Tall, skinny guys

Tony Harrison · 06-19-2007, 05:55 AM

Hi people

I've not had a huge amount of success with women, partly due to confidence and anxiety issues. I've spent the last 6 months or so seeing a therapist and a hypnotherapist about these, and now I'm feeling more confident in approaching women.

The one thing that still bothers me is my 'skinny' frame. Smaller guys can probably get away with it, but when you're 6ft 3" it's probably the first thing a girl notices.

So basically what I'm asking is - are girls put off by skinny people like myself from the beginning? Am I doomed even before I open my mouth? I've tried to bulk myself up but my motabolism is just ridiculous.

Please let me know what you think - and be honest!

sandyv · 06-19-2007, 06:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tony Harrison

Hi people

I've not had a huge amount of success with women, partly due to confidence and anxiety issues. I've spent the last 6 months or so seeing a therapist and a hypnotherapist about these, and now I'm feeling more confident in approaching women.

The one thing that still bothers me is my 'skinny' frame. Smaller guys can probably get away with it, but when you're 6ft 3" it's probably the first thing a girl notices.

So basically what I'm asking is - are girls put off by skinny people like myself from the beginning? Am I doomed even before I open my mouth? I've tried to bulk myself up but my motabolism is just ridiculous.

Please let me know what you think - and be honest!

Hey Tony, I'm sorry to hear about you going through these issues.

I think all of us have some doubts about whether or not we are viewed by the opposite sex as attractive or not. There is always something about one self that we think others will not like. I'm pretty short 5 ft, 1 inch and feel inferior about that! I won't go out the door without heels.

But guess what? I like tall skinny guys, I seem to have a track record of falling for that type, so the short answer to your question is yes, I think many girls are attracted to that sort. I know alot of them that are! On the other hand I don't like short guys, (strange I know, being short myself!) I think maybe once you can control your anxiety about this kind of thing, you may find that you have more luck.

Good luck, and try to feel good about yourself, theres nothing wrong with being tall and skinny!

Sandy

Leonhart · 06-19-2007, 07:54 AM

I think I'm tall and thin... not too sure these days. lol

Seriously though, I've been in the same boat as you. And chances are, your metabolism is super-fast, just like mine. Do you work out? Definitely do some weight-training, if you can. You'll still be 'skinny,' as you put it, but at least you'll have some muscle to show then.

As for your success with women... that will depend. Some girls like thin guys, some don't care either way, some will vehemently hate it. It all depends on the girl. I don't think you're doomed in any capacity, unless you believe you are. And it doesn't sound like you do, which is good. I've had some amazing-looking girls interested in me, and some not-so-amazing looking ones as well. As I said, it largely depends on the individual and her tastes, which will vary accordingly.

I've dated some good looking girls too, so being thin was not a problem for them, which means there should be some girls around you who like you as well! Besides, being tall is an asset; women like tall guys. Being thin shouldn't be a problem for most, but for the few it is, what do you care? If they don't like you, they're not worth your time anyway, right?

Definitely continue to work on your confidence, regardless of your height or weight. Nothing is more repulsive than a guy who is unsure of himself. That said, your height is an asset... be proud of it! And your weight, isn't as much of a liability as you may think!

I've learned how to appreciate my God-given physique and be proud of my differences from the rest of the masses. I encourage you to do the same.

StarLily · 06-19-2007, 08:10 AM

Noo be happy that you're tall and skinny.. If you were short and skinny, you would have more problems getting a girl.

definitely_maybe · 06-19-2007, 08:47 AM

If you've got game, you can still make it work.

Jeffrey2095 · 06-19-2007, 10:03 AM

Hi Tony,

I guess I'm tall and skinny too, although I work out pretty regularly.

My whole life I have felt the way you do, I was always the one who was looked over in the romance dept.

One day I was sunbathing with a couple chicks, (not nude) and they started commenting about some of our friends.

"So and so is a hunk." "So and so has a burly chest etc."

Well, to my great surprise, one of em turned to me and said, "Yeah, but Jeff has the body!"

I was dumbfounded.

Skinny ol' me has "the body"?

They went on to say that I had great definition and tone...

