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    Heather..thank you so much for your posts. To my knowledge...I havent met a transgendered person. And I apologize for my use of an offensive word...unfortunately it is ignorance on my part that promted the use, and again I am sorry. You have taught me something. lol I cant even begin to know or understand what you feel or go through, and I can only say that I hope you find true happiness, both within yourself and a partner.

    And I cannot help still having an attraction to pre-op transsexuals (that is the right term, right?) Can I ask a stupid queston? I've seen alot of transsexual porn. I know it's all fake. So, for real, would a male transsexual be intersted in women? Or is that a really rare thing?

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    Yes I suppose a person could go on forever, but really trying to figure out why a person feels an attraction really is borne out of a sense that there is something wrong with that attraction. If someone stopped feeling that there is something abnormal about a certain attraction, he would stop asking these questions and just accept that this is just the way it is.

    The question why a straight man is attracted to a woman is never asked and really it can not be answered either. It is accepted as normal so we never ask the question.

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    My boyfriend recently confessed his attraction to t-girls, so the subject is something I'm desperately searching to understand. There's really no info online about why some straight guys are into this, at least I haven't been able to find anything. The one thing I have discovered is that many straight men are attracted to t-girls. A lot of them, in fact most of them, aren't even sure why? That being said, I'm learning a lot about the subject on this site. To the folks that are being honest and have the courage to share their stories, THANK YOU! It's been thoroughly helpful for me and my current situation.

    On a side note, regarding my own situation, finding out my boyfriend was into this was difficult for me to deal with/understand. I've never been exposed to this world so it was quite a culture shock for me. It created a lot of doubt within our relationship and caused me to feel inadequate as a woman. The news came very recently, so my feelings are still very raw. We're taking it day by day and trying not to let this destroy our relationship. We love each other, there's no doubt there. My fears are about the future. What happens when/if his lust for t-girls overpowers him and he starts hooking up on the side, etc? Again, this is only a fear, it's not something I know will ever happen for sure. Straight men that have a strong sexual attraction to t-girls, something I can never live up to, are they capable of being content in life without it? I'd love to get some feedback from some straight men that have been with, or want to be with, t-girls. I'm trying so hard to understand all this. It's my priority to be the best partner I can be, to my boyfriend. I don't judge him, not at all, I just want to understand.

    Again, kudos to everyone sharing their stories - You've helped me more than you'll ever know!

    (I decided to post this new thread in hopes I'd get some answers/help. If you happen to have info to share with me, please see this post and add your comments there. http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showt...58#post3839158)
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    I don't know if this helps but, I like sex with transexuals. But I tell you why this has developed. At first, I was curious because when I was 8 years of age, my brother brought a shemale porno movie to the house. Ever since, it looked like something I wanted to try. I had my first experience with a tranny (sexual) at nineteen. Why? because I wanted sex, and I did not really have to try hard to get it. Women make you try too hard to get into their pants. First, you have to bee good looking, you have to have a car, money, be stable, and then you have to be very slick with words in order to persuade them. Me, I am only good looking, and I don't have a car of my own, neither do I have lots of money, neither am I stable, and I don't think I have to try to hard to be persuasive with lies and with slick words to get a women to get in bed with me. So, ever since that time (now I'm 29), I still seek transexuals when I have urges to have sex. As a person with a lot of obligations from life, yet still have the need for companionship at times, a transexual sometimes is the best option: most don't require money, they want to be women and sex with a man is the way that makes them feel this way. They do want goodlooking men, but they do not necessarily look for a man to have cash, to be slick with words or to have a place of their own. Most of the ones I have had sex with, have their own place. Also, a tranny is honest with her desire for men. She is not hard to read like women. Women put up too much fronts: they sometimes like a man but don't show it, and sometimes don't even pick up your phone call knowing its you, but yet they want to call you and hang up on you (from a private number). Transexuals are not complicated. If they like you, they show it. They tell you in your face. This is something a man can understand. And me honestly, it is right up my alley since, I don't have time to be trying to figure people out (i think nowadayz no one has time to figure another person out), and women demand understanding way too much in addition to making themselves super un-understandable with their ways: they want to hide their feelings, they want to do the opposite of what they feel, yet they expect the guy to chase them around. Maybe this tactic of women was good for 40s 50s and 60s. But now, work and responsibilities are so demanding that we (men) don't have time for all of that.

