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Wow. I have two problems, or at least things that I'm curious about; I'm hoping to get answers!(I'll start another thread pertaining to my other question later. Don't know exactly when though, because it's going to be very, very long so you all get as much of the full story as possible.

 

Okay, on to my first question: If a guy says he's not attracted to straight looking men, just trannies, why does he want someone who's really a guy if he only wants to perform anal on the tranny, and have the tranny suck him off?

 

Please no one get offended; I'm just a female who's been wondering about this for years. I've met men who admitted to being attracted to trannies, yet, they had no interest in the trannies male part? It doesn't make sense to me!

 

If a man likes straight looking men, I can understand it, he just likes men. No problem! If a guy likes trannies, and wants to perform oral on the tranny, get poked by the tranny, or touch the trannies 'male' part, that even makes sense to me!

 

However, the thing that doesn't make sense to me is, if you want the tranny to be just like a woman, you don't want to think about the male part, why even want a tranny? You want the tranny to be identical to a woman, so why not just be with a woman?

 

I'm a very confused female! Someone, a guy who likes trannies, but not their male part, please help me to understand it!

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I think most of us are on some spectrum of bisexuality. Some people prefer men, some prefer women, some prefer feminine-looking men, some prefer masculine looking women, some prefer men with breasts. What's the big deal? You don't really have to understand it. Just accept it.

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Thanks for not responding back rudely, CG and Scorpio! An older friend of mine is always speaking of Sigmund(psychology major) well, I guess I'll start studying his beliefs more. And maybe I'll find some sort of answer to my question.

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I don't get the transexual thing either because 99% of the ones I've seen on TV or wherever (not like I go looking for them lol) look like men trying to be women, like women in drag. It's a certain look that is not particularly ALL female to me thereforeeee not attractive.

 

Perhaps this is a deep rooted homosexual desire that is being explored without being seen as being gay, if that makes sense. Sort of like being in denial that a homosexual urge lies within, but not so much that it's 100%. I guess that's called bisexual lol.

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Fetishes and certain sexual tastes are not always explainable. Sometimes it just is what it is and the person who holds the fetish can't even explain why.

 

I know this is probably not the best answer, but sometimes it just is what it is. For some reason the appearance of someone who looks very female with a male part is a turn on, even if they have no desire to touch it.

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I don't get the transexual thing either because 99% of the ones I've seen on TV or wherever (not like I go looking for them lol) look like men trying to be women, like women in drag. It's a certain look that is not particularly ALL female to me thereforeeee not attractive.

 

Perhaps this is a deep rooted homosexual desire that is being explored without being seen as being gay, if that makes sense. Sort of like being in denial that a homosexual urge lies within, but not so much that it's 100%. I guess that's called bisexual lol.

 

 

You're too funny! Happy to know I'm not the only one that doesn't get it. What you said does make sense!

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Fetishes and certain sexual tastes are not always explainable. Sometimes it just is what it is and the person who holds the fetish can't even explain why.

 

I know this is probably not the best answer, but sometimes it just is what it is. For some reason the appearance of someone who looks very female with a male part is a turn on, even if they have no desire to touch it.

 

 

What you said makes sense, too! I mainly was asking about this because not only have I been curious about it, but my ex, if you wanna call it that... well, he told me he had thought about it a lot, but had no interest in the male part. We both tried to figure it out... never did! So you're right when you say not even they understand it sometimes. Only thing he could mumble out was... it's freaky.

 

I've been trying to find info. about it online, doing all kinds of searches, but NOTHING. Then found this board, filled with info. on the gay life-style, so thought a guy who has this fetish would know why he does... I guess trying to figure this out is like when everyone keeps trying to find out how we really got here ... somethings will never be answered! So I'm gon' try and shake this inquiry.

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Well if I had an answer for this one....

 

experienced this with my former sort of SO. He was really really into it and at first this was his statement--no interest in doing anything just likes the look or to look like a woman.

 

Then that changed: he was very much into all forms of sexual contact with men and more so than women.

 

He started off dressed as a woman and in my mind it was because he did not want to admit his flat out attraction to men.

 

I *tried* very hard to not judge, make him feel badly about himself, and just encourage him to be himself and not what everyone else expected.

 

It didn't turn out so well.

 

Feel free to send me a message if you would like to chat more.

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Hi, I'm a guy who likes transexuals. I'm definitely bi-sexual and I like all the female/male aspect - the curvy female parts and the obvious male part. I like regular females too and some guys, but I'm basically more attracted to the look of a woman.

