Feeling like a teenager

xray · 07-17-2007, 06:13 AM

Hey,
I have a little question for you. I do feel kinda weird asking this here as usually I know what I am doing and I thought I was pretty good with people and being able to understand situations (sorry for the english, but I think you know what I mean.)

Anyways, there is this girl at work. I have seen her around over the past months in the halls in the cantina etc. WHen we see each other she smiles at me and I smile back. Whole last week I was thinking of approaching her, then friday came and I saw her whilst she was just on her way out. I went up to her, not really knowing what to say (which is strange because I usually do, but with her I felt different.. felt like it was too important to just start with some crappy line) To my surprise she started the conversation with "Hey, whats your name, we've been seeing each other so often and you always smile so nicely" After the ice was broken by this line we got talking and spent about half and hour talking about a million things.. she asked me what my job was in the company, how old I was etc..." Anyhow I had to get back into the office and she needed to go home. I told her I would send her an email on monday....

Monday came and I send her an email... all weekend I thought about how Id phrase that mail so I dont sound stupid or asking to much and so on...
I asked about her weekend and how it feels to be back in the office on a monday with beautiful weather outside. Last line was casually asking if she would care to eat lunch with me in the cantina this noon or if she had other plans already.

Now here's the problem, I didnt receive an answer. Nothing. Went to lunch with my collegues and saw her (at first I thought she might be sick at home and therefore I didnt reveice an answer) eating with some collegue... now the problem is not that she was eating with a guy... no.. that could be a collegue or whatever, but the least I expected was something like a short answer to my email. I mean we had such a nice talk, how can she just ignore that? Tuesday today, still no mail and I really dont know what to think of that.
Any ideas, any help? Just find this is pretty rude, even if she has a bf or whatever, after our conversation a short note back would have been the least?

Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll · 07-17-2007, 09:08 AM

i never get it? the woman smiles at you and you smile back so you have some type of repor.......whats hard about approaching her? just go up too her when its conveinent and start talking about w/e cross your mind. i mean its not like me, beacuse i have too worry about approaching women ive never seen before. you worry too much when i know i have a repor with a female in some way i just approach them, it dosent matter what they think or if they think your a tard or anything 9/10 if they smilin at you they aint thinking that anyway.........just go up and approach her and talk, but please dont ask nothing personal. just talk as if she is a freind thats all you need and let it progress from there.

xray · 07-17-2007, 09:38 AM

we talked alright. The point is not the approaching point. i have no issues with that whatsoever and totally agree with you.
The point is that I thought exactly the same and now am seemingly on the "ignore list"

ghost69 · 07-18-2007, 02:39 PM

you are on the ignore list? you talked again face to face right? did she shut you down or something. i'm lost on your response to sweet butta.

maybe she has a filter on her email. you got blocked somehow. who knows. i'd try and conversate in person a second time. this will tell you if she is into talking with you more.

07-17-2007, 06:13 AM	#1
xray Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 6	Feeling like a teenager Hey, I have a little question for you. I do feel kinda weird asking this here as usually I know what I am doing and I thought I was pretty good with people and being able to understand situations (sorry for the english, but I think you know what I mean.) Anyways, there is this girl at work. I have seen her around over the past months in the halls in the cantina etc. WHen we see each other she smiles at me and I smile back. Whole last week I was thinking of approaching her, then friday came and I saw her whilst she was just on her way out. I went up to her, not really knowing what to say (which is strange because I usually do, but with her I felt different.. felt like it was too important to just start with some crappy line) To my surprise she started the conversation with "Hey, whats your name, we've been seeing each other so often and you always smile so nicely" After the ice was broken by this line we got talking and spent about half and hour talking about a million things.. she asked me what my job was in the company, how old I was etc..." Anyhow I had to get back into the office and she needed to go home. I told her I would send her an email on monday.... Monday came and I send her an email... all weekend I thought about how Id phrase that mail so I dont sound stupid or asking to much and so on... I asked about her weekend and how it feels to be back in the office on a monday with beautiful weather outside. Last line was casually asking if she would care to eat lunch with me in the cantina this noon or if she had other plans already. Now here's the problem, I didnt receive an answer. Nothing. Went to lunch with my collegues and saw her (at first I thought she might be sick at home and therefore I didnt reveice an answer) eating with some collegue... now the problem is not that she was eating with a guy... no.. that could be a collegue or whatever, but the least I expected was something like a short answer to my email. I mean we had such a nice talk, how can she just ignore that? Tuesday today, still no mail and I really dont know what to think of that. Any ideas, any help? Just find this is pretty rude, even if she has a bf or whatever, after our conversation a short note back would have been the least? Last edited by xray; 07-17-2007 at 06:28 AM.

07-18-2007, 02:39 PM	#4
ghost69 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Desert Gender: Male Posts: 33,424	you are on the ignore list? you talked again face to face right? did she shut you down or something. i'm lost on your response to sweet butta. maybe she has a filter on her email. you got blocked somehow. who knows. i'd try and conversate in person a second time. this will tell you if she is into talking with you more. __________________ Not only am I friendly, but I'm invisible too. Too perfect of a relationship is too weird-g69 If you say you are normal, I'd think you are weird-g69 The world can only get better, it depends on how you look at it-g69 'As wicked as you are, you're beautiful to me'-5fingerdeathpunch you cannot control the world, you can only live in it the best you can for you-g69 NooOoOoooOOoOoOoooooo

07-17-2007, 09:08 AM	#2
Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll Offline Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: ...Super Bowl 43... Gender: Male Posts: 3,073	i never get it? the woman smiles at you and you smile back so you have some type of repor.......whats hard about approaching her? just go up too her when its conveinent and start talking about w/e cross your mind. i mean its not like me, beacuse i have too worry about approaching women ive never seen before. you worry too much when i know i have a repor with a female in some way i just approach them, it dosent matter what they think or if they think your a tard or anything 9/10 if they smilin at you they aint thinking that anyway.........just go up and approach her and talk, but please dont ask nothing personal. just talk as if she is a freind thats all you need and let it progress from there.

07-17-2007, 09:38 AM	#3
xray Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 6	we talked alright. The point is not the approaching point. i have no issues with that whatsoever and totally agree with you. The point is that I thought exactly the same and now am seemingly on the "ignore list"