The Hardest Part Is Letting Go.........Please Help

Secret Dreams · 05-12-2007, 01:08 AM

My husband and I have been apart for 8 months .I found out he cheatted on me and had a girlfriend while marring me.Obviously this came as a bolt out of the blue to me.we lived together for 3 years before we where married this haunts me and hurts he lied about it and try to cover it up .he was not open and honest with me . he made excuses for their actions and did not take responsibility for what they did .I can never trust him again.I told him there is nothing a person can do to earn back the trust that is needed to go back into the most intimate sort of relationship like that.I loved him very much but now all I feel for him is pity.and beleve it or not he is still lying about it.If he was genuinely sorry I could tell but his not. I only want to let go and go on with my life. he is still asking me to come home, noway.......How do I start over.................thanks for any info

moonbeam111 · 05-12-2007, 01:37 AM

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Sorry you had to discover that he betrayed you. However, if you are committed to your marriage and he is on board, you can recover it. Just don't let him come without some very specific conditions and real work.

ghost69 · 05-14-2007, 03:29 PM

do not go back. that is good. just think about what he has done to you. that will help you get over it.

05-12-2007, 01:08 AM	#1
Secret Dreams Offline Join Date: May 2007 Location: Kentucky Gender: Female Posts: 1	The Hardest Part Is Letting Go.........Please Help My husband and I have been apart for 8 months .I found out he cheatted on me and had a girlfriend while marring me.Obviously this came as a bolt out of the blue to me.we lived together for 3 years before we where married this haunts me and hurts he lied about it and try to cover it up .he was not open and honest with me . he made excuses for their actions and did not take responsibility for what they did .I can never trust him again.I told him there is nothing a person can do to earn back the trust that is needed to go back into the most intimate sort of relationship like that.I loved him very much but now all I feel for him is pity.and beleve it or not he is still lying about it.If he was genuinely sorry I could tell but his not. I only want to let go and go on with my life. he is still asking me to come home, noway.......How do I start over.................thanks for any info __________________ Dreams are today's answers to tomorrow's questions.

05-12-2007, 01:37 AM	#2
moonbeam111 Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Seattle Gender: Female Posts: 81	try [Only registered and activated users can see links. ] Sorry you had to discover that he betrayed you. However, if you are committed to your marriage and he is on board, you can recover it. Just don't let him come without some very specific conditions and real work. __________________ When in doubt, make a fool of yourself. There is a microscopically thin line between being brilliantly creative and acting like the most gigantic idiot on earth. So, what the hell, leap! Cynthia Heimel Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren't. Margaret Thatcher

05-14-2007, 03:29 PM	#3
ghost69 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Desert Gender: Male Posts: 33,424	do not go back. that is good. just think about what he has done to you. that will help you get over it. __________________ Not only am I friendly, but I'm invisible too. Too perfect of a relationship is too weird-g69 If you say you are normal, I'd think you are weird-g69 The world can only get better, it depends on how you look at it-g69 'As wicked as you are, you're beautiful to me'-5fingerdeathpunch you cannot control the world, you can only live in it the best you can for you-g69 NooOoOoooOOoOoOoooooo