 

I can't really explain it. It just is. I also have quite an attraction to lesbians too, but I obviously have to be on the sidelines there. I think sexual attraction is quite mysterious and complex.

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However, the thing that doesn't make sense to me is, if you want the tranny to be just like a woman, you don't want to think about the male part, why even want a tranny? You want the tranny to be identical to a woman, so why not just be with a woman?

 

I'm a very confused female! Someone, a guy who likes trannies, but not their male part, please help me to understand it!

 

Hi Crystal..... I've just signed up to respond to you, so hi everyone else too. FYI I am a man who enjoys sex with transgendered women, ie women born men but who by the use of hormones have become feminine. I am not interested in sex with cross-dressers or drag queens; I would not want to have sex with someone who, when the clothes were off, was another man, since I am not interested in sexual relations with men. Naturally, given that, I only penetrate and would not have sex with someone who wanted to penetrate me. So I think I qualify, and perhaps I can help with the confusion.

 

Why transsexual women rather than genetic women? Well in the first place it's definitely not exclusive. I am very happy indeed to have sex with genetic girls. Transgender girls are just a different take on it. I would reckon that of my sexual encounters less than ten per cent have been with trangender women. (Though the proportion is rising.)

 

In the second place I really enjoy anal sex and the way it feels physically and psychologically. Not very many genetic girls like it. Of those who do, in my experience few can orgasm from it. Most pre-op t-girls absolutely love it and many come very heavily.

 

More than that, like most men I am hugely visually responsive. I really enjoy watching my partner orgasm, and I can assure you that watching a beautiful woman ejaculate all over herself while I am deep inside her is a turn-on like no other. In this regard you might consider why g-girls who squirt when they come are regarded as highly sexually stimulating and increasingly appear in straight porn. Most g-women's orgasms are rather internalised, and one thing is for for sure--you can't fake an ejaculation. (Well maybe on film you can, but not in bed.)

 

Of course until now I have been talking about pre-op TS women, ie those who still have a penis. The really interesting question is "What is so hot about a post-op TS?", ie one who has a vagina. The answer to that lies in the fact that sex is as much if not more psychological than physical and though my experience with post-op TS women is limited, I can assure you it is very, very stimulating for me, and is something I plan to do more of. The reasons why would take a lot more time than I have now, but go a long way to explain why I personally find t-women in general so hot.

 

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If a man likes straight looking men, I can understand it, he just likes men. No problem! If a guy likes trannies, and wants to perform oral on the tranny, get poked by the tranny, or touch the trannies 'male' part, that even makes sense to me!

 

However, the thing that doesn't make sense to me is, if you want the tranny to be just like a woman, you don't want to think about the male part, why even want a tranny? You want the tranny to be identical to a woman, so why not just be with a woman?

 

 

Why does the one thing make sense and the other not? To me none of it makes sense, it is not supposed to make sense, it just is.

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I am attracted to Trannies but I am not interested in giving one a bj or bending over for one! I just like to receive a bj from a trannie or * * * * one. I am not at all attracted to masculine men. Nor am I attracted to women. As far as why don't I just get a woman if I don't like * * * * well I don't like vagina either!! LOL All I know is from an early age like elementary school when I first saw a man dressed as a woman in some movie I got very hard and excited by it. I even saw a psychiatrist and he would ask why and I never could explain why. I don't think people know "why" they like what they like bottom line is whatever gets you really turned on and what gets you off the best is what you will do!! Period!!

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Fetishes and certain sexual tastes are not always explainable. Sometimes it just is what it is and the person who holds the fetish can't even explain why.

 

What's the big deal? You don't really have to understand it. Just accept it.

 

MacShreach lays it out as good as I expect we will get. Thanks for sharing.

 

As for 'understanding', I recall a quote: "Why does a crocodile **** another crocodile?" Yes, sexual attraction is largely a mystery.

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It's really quite simple, some transsexuals just look a hell of a lot better than women

 

Agree with you on that one. I am a bisexual woman and to be honest the idea of being with a pre-op male to female trans sexual is my biggest fantasy!! Some of them are so beautiful and it excites me to get the beauty of a woman with a penis!!!! I'd also love to have a threesome with my bf and a trannie. Unfortunately we live in a small southern town so finding one would require at least a 3 hour drive to a large city. I'd hate for it to be a one-night thing. I am genuinely attracted to them immensely!!

 

I can forsee the problem for me being that they wouldnt want to be with a woman!

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Hi, I registered simply for the purpose of commenting on this thread. I'm not going to get into some long winded explataion of the concept of gender identity though I would like to make a comment or two...

