Anyone have Genital Acne

Clue-Less · 07-09-2007, 01:29 PM

So I have a problem called Hidradenitis Suppurativa (it’s like acne located in the grone, under arms, adn around the breasts, the bumps are like raisin size they turn red and blue and are extremely sensitive), my condition is not server it’s just maintained in the butt cheek region and slightly on the inner thigh, but is scars my skin leaves it discolored and leaves crater like holes. I’ve been to numerous doctors about this problem and have no success stories, just cleansers and getting anti-inflammatory medicine injected into them (let me just say OUCH!!!!!).

Because of this problem I have serious body self-esteem issues about down there I am afraid to be with men. My friends say that I am being foolish for feeling like this and if I explain my situation to the guy if he really cares about me then won’t care. But I just can’t possible see how. Its like convincing someone you don’t have an SDT, they have to have some serious faith in you to believe you. This really inhibits me from being sexually forward which I really want to be. Not like a "easy girl" or anything but comfortable in my own skin (ironic) to say the least.

My questions are, does anyone here have this disorder or have a partner with this disorder, and how did it make you feel. Did you resist from having a sexual realationship with this person at first?
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If you were to come across a person with this disorder what would be your reaction?

I really don't talk to alot of people about this, and have never talked to anyone else that does have, and woud love to get diff peoples views on the condition.

Thanks

CelesteSeven · 07-09-2007, 02:21 PM

wow, I just googled Hidradenitis Suppurativa and it looks like it can be pretty bad sometimes. When I read the title, I thought you just meant pimples in the groin area... I get that (very rarely) and I know other people who get that too... THAT is common.

I've never seen that in someone's genital area, but there was a guy at my high school who had this REALLY BAD on his face and neck (i don't know if it was limited to just that are). In middle school, he really didn't have acne... but in high school, his face was just covered. There wasn't an inch of his face and neck that didn't have huge acne bumps.

But EVERYONE in high school was nice about it... meaning, they didn't make fun of him. We had some pretty mean kids, and still, no one made fun of him or talked about it or ostracized him for it. In fact, he was one of the popular kids. No one treated him any differently.

I'm sure he was self-concious about it, who wouldn't be? But everyone understood and no one saw him for his acne, they saw him for him. Even now in college, he seems to have a lot of friends and looks like he's having a good time. He doesn't let this get in his way.

I had bad acne in high school. And even though I'm in college, I still somewhat struggle with it. I don't wear cover up makeup or anything... I just wear eye shadow and some blush (hypoallergenic) and still, I get acne all on my jaw line.

At least you don't have this stuff on your face! But I think a guy who is not a douchebag will still be with you despite this thing you have. I know what it's like to have really embarassing acne (not just the run-of-the-mill stuff), so I would definitely not judge a guy who had this condition.

Everyone has something that makes them really self-concious. For me, it's my teeth. I'm sure any guy you come across will have his own problem. And he won't so much look at your problem as he will his own and he'll obsess over whether you think his problem is unattractive.

I'm sure you'll find an understanding guy... there are many of them out there.

Clue-Less · 07-11-2007, 11:10 AM

By the lack of response either no one has encounter this problem before of people really don't want to be honest with me and tell me how they would react to a parnter with this condition.

Thanks celestseven, i'll try to think more optasmistially with this, every one has there hang ups my is just more physically them mentaly haha. thanks.

**BellaDonna** · 07-11-2007, 12:49 PM

Hi there. Although I personally do not have this condition, or know someone who does, from what you described:

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my condition is not server it’s just maintained in the butt cheek region and slightly on the inner thigh, but is scars my skin leaves it discolored and leaves crater like holes

It sounds like you are taking care of yourself as much as you can and that you have it somewhat under control. I think the right person could see beyond it, especially if you educated them about it and let them know that a) it is NOT an STD, b) it is not contagious

I also am a true believer in the concept that if you make a big deal out of something, people will then think it is a big deal- but if you are confident and treat it as something that is not a big deal, they will be more relaxed. In ther words, they will follow YOUR lead.

