Soulmate Companion - Attraction Exercise

Jetta · 04-12-2007, 03:49 PM

Are you looking for someone? If so this is a powerful tool to attract a soulmate into your life.

Step 1: You make a list of physical attributes, character traits, interests, etc. that you want your soul companion to have.

Step 2: You list yourself; physical appearance, character traits, interests. This part is important. Be honest.

Step 3: Add what your looking for in a companion (i.e. marriage, kayaking budding, marathon runner, etc.). Keep in mind you get what you ask for.

Then send it off to the Universe (say a little prayer of thanks). For example: Thank you God for bringing this person to me.

Be through and good luck. It'll change your life.

shes2smart · 04-12-2007, 04:04 PM

I did a similar exercise when I was single.

What I learned was this:

You absolutely cannot specify every last single trait/attribute you want your partner to have....and that can open the door to some interesting situations.

I made my first list. Met someone who seemed to fit it. Ooops! Forgot to specify that he should also be interested in me.

Refined the list. Met another guy who seemed to fit it. Oh, poo....forgot to specify he should be heterosexual.

Refined the list further. Met another guy. Guess what? He lived on the other side of the country and neither of us was interested in relocating.

Every time I made an adjustment, I ended up meeting someone who was everything on the list....and one thing it never crossed my mind to include/exclude.

After a while it was comical.

Then, I quit telling the Universe what I thought I needed and instead relied on Divine Intelligence to know what I truly needed, and trusted that what I truly needed would be provided when both of us were ready.

When I met my husband, I thought he was too young (11 years younger) and lived too far away. Turns out he was (and is) my ideal partner.

What we think we need in a relationship isn't always what we really need.

Cassie · 04-12-2007, 04:38 PM

LOL, Shes2Smart, very humorous! I'm glad you finally sorted it out.

Two qualities are crucial in a mate; to be deeply compassionate and spiritual

If these two qualities are fulfilled, I'm confident everything else will fall naturally into place when my heart is ready to receive the blessing of love.

Considerate Empath · 04-12-2007, 05:06 PM

It's human nature to not know what they want as they constantly give in to their desires.

Example: Guy wants money, guy gets money, guy wants more money, guy get more money until he got so much that he's now unhappy because women (another desire) only want him for his money. Typical hollowood movie script. Same if changing money to power or fame.

It's only if you're lucky and smart enough to learn from your and others mistakes that you can be truly happy in life.

Nature's way of balance in life: With each happiness comes an equal unhappiness. Most of it only comes by taking risks though and a lot comes in incredibly discrete in forms of (for example) lessons and a change of mind/thinking - can't leave everything to nature. Makes life just a little more fun according to me if you believe this - you gotta pay attention to notice it though in the first place. I mostly keep myself at zero though so my life is kind of boring

//C.E.

Leonhart · 04-12-2007, 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Jetta

Are you looking for someone? If so this is a powerful tool to attract a soulmate into your life.

Step 1: You make a list of physical attributes, character traits, interests, etc. that you want your soul companion to have.

Step 2: You list yourself; physical appearance, character traits, interests. This part is important. Be honest.

Step 3: Add what your looking for in a companion (i.e. marriage, kayaking budding, marathon runner, etc.). Keep in mind you get what you ask for.

Then send it off to the Universe (say a little prayer of thanks). For example: Thank you God for bringing this person to me.

Be through and good luck. It'll change your life.

Not to get theological on you, but I'd rather turn it over to God. The universe is simply a creation of God's, no more than a tree, the earth or us. It can't grant wishes, unlike what 'The Secret' purports. That said, the concept behind the film and book is true. What we believe is what we receive. Christians have known this for centuries.

I think there may be something to this. And nothing ventured, nothing gained. I encourage anyone who is lonely and single to give this exercise a whirl. Who knows? It could actually work! And if not, what have you lost... but five minutes or your abyssmal existence anyway.

Thanks for sharing this, Jetta. Hopefully others will put it to good use.

Jetta · 04-13-2007, 08:34 AM

Shes2smart - Funny I noticed the same thing with it, always that one little thing missing. I just thought this exercise might help some to move on. Glad to know you met someone that works for you without the exercise.

Plus it might get some to appreciate the real person that comes into their life, once their done seeking perfection (which doesn't exist anyway).