First, I am a POST-op MtF transsexual. For those of you who don't know any better, a post-op MtF transsexual is one who has had genital reconstruction surgery and is now considered to be a woman - like it, or not. This is not some sort of game for me. It's a medical necessity.

Crystal83, Catdancer & TravisBickle: Your use of the term 'tranny' is offensive to all true transsexuals. Please refrain from using that term. I'm sure neither of you would appreciate being referred to by some term which you considered to be offensive so pease have a little consideration for the feelings of others because yes, I am offended by your use of that term.

MacShreach: Your understanding of 'transgender' and 'transsexual' is a bit off. Transgender is an 'ubrella' term which includes CD's, TV's, drag queens, and somehow - transsexuals have been included under that category. The reality is that a transgender person is altogether different from a transsexual person. Also, very few so called 'transgenders' are on any sort of hormones. The reason for this is quite simple. The above mentioned groups with the exception of transsexuals have no desire to change their body. Nor do they want to lose the ability for arousal. When a person is on HRT -in particular estrogens and anti-androgens, the ability to achieve erections quickly diminishes and within a period of time, most are no longer capable of arousal. When many CD's and especially TV's crossdress, they typically experience a high level of sexual stimulation form the act of crossdressing itself - and most often have a string desire to masturbate while 'dressed.' So, as you can see - if they were to lose their ability to achieve erections then masturbation would not typically be possible. Even the thought of not being able to masturbate would be a nightmare to them.

In the case of a true transsexual, the last thing we want would be to have an erection since the vast majority of us despise our 'male' bits and no desire to have an erection or even to masturbate. In my case, being post-op means that I no longer have a penis. I have a vagina. And yes, it is fully functional, and identical in appearance to a cisgender female. In fact - depending on the skill of the surgeon who performs the surgery, it is quite often virtually impossible to tell the difference between a post-op transsexual's vagina and that of a natural born female.

 

Thank you.

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I don't get the transexual thing either because 99% of the ones I've seen on TV or wherever (not like I go looking for them lol) look like men trying to be women, like women in drag. It's a certain look that is not particularly ALL female to me therefore not attractive.

 

Perhaps this is a deep rooted homosexual desire that is being explored without being seen as being gay, if that makes sense. Sort of like being in denial that a homosexual urge lies within, but not so much that it's 100%. I guess that's called bisexual lol.

 

LOL, you'd be surprised at just how many of us there are that look nothing like a male. Sure, many are not fortunate in this aspect and yes, many DO look like a guy in a dress. But that is not the case with me, nor with a rather large number of other women like myself. I am willing to bet that you have - at one or more times in your life have perhaps had co-workers who are TS, or knew a TS in some other way but you never even knew it. Why? Because many of us look identical to cisgender females.There are many post-op transsexuals who can easily put most cisgender females to shame because they look way more attractive than they do. No, not on all case, but it is fairly common. A large part of a post-op TS's physical attractiveness is due to genetics. Things such as height, bone structure, hand and foot size cannot be altered. Some of us were born with a body shape and appearance very similar to cisgender females. HT further enhances our apperarance. Also, cosmetic surgery can do wonders for anyone. It is not unusual for a post-op TS to spend in 75,000+ in cosmetic surgery alone. And no, none of it is covered by health insurance.

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Heather..thank you so much for your posts. To my knowledge...I havent met a transgendered person. And I apologize for my use of an offensive word...unfortunately it is ignorance on my part that promted the use, and again I am sorry. You have taught me something. lol I cant even begin to know or understand what you feel or go through, and I can only say that I hope you find true happiness, both within yourself and a partner.

 

And I cannot help still having an attraction to pre-op transsexuals (that is the right term, right?) Can I ask a stupid queston? I've seen alot of transsexual porn. I know it's all fake. So, for real, would a male transsexual be intersted in women? Or is that a really rare thing?

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Yes I suppose a person could go on forever, but really trying to figure out why a person feels an attraction really is borne out of a sense that there is something wrong with that attraction. If someone stopped feeling that there is something abnormal about a certain attraction, he would stop asking these questions and just accept that this is just the way it is.

 

The question why a straight man is attracted to a woman is never asked and really it can not be answered either. It is accepted as normal so we never ask the question.

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My boyfriend recently confessed his attraction to t-girls, so the subject is something I'm desperately searching to understand. There's really no info online about why some straight guys are into this, at least I haven't been able to find anything. The one thing I have discovered is that many straight men are attracted to t-girls. A lot of them, in fact most of them, aren't even sure why? That being said, I'm learning a lot about the subject on this site. To the folks that are being honest and have the courage to share their stories, THANK YOU! It's been thoroughly helpful for me and my current situation.