This is something you could bring up rather casually in conversation (don't wait until it's time to have sex- you are more vulnerable then) But when you're talking to someone you're dating, and you get the opportunity- just say something along the lines of "I have a condition where I get this acne on my upper legs and it's really a pain " and just leave it at that. If the person asks questions, answer them honestly.

Nonchalance is key.

07-09-2007, 01:29 PM	#1
Clue-Less Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 10	Anyone have Genital Acne So I have a problem called Hidradenitis Suppurativa (it’s like acne located in the grone, under arms, adn around the breasts, the bumps are like raisin size they turn red and blue and are extremely sensitive), my condition is not server it’s just maintained in the butt cheek region and slightly on the inner thigh, but is scars my skin leaves it discolored and leaves crater like holes. I’ve been to numerous doctors about this problem and have no success stories, just cleansers and getting anti-inflammatory medicine injected into them (let me just say OUCH!!!!!). Because of this problem I have serious body self-esteem issues about down there I am afraid to be with men. My friends say that I am being foolish for feeling like this and if I explain my situation to the guy if he really cares about me then won’t care. But I just can’t possible see how. Its like convincing someone you don’t have an SDT, they have to have some serious faith in you to believe you. This really inhibits me from being sexually forward which I really want to be. Not like a "easy girl" or anything but comfortable in my own skin (ironic) to say the least. My questions are, does anyone here have this disorder or have a partner with this disorder, and how did it make you feel. Did you resist from having a sexual realationship with this person at first? & If you were to come across a person with this disorder what would be your reaction? I really don't talk to alot of people about this, and have never talked to anyone else that does have, and woud love to get diff peoples views on the condition. Thanks

07-09-2007, 02:21 PM	#2
CelesteSeven Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: United States Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 223	wow, I just googled Hidradenitis Suppurativa and it looks like it can be pretty bad sometimes. When I read the title, I thought you just meant pimples in the groin area... I get that (very rarely) and I know other people who get that too... THAT is common. I've never seen that in someone's genital area, but there was a guy at my high school who had this REALLY BAD on his face and neck (i don't know if it was limited to just that are). In middle school, he really didn't have acne... but in high school, his face was just covered. There wasn't an inch of his face and neck that didn't have huge acne bumps. But EVERYONE in high school was nice about it... meaning, they didn't make fun of him. We had some pretty mean kids, and still, no one made fun of him or talked about it or ostracized him for it. In fact, he was one of the popular kids. No one treated him any differently. I'm sure he was self-concious about it, who wouldn't be? But everyone understood and no one saw him for his acne, they saw him for him. Even now in college, he seems to have a lot of friends and looks like he's having a good time. He doesn't let this get in his way. I had bad acne in high school. And even though I'm in college, I still somewhat struggle with it. I don't wear cover up makeup or anything... I just wear eye shadow and some blush (hypoallergenic) and still, I get acne all on my jaw line. At least you don't have this stuff on your face! But I think a guy who is not a douchebag will still be with you despite this thing you have. I know what it's like to have really embarassing acne (not just the run-of-the-mill stuff), so I would definitely not judge a guy who had this condition. Everyone has something that makes them really self-concious. For me, it's my teeth. I'm sure any guy you come across will have his own problem. And he won't so much look at your problem as he will his own and he'll obsess over whether you think his problem is unattractive. I'm sure you'll find an understanding guy... there are many of them out there. __________________ my name is Shake Zula, the mic rulah, the old schoola.

07-11-2007, 11:10 AM	#3
Clue-Less Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 10	By the lack of response either no one has encounter this problem before of people really don't want to be honest with me and tell me how they would react to a parnter with this condition. Thanks celestseven, i'll try to think more optasmistially with this, every one has there hang ups my is just more physically them mentaly haha. thanks.