Ex won't help out financially and BD is missing out

starlight · 05-01-2007, 07:23 AM

Hi everyone,

My ex has refused to pay any child support for our daughter (aged 13) for almost all her life and he now owes over $12 000. He has just got married and has gone overseas for their honeymoon. Hi payments are only $50 per week.

The Child Support Agency just seem unable to force him to pay, and meanwhile, our daughter is missing out on things which she can't really do without. She is supposed to attend tutoring every week, but my husband and I just have absolutely no money left at the end of the week. It's between eating and tutoring. My husband and I also have a seven year old.

I'm wondering if there is anything you guys can think that I can do to get him to pay. It's not for me, it for our daughte.r I can't believe that he can be like this.

Should I send a letter outlining my disappointment?

RebeccaChow · 05-01-2007, 07:30 AM

Can you get a lawyer to sort this out? Maybe that would help better than Child Support Agency.

Beec · 05-01-2007, 09:17 AM

Find a lawyer, and see if you can get a judgment and go after his property or bank accounts. You might not even need a lawyer. If you feel you can ask a court for a judgment, and then once you have it, hire an asset search firm. This one is known to do a good job: [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]. They can find and put seizures on bank accounts.

**annie24** · 05-01-2007, 09:27 AM

I agree - time to go for a lawyer. a tenacious one too. and good suggestion about getting an asset search firm.

metrogirl · 05-01-2007, 12:47 PM

Don't know about your country, but here in the States, the District Attorney will garnish his wages and also, since he is now married, his wifes money is community property, so the court could attach her wages also.. Look into seeking legal counsel. I realize your financial situation is hard right now, so perhaps you can seek advice from a college of law. It's worth a try. Good luck

starlight · 05-01-2007, 07:08 PM

thanks everybody,

I'm from Australia. The ex is a subcontractor, so the CSA can't garnish his wages or take his tax reutrn because he doesn't received one. It seems that he and his parent's have read the legislation, gone through it with a fine tooth comb, and know everything that he has to do to worm his way out of it.

The biggest problem I see is that the Ex's debt with the CSA will never go away, not even if he were to declare bankruptucy. He will eventually stuff up and put an asset in his name like a house or boat etc, and then the CSA will probably sell it. But it will be too late to help BD because she'll be grown up.

05-01-2007, 07:23 AM	#1
starlight Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Queensland, Australia Gender: Female Posts: 54	Ex won't help out financially and BD is missing out Hi everyone, My ex has refused to pay any child support for our daughter (aged 13) for almost all her life and he now owes over $12 000. He has just got married and has gone overseas for their honeymoon. Hi payments are only $50 per week. The Child Support Agency just seem unable to force him to pay, and meanwhile, our daughter is missing out on things which she can't really do without. She is supposed to attend tutoring every week, but my husband and I just have absolutely no money left at the end of the week. It's between eating and tutoring. My husband and I also have a seven year old. I'm wondering if there is anything you guys can think that I can do to get him to pay. It's not for me, it for our daughte.r I can't believe that he can be like this. Should I send a letter outlining my disappointment?

05-01-2007, 07:30 AM	#2
RebeccaChow Offline Silver Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Singapore! Gender: Female Posts: 616	Can you get a lawyer to sort this out? Maybe that would help better than Child Support Agency. __________________ Amo tutto di te e non faccio altro che pensare a te.

05-01-2007, 09:17 AM	#3
Beec Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: New York Posts: 7,556	Find a lawyer, and see if you can get a judgment and go after his property or bank accounts. You might not even need a lawyer. If you feel you can ask a court for a judgment, and then once you have it, hire an asset search firm. This one is known to do a good job: [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]. They can find and put seizures on bank accounts. __________________ "Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained." C.S. Lewis--Answers to Questions on Christianity

05-01-2007, 12:47 PM	#5
metrogirl Online Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: SGV Gender: Female Age: 39 Posts: 4,686	Don't know about your country, but here in the States, the District Attorney will garnish his wages and also, since he is now married, his wifes money is community property, so the court could attach her wages also.. Look into seeking legal counsel. I realize your financial situation is hard right now, so perhaps you can seek advice from a college of law. It's worth a try. Good luck __________________ Whether one believes in a religion or not, there isn't anyone who doesn't appreciate kindness and compassion. Dalai Lama Any hope I had for my Seahawks flew out the window when I heard Lofa Tatupu will be out for the rest of the season. (sighs) They call me Ghettro.......Well Scorpion Fury does anyway. LOL

05-01-2007, 09:27 AM	#4
annie24 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,827	I agree - time to go for a lawyer. a tenacious one too. and good suggestion about getting an asset search firm.

05-01-2007, 07:08 PM	#6
starlight Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Queensland, Australia Gender: Female Posts: 54	thanks everybody, I'm from Australia. The ex is a subcontractor, so the CSA can't garnish his wages or take his tax reutrn because he doesn't received one. It seems that he and his parent's have read the legislation, gone through it with a fine tooth comb, and know everything that he has to do to worm his way out of it. The biggest problem I see is that the Ex's debt with the CSA will never go away, not even if he were to declare bankruptucy. He will eventually stuff up and put an asset in his name like a house or boat etc, and then the CSA will probably sell it. But it will be too late to help BD because she'll be grown up.