    I've dated many women, and the only time it was really fun was when I was in my teens. When women are young, they expect nothing from a guy except that the guy be real with them, don't try to be something they are not, and to make them feel comfortable. But when a women turns into their 20s, they start thinking about if the man has a place of their own, his own money, and too many other complicated things. I am in my twenties now, close to thirties, and I find it difficult to land a date with a women who would be my equal in looks. people in my own family are surprised because of this. I am a pre-law student in a prestigious school with no time to think about having a job, or going out of my way to try to figure out a female. This was much easier to do before. So, my sexual needs are best met by having a transexual.

    I am not interested in a transexual male organ, but just the fact that she is extra feminine and wants to please the man to the best because it makes them feel like a women. Another issue about women, is that now with equality rights and feminism movements, a women wants to be too much in charge in bed, at the house and even in job matters: this is a turn off for me and other guys I believe. I like submissive women: this turns me on. FAce it, our definition of masculine, though it may have been socially learned, has been engraved in us since the beginning of times (even mentions this in the holy books), so now that women want to be tuff, like men, it's a super turn off for men as well.

    Perhaps, I see a future of men dating transexuals more than they do women because of these issues that women want so much from men and they also want to be like men. Too much high expectations from men (most times unreal) women have. They will find themselves competing against transexuals for men because of their ways.

    Oh well some of my thoughts, just figure I would help you get some insight.

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    please read my reply posted 11/29.2009. jackbecrazy

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    So why do men like trannies when they only like to give anal and recieve oral.

    First thing, there are plenty of gay or bi guys who only like giving and receiving oral from other guys.

    Its about what things look like, its the physical appearance......so seeing a female body with a penis is sexaully arousing to some men, it doesnt mean they want to touch the penis or have it penetrate them....sometimes they do, but some guys dont.

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    As an post-op (Surgery complete) MtF (Male-To-Female),

    I'd like to give more Trans-knowledge to this thread.

    First comes to the word Transgendered...A lot of people think Transgendered and Transsexual are two like terms. They are not. Transgendered is what you would consider a UMBRELLA TERM...Anyone that doesn't fit the binary standard of male and female (Gay, lesbian, Drag King/Queen, etc. etc.) can be considered Transgendered.

    Transsexual or transsexuals are biological males who have the desire to live as an full, complete and total female figure and then there's biological females who wish to carry on as an complete and total male figure which they would be labeled as FtM (Female-To-Male).

    To all biological men and women who are comfort with their gender and sex (Yes! They are two different things!) who are confused on whether to call a trans-person: "He, she, guy, girl, dude, man, women, etc. etc.", There's two terms out in the world: Ze (A combo of He/She) and Hir (Him/Her) that when referring to an Trans-person would be comfortable for anyone to use.

    With that now knowledge in your brain I'll pallidly speak about this thread and the question(s) involved.

    To the person who asked why would STRAIGHT men like Transsexuals, I have a couple of things to say. By saying straight...That means in your eyes that a man would be gay dating an Trans-women? Trans-women are WOMEN so if a man dates a Trans-women he'll still be straight. Second: There's two kinds of Transsexuals...Are you asking why would men like Trans-women...Which would make them straight? Or trans-men which would actually make them homosexual?

    Moving on, you keep exasperating about Trans-women with male goodies...You do know there's surgery out there to get that fixed? If an Trans-women is completely physically, emotionally, spiritually and all things a women...That makes her a women, am I correct or not?

    And straight men love women right...? Lets actually switch this question around. Why WOULDN'T a man love a Trans-WOMEN? Men love women...Trans-women are women and that's how the attraction erupts.

