Teen in bondage

SaSaRai · 06-08-2007, 01:02 AM

Well, It isn't clear to me yet, the best solution for my problems. But the source of all of my agony is from my overbearing , controlling parents!

I'm going to be a senior in high school next year and I'm beginning to realize that I've grown up a sheltered child with little contact from the outside world, without a lot of friends, and with a lonely history.

My parents have controlled me like some sort of Dr. Hannibal Lector "master-minds" I'm not allowed to pick my own friends, and still at the age of 17, am very limited to do any thing, or hang out with friends. The first time I spent the night at a friend's house was in the 6th grade. Since then I could probably count the amount of times I've been allowed out of my house to go somewhere for the night. I've had curfews at 8pm on a friday and saturday night, and often when going out I have to "sign a contract" or do something for my mother in order to earn the privelage of anything. She has made me write summaries/reports different chapters of the Bible while being at a friend's house as a part of the "contract" I had to sign.

My mom is a hipocrit. She filed a lawsuit on my own brother and sister in-law in which we had no contact with them during a very important time in my life for nearly 4 years. That time is lost, my time with my brother is lost, and it has changed me forever.

My mom is supposed to be the biggest christian alive, and is supposed to live her life by the Bible. But she's racist --- isn't that being judgemental? She dislikes all of my friends, and comes up with a different excuse for each one as to why she doesn't like them and why I can't talk or be around them.

I work, I have a job, and it seems that now I have even less freedom than ever before although I'm trying to show responsibility. Outside of my family, people think I'm the nicest guy in town, and every body likes me and feels I'm easy to get along with, but at home, my parents tell me different stories of how terrible I am.

Truth is, I'm miserable at home. I cannot be my true self at home around my parents, and nothing I have to say is any of their interest. I'm a slave in bondage and I want to be set free. My brother has warned me of how things would get worse, and mom even made the comment to him in private that "the older he gets the tighter we have to make the rope" ... but I've never done anything wrong! NEVER! I've been on the A, B honor roll ... never been in trouble, and even went out and got a job.

I've felt suicidal and caught myself doing things lately that I normally wouldn't do. I want to get away from everything, but I doubt I could afford it. I'll be 18 before school starts back this fall. I don't know what to do, my bank account and everything belongs to my parents or they at least have their name in part of it. I need some advice.

renaissancewoman101 · 06-08-2007, 01:07 AM

Can you get involved in some after-school activities like clubs, etc.? Tell your mom that it is something that you want on your school record to make you look more marketable for colleges.

Are you planning to go to college?

SaSaRai · 06-08-2007, 01:55 AM

I had planned on going to college, but they want me to go where THEY want me to go, not where I think would be most interesting or best for me. They have complete control over my life until I'm 18, but even then they have enough control that I can't even escape becuase my belongings belong to them.

I'm considering not finishing high school.... I can't put up with it any longer. I hate life and the more time that goes by the worse I start to do in school, and next year I am at the point of giving up already.

~Paradigm · 06-08-2007, 07:22 PM

Finish school. Once you hit 18, move out. You won't make enough to pay rent and utilities?

IndieRockChick · 06-10-2007, 01:08 PM

what would happen if you were just like, screw this im gonna go to my college blah blah? would they hit you? like what could they possibly do? do u have a good friend you can stay with for a while? or maybe live somewhere else with a roomate? its only like 500 dollars amonth, even people on minimum wage can make more than that in a month...just talk to ur parents. have u tried talking to them? just dont do anything bad to urself bc u know u dont dseerve that

good luck!! <3

06-08-2007, 01:02 AM	#1
SaSaRai Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: USA, VA Age: 20 Posts: 327	Teen in bondage Well, It isn't clear to me yet, the best solution for my problems. But the source of all of my agony is from my overbearing , controlling parents! I'm going to be a senior in high school next year and I'm beginning to realize that I've grown up a sheltered child with little contact from the outside world, without a lot of friends, and with a lonely history. My parents have controlled me like some sort of Dr. Hannibal Lector "master-minds" I'm not allowed to pick my own friends, and still at the age of 17, am very limited to do any thing, or hang out with friends. The first time I spent the night at a friend's house was in the 6th grade. Since then I could probably count the amount of times I've been allowed out of my house to go somewhere for the night. I've had curfews at 8pm on a friday and saturday night, and often when going out I have to "sign a contract" or do something for my mother in order to earn the privelage of anything. She has made me write summaries/reports different chapters of the Bible while being at a friend's house as a part of the "contract" I had to sign. My mom is a hipocrit. She filed a lawsuit on my own brother and sister in-law in which we had no contact with them during a very important time in my life for nearly 4 years. That time is lost, my time with my brother is lost, and it has changed me forever. My mom is supposed to be the biggest christian alive, and is supposed to live her life by the Bible. But she's racist --- isn't that being judgemental? She dislikes all of my friends, and comes up with a different excuse for each one as to why she doesn't like them and why I can't talk or be around them. I work, I have a job, and it seems that now I have even less freedom than ever before although I'm trying to show responsibility. Outside of my family, people think I'm the nicest guy in town, and every body likes me and feels I'm easy to get along with, but at home, my parents tell me different stories of how terrible I am. Truth is, I'm miserable at home. I cannot be my true self at home around my parents, and nothing I have to say is any of their interest. I'm a slave in bondage and I want to be set free. My brother has warned me of how things would get worse, and mom even made the comment to him in private that "the older he gets the tighter we have to make the rope" ... but I've never done anything wrong! NEVER! I've been on the A, B honor roll ... never been in trouble, and even went out and got a job. I've felt suicidal and caught myself doing things lately that I normally wouldn't do. I want to get away from everything, but I doubt I could afford it. I'll be 18 before school starts back this fall. I don't know what to do, my bank account and everything belongs to my parents or they at least have their name in part of it. I need some advice.

06-08-2007, 01:07 AM	#2
renaissancewoman101 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: the land by the sea Gender: Female Age: 36 Posts: 8,565	Can you get involved in some after-school activities like clubs, etc.? Tell your mom that it is something that you want on your school record to make you look more marketable for colleges. Are you planning to go to college?

06-08-2007, 01:55 AM	#3
SaSaRai Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: USA, VA Age: 20 Posts: 327	I had planned on going to college, but they want me to go where THEY want me to go, not where I think would be most interesting or best for me. They have complete control over my life until I'm 18, but even then they have enough control that I can't even escape becuase my belongings belong to them. I'm considering not finishing high school.... I can't put up with it any longer. I hate life and the more time that goes by the worse I start to do in school, and next year I am at the point of giving up already.

06-08-2007, 07:22 PM	#4
~Paradigm Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 206	Finish school. Once you hit 18, move out. You won't make enough to pay rent and utilities?

06-10-2007, 01:08 PM	#5
IndieRockChick Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 21	what would happen if you were just like, screw this im gonna go to my college blah blah? would they hit you? like what could they possibly do? do u have a good friend you can stay with for a while? or maybe live somewhere else with a roomate? its only like 500 dollars amonth, even people on minimum wage can make more than that in a month...just talk to ur parents. have u tried talking to them? just dont do anything bad to urself bc u know u dont dseerve that good luck!! <3