Considerate Empath · 04-13-2007, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Wilhelm

Not to get theological on you, but I'd rather turn it over to God. The universe is simply a creation of God's, no more than a tree, the earth or us. It can't grant wishes, unlike what 'The Secret' purports. That said, the concept behind the film and book is true. What we believe is what we receive. Christians have known this for centuries.

Sorry for going out of topic here but I've always wondered about this, kind of stupid but still - if christians believe that god created the universe, do they also believe God is as much on earth as he is on Mars, or do they think humans are superior because they have life and brains, or is this mostly just assumed? Do they think God pays more attention to them than an asteroid colliding with Pluto? I suppose all are different though. Just wanted to say it's kind of hard to figure out His priorities - but then again, he is allpowerful and 'works in mysterious ways' etc. so I guess it's okay.

Just a thought...

//C.E.

Leonhart · 04-13-2007, 11:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Considerate Empath

Sorry for going out of topic here but I've always wondered about this, kind of stupid but still - if christians believe that god created the universe, do they also believe God is as much on earth as he is on Mars, or do they think humans are superior because they have life and brains, or is this mostly just assumed? Do they think God pays more attention to them than an asteroid colliding with Pluto? I suppose all are different though. Just wanted to say it's kind of hard to figure out His priorities - but then again, he is allpowerful and 'works in mysterious ways' etc. so I guess it's okay.

Just a thought...

//C.E.

Well, not to go off-topic, I'll answer your questions according to what I understand. I don't know what Christians may believe, but I can tell you what I know.

As far as I understand, God's spirit (i.e. presence) is equally dispensed throughout the entire creation, be it earth, Mars, other galaxies we know nothing about, etc. There is nowhere in the universe where the Spirit is not. The universe has already been set-up with working laws and designs, and runs on its own motion and accord. I hate to use the watchmaker point, but it's basically the same. The world runs based on its own laws and functions. That was set up ages ago. So, God - who is already in the future, as well as in the past and present (time is meaningless to God, He is beyond time itself, as even time is a creation) already knows what will happen, long before it ever actually does. He's already seen it, experienced and known about it. That said, I think God cares about people more because there no people living on Pluto as you said, whereas, each of us have intrinsic value and worth, as being children made in God's image and likeness. The world was made for us, not the other way around (despite what some people say).

Often times, we try to limit the divine and make God fit into our box and our own ideas. He's bigger than that. He works outside of this dimension and is not subject to time, as we are. It's all part of being 'infinite,' I suppose.

shes2smart · 04-13-2007, 12:27 PM

Just to clarify...I still got some valuable things from doing the exercise and having a list. It did get me to start thinking about what was important to me and the odd things that resulted also got me thinking about what didn't work and served as lessons that some of the things I thought were important and would make me happy really weren't, and didn't.

While I do believe we create our reality and we can consciously co-create our reality with God/the Universe/Divine Mind/The Force or whatever you call that thing greater than us, the process of making that list also showed me that I am working with limited information....God/the Universe/etc has the WHOLE picture along with my best interests in mind. Basically, Divine Mind/God/etc know better than I do what's going to be for the highest good of all parties concerned.

This also serves (for me anyway) as a reasonable explanation as to why you don't always get what you ask for when working with metaphysical principles/positive thinking/affirmations. It may have nothing to do with the effort you are putting into it, but rather what you are asking for may not be in line with the highest good -- either your highest good or the highest good of all concerned.

So, I learned a little phrase that really cut down on the weird outcomes. Once I "put in my request" for whatever, I also tagged on "this or something better for the highest good of all concerned." Got that idea from Peter McWilliams, and as soon as I started doing that consistantly, the weird outcomes pretty much stopped. What started happening was things may not have worked out how I thought they should....but they did work out in ways I never thought up and in ways that turned out to be better than what my limited vision could see.

I have been using these principles in every area of my life for the last, oh, 15 or so years. The easiest thing to manifest in one's life is money....the hardest is a healthy relationship...at least that's the way it's worked out for me.

So making the list can be useful....but not in the way you might expect.

Dating Coach · 04-13-2007, 02:07 PM

I'm atheist and I've found that I achieve my goals through relying on myself and my will. Just a thought.

