I suspect that my husband has/is cheating on me. I haven't confronted him yet. (I'm getting a few things together just in case he acts a fool and I feel the need to leave right away). I haven't decided if I want to stay/forgive or not...a lot of it will depend on his reaction. But...as I've weighed my options, I've heard/read people say that the cheater needs to really work to show remorse and needs to have many ways of showing that he is no longer cheating, that he is sorry, etc. What does that look like?
I tend to think that my husband will say sorry, say he won't do it anymore, then he'll leave it to me to figure out how to deal with it and regain trust. That definitely doesn't sound fair to me, but I don't know what is reasonable to demand/ask/expect regarding his attempts to regain my trust.
I hope that makes sense and that someone can offer suggestions.