Jeffr

Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll · 06-19-2007, 10:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tony Harrison

Hi people

I've not had a huge amount of success with women, partly due to confidence and anxiety issues. I've spent the last 6 months or so seeing a therapist and a hypnotherapist about these, and now I'm feeling more confident in approaching women.

The one thing that still bothers me is my 'skinny' frame. Smaller guys can probably get away with it, but when you're 6ft 3" it's probably the first thing a girl notices.

So basically what I'm asking is - are girls put off by skinny people like myself from the beginning? Am I doomed even before I open my mouth? I've tried to bulk myself up but my motabolism is just ridiculous.

Please let me know what you think - and be honest!

swagger
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swagger
swagger
swagger

stop trying to guess what females think, they like men with swagger who are self confident and know that they are somebody......im fat and tall but yet i can get a females attention cz i think im sexy no no no i know that im sexy......i know who sweet buttabean jellayroll (please say tha jellay when you say the boys name) swagger swagger self confidence, thats all u need........

Weeblie · 06-19-2007, 10:16 AM

Honestly, I think it depends on the person. Everyone has their own idea of what is attractive, but I don't think it's something that always matters.

Like, the older I get, the less a person's physical looks seem to matter. When I was younger, I used to have a list of things I wanted a guy to look like (tall and skinny was on it

), but now I realize that's not as important.

bulletproof · 06-19-2007, 10:30 AM

I know a guy who's very tall and thin, and he is extremely attractive until he opens his mouth to complain about how he never gets girls because he's not a big guy. We all tell him that he's gorgeous, and he just doesn't get it.

I think you just have to know how to work it. Look at super skinny rockstar-type guys. They wear clothes that work for them, and they have a lot of confidence to go with it.

Btw- is Tony Harrison a Boosh reference?

PocoDiablo · 06-19-2007, 10:39 AM

I'm 6' 4" and weigh 155 pounds. I can pick up the hottest of chicks (who are usually brain dead, ugh!) and flirt better than any of my friends. I think I am average to good looking.

Your body has a little to do with meeting women, but your MOUTH is the killer. Your whole attitude is a bummer. Just from looking at your post you come across like a whipped puppy. You likely don't need therapy, you need to learn how to flirt, how to talk to women, how to date, how to be a good lover ... and none of that has anything to do with your frame.

It has everything to do with your brain.

As soon as you get over the "poor me" attitude and go soak up everything you can about being social, sexual, mature, adult, fun to be with, charming ... you'll be turning women down left and right.

Eight years ago, I felt the same way as you do now. I have spent the past 8 years getting a clue (although it really only took about 2-3 months to get going, now I am fine-tuning) and things are great.

This is a start for you: [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]

While I don't agree with most of the content on that site, it's what I stumbled across when I was in your shoes. It sparked my mind to find other resources, which I did. My friends now are often amazed by my ability to be friendly and fun, and we always have a great time when we go out.

Search the internet, search Amazon.com, see what you can find to help you. Only buy something with good reviews, though, and don't buy more than one book at a time - only when you finish one should you move on to the next one.

Good luck, killer!

06-19-2007, 05:55 AM	#1
Tony Harrison Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: England Posts: 14	Tall, skinny guys Hi people I've not had a huge amount of success with women, partly due to confidence and anxiety issues. I've spent the last 6 months or so seeing a therapist and a hypnotherapist about these, and now I'm feeling more confident in approaching women. The one thing that still bothers me is my 'skinny' frame. Smaller guys can probably get away with it, but when you're 6ft 3" it's probably the first thing a girl notices. So basically what I'm asking is - are girls put off by skinny people like myself from the beginning? Am I doomed even before I open my mouth? I've tried to bulk myself up but my motabolism is just ridiculous. Please let me know what you think - and be honest!

