Struggling to get by.

Byron1979 · 08-10-2007, 11:37 PM

A little over 2 months ago, I lost my job. I have been putting out applications for a long time. Just recently, I got a low paying temp job. I am glad to have work. But it is depressing all the same. I was driving to work early one morning, worrying about how I may never find something better. During the course of that thought, I hit a fire hydrant. My car is most likely totaled. I have a rental and am hoping to get a new car, even though it won't be as nice, but I feel so lost right now.

Shadows Light · 08-10-2007, 11:48 PM

Byron....

I hear ya. Look, I'm just about in the same spot you are in. I'm about to get the CORPORATE SHAFT w/o any lube... and I have 2 small children in tow. Now that darlin is scaring the be-jesus out of me.

BUT.... I have to hold it together. I have to put on my big girl panties..(as a gf of mine advised me) and keep on going.

Losing focus like you did???? Not a good thing. Consider your accident as a WARNING sign from the Universe, telling you to snap out of it. It'll be ok. This to shall pass. Something... something will come along. But it won't come along if you keep trecking in the cobwebs of your mind, worrying worrying worrying. Some worry is pretty normal. Worry that has you NOT pay attention to to your driving habits... Not good. Not good at all. How would you feel had you hit someone like me.. single mom with two small kids. You'd feel really really bad huh??? well... its the universe tellin ya... wake up. And.... it will be ok. Its just a speed bump on your journey in life.

lostjeff · 08-11-2007, 04:03 AM

At least you live on your own. I am 27 also and I live with my grandmother and have no independence. I am also perpetually broke because I am a grad student, since I didn't learn anything marketable while in undergrad. Your a better man than me.

Byron1979 · 08-11-2007, 07:09 AM

No. I don't live on my own. I live with my Dad. I'm in the same boat you are.

lostjeff · 08-11-2007, 12:26 PM

If you rent then why don't you live on your own?

Byron1979 · 08-11-2007, 07:52 PM

No. I meant that I am driving a rental car because I totaled my regular car and I haven't gotten a new one yet.

mintblossom · 08-11-2007, 10:10 PM

AWW! I am sad too. I am 27 too and I live at home. =( Still struggling to put my life back together. It sucks!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't have enough money to do anything and I worry whether I can get good jobs or even my degree. Wah! So many worries! I am so stressed out and anxious and worried.

lostjeff · 08-12-2007, 03:40 AM

It's tragic that we are living our 20's in such a sad state of affairs.

bertiepuss · 08-12-2007, 08:21 AM

its interesting us late 20 year olds feel this way, (although not the majority of us... i have many a friend who seem to be on the paths of total fulfillment in life, although its very easy to say that when you are not those people..) I'm 28 and feel i have had many a false start and endless repetetive cycles... maybe its time for me to sit back and ask the unthinkable...why? why do i always end up in the same cycle, is it because of who i essentially am. But this in turn becomes a depressing chain of thoughts. I can only believe that one can change oneself..otherwise i would become swamped in thoughts of futility...(in which i often do find myself). i guess its a case of soldiering on and to keep trying until something makes some vague sense... or the reverse accepting that maybe it never will and learning to accept that!!! Anyway..its all a hard slog..and alot of it ain't pretty..but hopefully along the way there will be those few moments that will make grand memories...and hopefully make it all worth that bit more.
Love to all.

glegend · 08-12-2007, 11:58 PM

I feel almost the same way. To me its like no matter what I do, it always always back fires one me.

08-10-2007, 11:37 PM	#1
Byron1979 Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Denver, CO Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 90	Struggling to get by. A little over 2 months ago, I lost my job. I have been putting out applications for a long time. Just recently, I got a low paying temp job. I am glad to have work. But it is depressing all the same. I was driving to work early one morning, worrying about how I may never find something better. During the course of that thought, I hit a fire hydrant. My car is most likely totaled. I have a rental and am hoping to get a new car, even though it won't be as nice, but I feel so lost right now.

08-10-2007, 11:48 PM	#2
Shadows Light Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Gender: Female Posts: 2,561	Byron.... I hear ya. Look, I'm just about in the same spot you are in. I'm about to get the CORPORATE SHAFT w/o any lube... and I have 2 small children in tow. Now that darlin is scaring the be-jesus out of me. BUT.... I have to hold it together. I have to put on my big girl panties..(as a gf of mine advised me) and keep on going. Losing focus like you did???? Not a good thing. Consider your accident as a WARNING sign from the Universe, telling you to snap out of it. It'll be ok. This to shall pass. Something... something will come along. But it won't come along if you keep trecking in the cobwebs of your mind, worrying worrying worrying. Some worry is pretty normal. Worry that has you NOT pay attention to to your driving habits... Not good. Not good at all. How would you feel had you hit someone like me.. single mom with two small kids. You'd feel really really bad huh??? well... its the universe tellin ya... wake up. And.... it will be ok. Its just a speed bump on your journey in life. __________________ "Sit vis vobiscum." "nemo me impune lacessit" "Libera Te Ex Inferis" "Homo sapiens non urinat in ventum"

08-12-2007, 11:58 PM	#10
glegend Offline Gold Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Toronto, Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 2,429	I feel almost the same way. To me its like no matter what I do, it always always back fires one me. __________________ The car doesn't make the driver, the driver makes the car It's not the ride, it's the rider.

08-11-2007, 04:03 AM	#3
lostjeff Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 39	At least you live on your own. I am 27 also and I live with my grandmother and have no independence. I am also perpetually broke because I am a grad student, since I didn't learn anything marketable while in undergrad. Your a better man than me.

08-11-2007, 07:09 AM	#4
Byron1979 Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Denver, CO Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 90	No. I don't live on my own. I live with my Dad. I'm in the same boat you are.

08-11-2007, 12:26 PM	#5
lostjeff Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 39	If you rent then why don't you live on your own?

08-11-2007, 07:52 PM	#6
Byron1979 Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Denver, CO Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 90	No. I meant that I am driving a rental car because I totaled my regular car and I haven't gotten a new one yet.

08-11-2007, 10:10 PM	#7
mintblossom Offline Gold Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 914	AWW! I am sad too. I am 27 too and I live at home. =( Still struggling to put my life back together. It sucks!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't have enough money to do anything and I worry whether I can get good jobs or even my degree. Wah! So many worries! I am so stressed out and anxious and worried.

08-12-2007, 03:40 AM	#8
lostjeff Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 39	It's tragic that we are living our 20's in such a sad state of affairs.

08-12-2007, 08:21 AM	#9
bertiepuss Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 3	its interesting us late 20 year olds feel this way, (although not the majority of us... i have many a friend who seem to be on the paths of total fulfillment in life, although its very easy to say that when you are not those people..) I'm 28 and feel i have had many a false start and endless repetetive cycles... maybe its time for me to sit back and ask the unthinkable...why? why do i always end up in the same cycle, is it because of who i essentially am. But this in turn becomes a depressing chain of thoughts. I can only believe that one can change oneself..otherwise i would become swamped in thoughts of futility...(in which i often do find myself). i guess its a case of soldiering on and to keep trying until something makes some vague sense... or the reverse accepting that maybe it never will and learning to accept that!!! Anyway..its all a hard slog..and alot of it ain't pretty..but hopefully along the way there will be those few moments that will make grand memories...and hopefully make it all worth that bit more. Love to all.