Depressing dream, because it was such a good dream

DeeTeeCee · 05-23-2007, 12:51 AM

last night i dreamt that i had gotten back together with the ex. i suppose this is normal for a breakup aftermath. i can't recall details (i suck at remembering dreams, and i am not in the habit of writing them down as soon as i wake up), but basically the ex and i had set aside our differences and decided to come back together.

we talked, we kissed, we embraced and basically spent all day together. i just remember feeling so at ease, like everything in the world was right, that even if i had died right there it wouldn't matter because i was so content.

and then i woke up, and that realization that it was all a dream sank in fairly quickly.

on one hand its obviously depressing, causing me to wonder if i'm making the right choice by going NC and moving on from her, someone who could make me feel that happy.

on the other hand, i feel like maybe it was a final way of having closure and saying goodbye to her, that i can stop dwelling on the bad and hard times and remember that we did love each other.

i know i know, i'm sure everyone has these moments/stages during their healing and that its normal. i think that its some sort of transition in my healing stage though, because for a while i was so focused on reassuring myself how bad our relationship was, recalling everything about her that bothered me or drove me insane. now, i dunno, theres some strange sort of melancholic peace, rather than anger.

DropToZero · 05-23-2007, 01:44 AM

That's great, I'm really glad you got some sort of closure out of it. Keep moving on though, I'm sure in time you'll find someone who will make you just as happy or more happier than your last relationship.

I hate these sort of dreams too...makes you feel like you did in the past, everything's perfect and happy again, then you wake up to a grim reality of it not being real... just remember they're dreams and don't give in.

ghostfreak · 05-23-2007, 05:30 AM

I had a dream like this a few times last week, it's very hard when you wake up and realize it didn't actually happen.

This week has been ok for dreams really, just trying to keep myself busy - although I almost always wake up at 5am

justanother1 · 05-23-2007, 12:29 PM

just I hate these dreams too... in the past 5wks since the break up I believe I have dreamt more of him than I ever did during our 10.5yrs. together. I hate these dreams because it make me all depress, sad and alone the next day... in fact, I had a dream last night were (i guess) we were trying to work things out so were were hanging out for the day and when it was time for me to go, I debated in my head if I should go over by him and just kiss him, as I debated in my head I told myself it was a dream and that I will be waking up and sure enough I did. and didn't go back to sleep. so hence, I am very sleep deprived at the moment.

I HATE these dreams. It does no good to me.

05-23-2007, 12:51 AM	#1
DeeTeeCee Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Tujunga, CA Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 149	Depressing dream, because it was such a good dream last night i dreamt that i had gotten back together with the ex. i suppose this is normal for a breakup aftermath. i can't recall details (i suck at remembering dreams, and i am not in the habit of writing them down as soon as i wake up), but basically the ex and i had set aside our differences and decided to come back together. we talked, we kissed, we embraced and basically spent all day together. i just remember feeling so at ease, like everything in the world was right, that even if i had died right there it wouldn't matter because i was so content. and then i woke up, and that realization that it was all a dream sank in fairly quickly. on one hand its obviously depressing, causing me to wonder if i'm making the right choice by going NC and moving on from her, someone who could make me feel that happy. on the other hand, i feel like maybe it was a final way of having closure and saying goodbye to her, that i can stop dwelling on the bad and hard times and remember that we did love each other. i know i know, i'm sure everyone has these moments/stages during their healing and that its normal. i think that its some sort of transition in my healing stage though, because for a while i was so focused on reassuring myself how bad our relationship was, recalling everything about her that bothered me or drove me insane. now, i dunno, theres some strange sort of melancholic peace, rather than anger.

05-23-2007, 01:44 AM	#2
DropToZero Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Gender: Male Posts: 1,632	That's great, I'm really glad you got some sort of closure out of it. Keep moving on though, I'm sure in time you'll find someone who will make you just as happy or more happier than your last relationship. I hate these sort of dreams too...makes you feel like you did in the past, everything's perfect and happy again, then you wake up to a grim reality of it not being real... just remember they're dreams and don't give in. __________________ A smart person learns from his own mistakes... A wise person learns from others... - ? ...I'm pretty smart...sometimes I wish I was a little more wise. dance to express...not to impress... every man dies, not every man really lives...

05-23-2007, 05:30 AM	#3
ghostfreak Offline Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: N. Ireland, UK Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 114	I had a dream like this a few times last week, it's very hard when you wake up and realize it didn't actually happen. This week has been ok for dreams really, just trying to keep myself busy - although I almost always wake up at 5am __________________ http://www.xfilesforum.net - Dare To Believe? http://www.everyonedoesit.co.uk "When you want it, it goes away too fast, Times you hate it, It always seems to last" __X :)

05-23-2007, 12:29 PM	#4
justanother1 Offline Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: USA Posts: 35	just I hate these dreams too... in the past 5wks since the break up I believe I have dreamt more of him than I ever did during our 10.5yrs. together. I hate these dreams because it make me all depress, sad and alone the next day... in fact, I had a dream last night were (i guess) we were trying to work things out so were were hanging out for the day and when it was time for me to go, I debated in my head if I should go over by him and just kiss him, as I debated in my head I told myself it was a dream and that I will be waking up and sure enough I did. and didn't go back to sleep. so hence, I am very sleep deprived at the moment. I HATE these dreams. It does no good to me.