06-19-2007, 07:54 AM	#3
Leonhart Offline Join Date: Feb 2007 Gender: None Specified Posts: 2,411	I think I'm tall and thin... not too sure these days. lol Seriously though, I've been in the same boat as you. And chances are, your metabolism is super-fast, just like mine. Do you work out? Definitely do some weight-training, if you can. You'll still be 'skinny,' as you put it, but at least you'll have some muscle to show then. As for your success with women... that will depend. Some girls like thin guys, some don't care either way, some will vehemently hate it. It all depends on the girl. I don't think you're doomed in any capacity, unless you believe you are. And it doesn't sound like you do, which is good. I've had some amazing-looking girls interested in me, and some not-so-amazing looking ones as well. As I said, it largely depends on the individual and her tastes, which will vary accordingly. I've dated some good looking girls too, so being thin was not a problem for them, which means there should be some girls around you who like you as well! Besides, being tall is an asset; women like tall guys. Being thin shouldn't be a problem for most, but for the few it is, what do you care? If they don't like you, they're not worth your time anyway, right? Definitely continue to work on your confidence, regardless of your height or weight. Nothing is more repulsive than a guy who is unsure of himself. That said, your height is an asset... be proud of it! And your weight, isn't as much of a liability as you may think! I've learned how to appreciate my God-given physique and be proud of my differences from the rest of the masses. I encourage you to do the same. Last edited by Leonhart; 06-19-2007 at 07:58 AM.

06-19-2007, 10:03 AM	#6
Jeffrey2095 Offline Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 783	Hi Tony, I guess I'm tall and skinny too, although I work out pretty regularly. My whole life I have felt the way you do, I was always the one who was looked over in the romance dept. One day I was sunbathing with a couple chicks, (not nude) and they started commenting about some of our friends. "So and so is a hunk." "So and so has a burly chest etc." Well, to my great surprise, one of em turned to me and said, "Yeah, but Jeff has the body!" I was dumbfounded. Skinny ol' me has "the body"? They went on to say that I had great definition and tone... Jeffr Last edited by Jeffrey2095; 06-19-2007 at 10:05 AM.

06-19-2007, 10:39 AM	#10
PocoDiablo Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Springfield, VA Gender: Male Age: 40 Posts: 2,423	I'm 6' 4" and weigh 155 pounds. I can pick up the hottest of chicks (who are usually brain dead, ugh!) and flirt better than any of my friends. I think I am average to good looking. Your body has a little to do with meeting women, but your MOUTH is the killer. Your whole attitude is a bummer. Just from looking at your post you come across like a whipped puppy. You likely don't need therapy, you need to learn how to flirt, how to talk to women, how to date, how to be a good lover ... and none of that has anything to do with your frame. It has everything to do with your brain. As soon as you get over the "poor me" attitude and go soak up everything you can about being social, sexual, mature, adult, fun to be with, charming ... you'll be turning women down left and right. Eight years ago, I felt the same way as you do now. I have spent the past 8 years getting a clue (although it really only took about 2-3 months to get going, now I am fine-tuning) and things are great. This is a start for you: [Only registered and activated users can see links. ] While I don't agree with most of the content on that site, it's what I stumbled across when I was in your shoes. It sparked my mind to find other resources, which I did. My friends now are often amazed by my ability to be friendly and fun, and we always have a great time when we go out. Search the internet, search Amazon.com, see what you can find to help you. Only buy something with good reviews, though, and don't buy more than one book at a time - only when you finish one should you move on to the next one. Good luck, killer! __________________ Advice given is only as good as the details you provide, and even then it's just an opinion. No one knows the situation as well as you do, so trust your gut.

06-19-2007, 08:10 AM	#4
StarLily Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 1,272	Noo be happy that you're tall and skinny.. If you were short and skinny, you would have more problems getting a girl.

06-19-2007, 08:47 AM	#5
definitely_maybe Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Canada Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 393	If you've got game, you can still make it work.

06-19-2007, 10:16 AM	#8
Weeblie Offline Gold Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: land of eternal sunshine Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 954	Honestly, I think it depends on the person. Everyone has their own idea of what is attractive, but I don't think it's something that always matters. Like, the older I get, the less a person's physical looks seem to matter. When I was younger, I used to have a list of things I wanted a guy to look like (tall and skinny was on it ), but now I realize that's not as important.

06-19-2007, 10:30 AM	#9
bulletproof Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 2,027	I know a guy who's very tall and thin, and he is extremely attractive until he opens his mouth to complain about how he never gets girls because he's not a big guy. We all tell him that he's gorgeous, and he just doesn't get it. I think you just have to know how to work it. Look at super skinny rockstar-type guys. They wear clothes that work for them, and they have a lot of confidence to go with it. Btw- is Tony Harrison a Boosh reference?