What's the psychology behind...

Confused_Dude · 07-05-2007, 03:10 PM

Greetings,

I'm trying to understand by STBX girlfriend and am wondering what's the psychology behind:

Women who hate receiving cunnilingus?

Women who get breast implants but then completely freak out when men look at them (not their breasts specifically but them in general)?

Women who hate French kissing?

Any thoughts are appreciated

Confused Dude

Beec · 07-05-2007, 03:31 PM

Not sure about any of that. I could see a woman not comfortable with her how her genitals looked, or who thought cunnilingus was sinful not liking it. The rest, no idea. But what does it matter? If you meet such a woman, and she ius not for you, RUN, run quickly away from her.

Confused_Dude · 07-05-2007, 03:57 PM

Truthfully I am just wondering. I've been trying to figure this woman out for far too long. And didn't run when I should have. So - if anyone has any thoughts it helps with my processing of the madness I've been going through.

Thanks!

Confused Dude

Aurian · 07-05-2007, 04:00 PM

Women who hate receiving cunnilingus?
Lots of women worry about how they smell and look down there and feel uncomfortable at the attention. Beec is also right that some think it is sinful.

Women who get breast implants but then completely freak out when men look at them (not their breasts specifically but them in general)?
Because they get the implants because they think men are interested only in big boobs and having men look at them means they are right - men only want big boobs? *shrug*

Women who hate French kissing?
Maybe guys in the past have been too aggressive with their tongues or too "messy" and now they are adverse to it.

DN · 07-05-2007, 04:03 PM

It is generally hazardous to diagnose what is wrong based on symptoms posted online, especially at third hand.

What you need to concentrate on for your purposes is that she is unwilling to recognise she has symptoms of a problem and therefore will not see someone about finding out what is the cause.

ycmanvs · 07-05-2007, 04:12 PM

If all those things are part of the same woman, then I would say she has some serious issues with her body image and her sexuality. She needs professional help. She may have been abused or she may just have other psychological problems.

Wounded · 07-05-2007, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Aurian

Women who get breast implants but then completely freak out when men look at them (not their breasts specifically but them in general)?
Because they get the implants because they think men are interested only in big boobs and having men look at them means they are right - men only want big boobs? *shrug*

Thanks for the generalization. Actually I prefer natural, smaller chests like A-C's. Fake breasts and oversized ones at that really are a turn off for me. Kinda sad that most women think all men like fake, large breasts. I really wish my wife never got her's and I even told her not to but hey, its' her body.

Aurian · 07-05-2007, 04:41 PM

I didn't mean I felt this way, just that some women feel this way - that men are interested in large breasts and when they get attention with fake large breasts, it just reinforces it (while they may have gotten that attention anyway).

jettison · 07-05-2007, 04:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DN

It is generally hazardous to diagnose what is wrong based on symptoms posted online, especially at third hand.

What you need to concentrate on for your purposes is that she is unwilling to recognise she has symptoms of a problem and therefore will not see someone about finding out what is the cause.

True, but she may not see any of these "problems" as problems. Right now, they're only a problem for the poster. If the poster is her BF, then it will become her problem as well if he leaves her though.

jettison · 07-05-2007, 04:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aurian

I didn't mean I felt this way, just that some women feel this way - that men are interested in large breasts and when they get attention with fake large breasts, it just reinforces it (while they may have gotten that attention anyway).

Aurian is right. Men reinforce these steretypes all the time.

07-05-2007, 03:10 PM	#1
Confused_Dude Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 50	What's the psychology behind... Greetings, I'm trying to understand by STBX girlfriend and am wondering what's the psychology behind: Women who hate receiving cunnilingus? Women who get breast implants but then completely freak out when men look at them (not their breasts specifically but them in general)? Women who hate French kissing? Any thoughts are appreciated Confused Dude

07-05-2007, 03:31 PM	#2
Beec Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: New York Posts: 7,556	Not sure about any of that. I could see a woman not comfortable with her how her genitals looked, or who thought cunnilingus was sinful not liking it. The rest, no idea. But what does it matter? If you meet such a woman, and she ius not for you, RUN, run quickly away from her. __________________ "Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained." C.S. Lewis--Answers to Questions on Christianity

07-05-2007, 04:00 PM	#4
Aurian Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Vancouver, Canada Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 2,364	Women who hate receiving cunnilingus? Lots of women worry about how they smell and look down there and feel uncomfortable at the attention. Beec is also right that some think it is sinful. Women who get breast implants but then completely freak out when men look at them (not their breasts specifically but them in general)? Because they get the implants because they think men are interested only in big boobs and having men look at them means they are right - men only want big boobs? shrug Women who hate French kissing? Maybe guys in the past have been too aggressive with their tongues or too "messy" and now they are adverse to it. __________________ How to spot a loser and understanding the abused victim: http://www.drjoecarver.com/3/miscellaneous2.htm Excellent articles!

07-05-2007, 04:03 PM	#5
DN Online Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 23,444	It is generally hazardous to diagnose what is wrong based on symptoms posted online, especially at third hand. What you need to concentrate on for your purposes is that she is unwilling to recognise she has symptoms of a problem and therefore will not see someone about finding out what is the cause. __________________ Immaturity is not defined by him not doing what you want him to do. Hartman's Law of Prescriptivist Retaliation: "any article or statement about correct grammar, punctuation, or spelling is bound to contain at least one eror".

07-05-2007, 04:41 PM	#8
Aurian Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Vancouver, Canada Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 2,364	I didn't mean I felt this way, just that some women feel this way - that men are interested in large breasts and when they get attention with fake large breasts, it just reinforces it (while they may have gotten that attention anyway). __________________ How to spot a loser and understanding the abused victim: http://www.drjoecarver.com/3/miscellaneous2.htm Excellent articles!

07-05-2007, 03:57 PM	#3
Confused_Dude Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 50	Truthfully I am just wondering. I've been trying to figure this woman out for far too long. And didn't run when I should have. So - if anyone has any thoughts it helps with my processing of the madness I've been going through. Thanks! Confused Dude

07-05-2007, 04:12 PM	#6
ycmanvs Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: New England Gender: None Specified Posts: 2,836	If all those things are part of the same woman, then I would say she has some serious issues with her body image and her sexuality. She needs professional help. She may have been abused or she may just have other psychological problems.