    To the people saying all the Trans-women they see on T.V. and Jerry Springer, etc. etc., you do know the media and T.V. like focusing on the bad so they get more viewers and people? Just like how T.V. hides a lot of things. The few men I have told that I was born an women internally but my body didn't match my body were shocked because a lot of people think they can "pick out" Trans-people as though they're something easy to spot.

    Not to scare you but there's a lot of Trans-people who blend in very well and all the genetic male and female people you think you know could possibly be Transgendered or even...Like me...Transsexuals.

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    Wow, this is great!

    I'm SO glad that I found this forum! I've been trying to understand my attraction to transsexual women myself, but I'm so tired of exhausting myself emotionally and wondering if I'm gay or bi because of it all.

    Ok, here is my feeling I'd like to share with you all. First, I love women, therefore I'm a straight man. I love the way women look, act and just are. Second, the first kind of porn I ever saw was anal sex, so I was HEAVILY intrigued and turned on by it...in fact, became obsessed with it; therefore, I like it a lot. I've even experimented on myself, so now I like receiving and giving anal stimulation. Ok...third, I developed an attraction to the penis. It's just a beautiful thing to me. Don't get me wrong, I'm not attracted to men at all, but the penis looks good to me. All in all, I love the female look and still want her to have her penis. Hell, a woman wearing a strap-on dildo is a huge turn on for me, but I believe I'd much rather have a trans woman.

    Like one man here said, the stimulation and orgasm through anal sex with a trans woman is powerful...I'd really like to experience that someday. And since I am attracted to the penis, I would not mind touching it at all. It has been a fantasy of mine for a long time to be with a trans woman, but I truly want it to bring me happiness long-term, and not just be a fantasy or a fling. I believe that since I also have a high sex drive and like anal sex, it would be best to be with a trans woman because of that obvious place to enter. Not only so, but I could receive anal stimulation from her in the process . Having a great sex life would be a happy life, wouldn't you agree?

    So that is my story, folks. Thank you all for your posts. I think this has been wonderful learning from you all.

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    So True

    Hi LivingStone,

    I have experienced the same feelings you have. growing up, i was always attracted to women. When I got to college, I discovered transvetstites and transexuals and was attracted from the beginning....I strugged with this until I started experimenting with men a couple of times (i was not attracted to the masculinity). All this time, I wondered whether I was straight or bi and still am unsure. I am know married to a woman (im in closet) and still hook up with TSs from time to time. I also fantasize about ment, but not attracted to them, is this normal??? I, too, love the penis and anal penetration with the ultra feminine attributes of TSs. Going forward, I still have the attractyion to TSs and will probably continue to act on my desires. I do love my wife very much, but how should I consider this (cheating???) afterall, TSs have something my wife cant provide...the penis. I am I gay? bisexual? Please help!

    Any and all comments would be appreciated

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    Quote Originally Posted by Manno2329 View Post
    Hi LivingStone,

    I have experienced the same feelings you have. growing up, i was always attracted to women. When I got to college, I discovered transvetstites and transexuals and was attracted from the beginning....I strugged with this until I started experimenting with men a couple of times (i was not attracted to the masculinity). All this time, I wondered whether I was straight or bi and still am unsure. I am know married to a woman (im in closet) and still hook up with TSs from time to time. I also fantasize about ment, but not attracted to them, is this normal??? I, too, love the penis and anal penetration with the ultra feminine attributes of TSs. Going forward, I still have the attractyion to TSs and will probably continue to act on my desires. I do love my wife very much, but how should I consider this (cheating???) afterall, TSs have something my wife cant provide...the penis. I am I gay? bisexual? Please help!

    Any and all comments would be appreciated


    Welcome to ENA!!

    I love this thread!! It intrigues me as I am a woman who is highly attracted to transsexuals.

    Manno, is there any chance that your wife would be open to a threesome with a TS?

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