 

On a side note, regarding my own situation, finding out my boyfriend was into this was difficult for me to deal with/understand. I've never been exposed to this world so it was quite a culture shock for me. It created a lot of doubt within our relationship and caused me to feel inadequate as a woman. The news came very recently, so my feelings are still very raw. We're taking it day by day and trying not to let this destroy our relationship. We love each other, there's no doubt there. My fears are about the future. What happens when/if his lust for t-girls overpowers him and he starts hooking up on the side, etc? Again, this is only a fear, it's not something I know will ever happen for sure. Straight men that have a strong sexual attraction to t-girls, something I can never live up to, are they capable of being content in life without it? I'd love to get some feedback from some straight men that have been with, or want to be with, t-girls. I'm trying so hard to understand all this. It's my priority to be the best partner I can be, to my boyfriend. I don't judge him, not at all, I just want to understand.

 

Again, kudos to everyone sharing their stories - You've helped me more than you'll ever know!

 

(I decided to post this new thread in hopes I'd get some answers/help. If you happen to have info to share with me, please see this post and add your comments there. )

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I don't know if this helps but, I like sex with transexuals. But I tell you why this has developed. At first, I was curious because when I was 8 years of age, my brother brought a shemale porno movie to the house. Ever since, it looked like something I wanted to try. I had my first experience with a tranny (sexual) at nineteen. Why? because I wanted sex, and I did not really have to try hard to get it. Women make you try too hard to get into their pants. First, you have to bee good looking, you have to have a car, money, be stable, and then you have to be very slick with words in order to persuade them. Me, I am only good looking, and I don't have a car of my own, neither do I have lots of money, neither am I stable, and I don't think I have to try to hard to be persuasive with lies and with slick words to get a women to get in bed with me. So, ever since that time (now I'm 29), I still seek transexuals when I have urges to have sex. As a person with a lot of obligations from life, yet still have the need for companionship at times, a transexual sometimes is the best option: most don't require money, they want to be women and sex with a man is the way that makes them feel this way. They do want goodlooking men, but they do not necessarily look for a man to have cash, to be slick with words or to have a place of their own. Most of the ones I have had sex with, have their own place. Also, a tranny is honest with her desire for men. She is not hard to read like women. Women put up too much fronts: they sometimes like a man but don't show it, and sometimes don't even pick up your phone call knowing its you, but yet they want to call you and hang up on you (from a private number). Transexuals are not complicated. If they like you, they show it. They tell you in your face. This is something a man can understand. And me honestly, it is right up my alley since, I don't have time to be trying to figure people out (i think nowadayz no one has time to figure another person out), and women demand understanding way too much in addition to making themselves super un-understandable with their ways: they want to hide their feelings, they want to do the opposite of what they feel, yet they expect the guy to chase them around. Maybe this tactic of women was good for 40s 50s and 60s. But now, work and responsibilities are so demanding that we (men) don't have time for all of that.

 

I've dated many women, and the only time it was really fun was when I was in my teens. When women are young, they expect nothing from a guy except that the guy be real with them, don't try to be something they are not, and to make them feel comfortable. But when a women turns into their 20s, they start thinking about if the man has a place of their own, his own money, and too many other complicated things. I am in my twenties now, close to thirties, and I find it difficult to land a date with a women who would be my equal in looks. people in my own family are surprised because of this. I am a pre-law student in a prestigious school with no time to think about having a job, or going out of my way to try to figure out a female. This was much easier to do before. So, my sexual needs are best met by having a transexual.

 

I am not interested in a transexual male organ, but just the fact that she is extra feminine and wants to please the man to the best because it makes them feel like a women. Another issue about women, is that now with equality rights and feminism movements, a women wants to be too much in charge in bed, at the house and even in job matters: this is a turn off for me and other guys I believe. I like submissive women: this turns me on. FAce it, our definition of masculine, though it may have been socially learned, has been engraved in us since the beginning of times (even mentions this in the holy books), so now that women want to be tuff, like men, it's a super turn off for men as well.

 

Perhaps, I see a future of men dating transexuals more than they do women because of these issues that women want so much from men and they also want to be like men. Too much high expectations from men (most times unreal) women have. They will find themselves competing against transexuals for men because of their ways.

 

Oh well some of my thoughts, just figure I would help you get some insight.

 

Sincerely,

 

 

 

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