Sigh

HiImDalton · 08-30-2007, 01:32 PM

Well, I posted this thread a while back:

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Well, I guess this would be the place for my problem, if not...sorry.

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Anyways, I have been talking to this girl that lives in Texas (I'm in Illinois). We have been talking for a year now (online, phone, etc.). And she says she likes me and etc. She is a beautiful girl and all. But me, I'm well, a chubby guy. She says she loves me and all, but I just can't get the idea that someone like her would like someone like me...She wants to come all the way up here to see me and stuff, but I'm to scared and think she won't like me. (She has seen pics of me and such.) I like her a lot and all, but just don't think she will like me and I don't know what to do...

If you understand what I'm trying to say, any help would be appreciated.

-Dalton

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I still can't get it out of my head why she would like me. She wouldn't take notice to me if I was their (if we had never met before). So I just don't get it. She tries to say she doesn't care what I look like, but it has to matter to a certain level. She has gone out with guys that are much better looking, and I just don't get why she would like me. I know someone will say "Looks aren't the only thing that matter", but to me in my mind they do matter.

To me, if you had to pick a between two guys you didn't know, 1 being good looking, and the other one being under average, you would pick the better looking one to get to know first.

I don't get how she would be willing to come see me and such, and not care about what I look like. Going from Prime Steak to Rump Roast...

-Dalton

flower99 · 08-30-2007, 03:57 PM

don't put yourself down, dont' call yourself rump roost. Looks don't make a person. Like you said, she has dated better looking guys. However as you can see it didn't work out. They didn't have what she was looking for. She's gotten to know you & she sees the person beneth your shelll & is attracted to that person. she's has seen pictures of you,obviously likes your apperance as well (or she would have stopped talking to you)

Be confident & proud of who you are. You are a good person, with a good head on your shoudlers & a good heart. Those qualities are exteremly important and she knows that. And she likes you. Accept that & appreciate that. Even if you don't understand it. Because Unless you are a shallow person & believe she is too. You should understand someone like her liking you. Because you are obviously a likeable person.

She is a good person, cherish her. Even if you think that this is unbelievable & don't understand it. This is her. don't push her away because your afraid. Believe her words, this could be your love. She wouldn't want to come see you if she didn't truely like you.

HiImDalton · 08-30-2007, 05:17 PM

Thanks flower99 for the input.

HiImDalton · 08-30-2007, 08:12 PM

Another thing that has me worried is that she cares a lot about what she looks like. She worries about her own weight, when she is small. (5'0 : 110 Lbs). She cares a lot about how much she weighs, and it makes me think about how she will think about what I look like...Sigh.

flower99 · 08-31-2007, 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by HiImDalton

Another thing that has me worried is that she cares a lot about what she looks like. She worries about her own weight, when she is small. (5'0 : 110 Lbs). She cares a lot about how much she weighs, and it makes me think about how she will think about what I look like...Sigh.

I understand your concern.
But cheer up man. Or you will spend a life time worrying and little time appreciating & enjoying what you've got, which is a beautiful women who wants to meet you & get close...And You'll never know if this is real unless you give it a shot.

You will have to meet sometime - unless you plan on staying life long friends over the computer - but in that case you could miss out on a real connection & love. You have a lot to gain by meeting her with little to lose.

Just so you know....I care about my apperance FAR more than I do about finacee......Women are more aroused by emotional connection than looks.

HiImDalton · 08-31-2007, 05:03 PM

Thanks for the post flower99.

08-30-2007, 03:57 PM	#2
flower99 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 1,950	don't put yourself down, dont' call yourself rump roost. Looks don't make a person. Like you said, she has dated better looking guys. However as you can see it didn't work out. They didn't have what she was looking for. She's gotten to know you & she sees the person beneth your shelll & is attracted to that person. she's has seen pictures of you,obviously likes your apperance as well (or she would have stopped talking to you) Be confident & proud of who you are. You are a good person, with a good head on your shoudlers & a good heart. Those qualities are exteremly important and she knows that. And she likes you. Accept that & appreciate that. Even if you don't understand it. Because Unless you are a shallow person & believe she is too. You should understand someone like her liking you. Because you are obviously a likeable person. She is a good person, cherish her. Even if you think that this is unbelievable & don't understand it. This is her. don't push her away because your afraid. Believe her words, this could be your love. She wouldn't want to come see you if she didn't truely like you. __________________ ~Love is not gazing into each other's eyes; it is looking together in the same direction.~ ~ There are a lot of changes in life, how we react to them that matters, it's what makes us who we are. ~ Last edited by flower99; 08-30-2007 at 05:29 PM.

08-30-2007, 05:17 PM	#3
HiImDalton Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: U.S.A. - Illinois Gender: Male Posts: 48	Thanks flower99 for the input. __________________ Hi, I'm Dalton.

08-30-2007, 08:12 PM	#4
HiImDalton Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: U.S.A. - Illinois Gender: Male Posts: 48	Another thing that has me worried is that she cares a lot about what she looks like. She worries about her own weight, when she is small. (5'0 : 110 Lbs). She cares a lot about how much she weighs, and it makes me think about how she will think about what I look like...Sigh. __________________ Hi, I'm Dalton.

08-31-2007, 05:03 PM	#6
HiImDalton Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: U.S.A. - Illinois Gender: Male Posts: 48	Thanks for the post flower99. __________________ Hi, I'm Dalton.