard when you realize you won't see your loved one again on this earth. There is NOTHING easy about losing someone. I'm so sorry. I don't know of any books that you could read. A grief counselor suggested to me to read "Hinds feet on high places" but I have yet to. Try to focus on your fond memories of your grandma. It may bring tears because you miss her, but there is joy in those great times you shared. I hope you can find that today. Peace and blessings to you.

09-24-2007, 07:36 PM	#6
al627681 Offline Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 2	thank you for your support. i take such comfort in the fact that others are reaching out and helping me. this is such a tough week, so having support means more than the world