How to tell if he's a player?

[mintblossom]

Really important question here. How do I tell if a guy is sincere or not?

Or just telling me what I want to hear, and what's flattering?

How do I tell if a guy is a player?

[Dako]

If you don't give him what he expects, and he stays attentive.
Players won't waste time if they don't get a cookie.
Some other woman will do.

[Zackinlaw]

Players won't waste time if they don't get a cookie.
Some other woman will do.

Yeah, I have a female friend who gives it up pretty much right away, and wonders why she keeps getting played.

[fnlyfrei]

Players usually wear uniforms.... Oh, wait, you meant the one eyebrow higher than the other, snappin' his fingers wearing gold chains kind of players! I have known a few of THOSE !

One very good way to tell a player is that the species tend to act very vague, they never tell you when they will definitely call, they never bring up exclusivity, and they usually get straight to the sex, not much "Getting to know you stuff"...they don't wanna know you. They are too busy. They will tell you nice things, because it's hard to tell a woman to just disrobe and hop into bed. You will know. You can actually feel sincerity. Oh, yeah, and if you do stay the night, at 7 am you might hear some other woman downstairs, outside, knocking at the door...then cursing him as she walks away. Big sign there...

[p_fred]

Don't be easy and ask a lot of questions about what he has been doing while you are apart. His answers (or lack of) should give him away.

You really have to hand it to the players. They get a lot of women and then make them hate men (instead of the player) which makes it so much harder for the regular guy just looking for a normal relationship. Of course there is the female version of the player too so its really unfortunate that the nice people are always the ones getting taken advantage of. If two players "play" each other, neither cares so it ends in a "draw"

Take it slow and hopefully you won't get played.

[annie24]

If you don't give him what he expects, and he stays attentive.
Players won't waste time if they don't get a cookie.
Some other woman will do.

yup! pretty much!

the test of time will let you know. and like fred said, don't be easy. if he doesn't get sex, and he's still coming around, it's possible that he really likes you for you. take a few months to get to know him. see if he is a man of his word. does he do what he says he will? is he respectful and attentive to you? does he ask you out on dates in advance, or are they spur of the moment, last minute things all the time?

time is really on your side here.

[Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll]

Really important question here. How do I tell if a guy is sincere or not?

Or just telling me what I want to hear, and what's flattering?

How do I tell if a guy is a player?

only time can answer that question

[ghost69]

you never know until you find out. there are some signs though.

-doesn't call all the time unless they want something
-calls really late
-never wants to take you out
-calls to 'see what you are doing'

those are some things i used to do back in the day.

[mintblossom]

you never know until you find out. there are some signs though.

-doesn't call all the time unless they want something
-calls really late
-never wants to take you out
-calls to 'see what you are doing'

those are some things i used to do back in the day.

what do you mean by want something? what do they want?

what is considered late?

you mean he doesn't want to go to a restaurant or something?

what is 'see what you are doing' mean??

help. need more detail.

[ghost69]

what do you mean by want something? what do they want? want to hang out? doing anything? can i come over?

what is considered late? pretty much any time after 10pm. usually a lot of drunk dialing happens when the bars close.

you mean he doesn't want to go to a restaurant or something? he never takes you out anywhere in public. a bar/club doesn't count. but yeah, never takes you out to dinner, etc.

what is 'see what you are doing' mean?? i would always call to see 'what's going on'. it was an easy way to get asked over.

help. need more detail.

hope that explanation helps.