04-12-2007, 03:49 PM	#1
Jetta Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Minnesota Gender: Female Age: 35 Posts: 2,354	Soulmate Companion - Attraction Exercise Are you looking for someone? If so this is a powerful tool to attract a soulmate into your life. Step 1: You make a list of physical attributes, character traits, interests, etc. that you want your soul companion to have. Step 2: You list yourself; physical appearance, character traits, interests. This part is important. Be honest. Step 3: Add what your looking for in a companion (i.e. marriage, kayaking budding, marathon runner, etc.). Keep in mind you get what you ask for. Then send it off to the Universe (say a little prayer of thanks). For example: Thank you God for bringing this person to me. Be through and good luck. It'll change your life. __________________ "Reality is what won't go away when you stop believing in it." -Phillip K* "Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." -Carl Jung Last edited by Jetta; 04-12-2007 at 03:53 PM.

04-12-2007, 04:04 PM	#2
shes2smart Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: same world, different server Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 5,142	I did a similar exercise when I was single. What I learned was this: You absolutely cannot specify every last single trait/attribute you want your partner to have....and that can open the door to some interesting situations. I made my first list. Met someone who seemed to fit it. Ooops! Forgot to specify that he should also be interested in me. Refined the list. Met another guy who seemed to fit it. Oh, poo....forgot to specify he should be heterosexual. Refined the list further. Met another guy. Guess what? He lived on the other side of the country and neither of us was interested in relocating. Every time I made an adjustment, I ended up meeting someone who was everything on the list....and one thing it never crossed my mind to include/exclude. After a while it was comical. Then, I quit telling the Universe what I thought I needed and instead relied on Divine Intelligence to know what I truly needed, and trusted that what I truly needed would be provided when both of us were ready. When I met my husband, I thought he was too young (11 years younger) and lived too far away. Turns out he was (and is) my ideal partner. What we think we need in a relationship isn't always what we really need. __________________ "But there's no use crying over every mistake You just keep on trying til you run out of cake"

04-12-2007, 04:38 PM	#3
Cassie Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 610	LOL, Shes2Smart, very humorous! I'm glad you finally sorted it out. Two qualities are crucial in a mate; to be deeply compassionate and spiritual If these two qualities are fulfilled, I'm confident everything else will fall naturally into place when my heart is ready to receive the blessing of love. __________________ If I'd observed all the rules, I'd never have gotten anywhere.

04-12-2007, 05:06 PM	#4
Considerate Empath Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 260	It's human nature to not know what they want as they constantly give in to their desires. Example: Guy wants money, guy gets money, guy wants more money, guy get more money until he got so much that he's now unhappy because women (another desire) only want him for his money. Typical hollowood movie script. Same if changing money to power or fame. It's only if you're lucky and smart enough to learn from your and others mistakes that you can be truly happy in life. Nature's way of balance in life: With each happiness comes an equal unhappiness. Most of it only comes by taking risks though and a lot comes in incredibly discrete in forms of (for example) lessons and a change of mind/thinking - can't leave everything to nature. Makes life just a little more fun according to me if you believe this - you gotta pay attention to notice it though in the first place. I mostly keep myself at zero though so my life is kind of boring //C.E. __________________ “Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or the present are certain to miss the future.” - John F. Kennedy Last edited by Considerate Empath; 04-12-2007 at 05:15 PM.

04-13-2007, 08:34 AM	#6
Jetta Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Minnesota Gender: Female Age: 35 Posts: 2,354	Shes2smart - Funny I noticed the same thing with it, always that one little thing missing. I just thought this exercise might help some to move on. Glad to know you met someone that works for you without the exercise. Plus it might get some to appreciate the real person that comes into their life, once their done seeking perfection (which doesn't exist anyway). __________________ "Reality is what won't go away when you stop believing in it." -Phillip K* "Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." -Carl Jung

04-13-2007, 12:27 PM	#9
shes2smart Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: same world, different server Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 5,142	Just to clarify...I still got some valuable things from doing the exercise and having a list. It did get me to start thinking about what was important to me and the odd things that resulted also got me thinking about what didn't work and served as lessons that some of the things I thought were important and would make me happy really weren't, and didn't. While I do believe we create our reality and we can consciously co-create our reality with God/the Universe/Divine Mind/The Force or whatever you call that thing greater than us, the process of making that list also showed me that I am working with limited information....God/the Universe/etc has the WHOLE picture along with my best interests in mind. Basically, Divine Mind/God/etc know better than I do what's going to be for the highest good of all parties concerned. This also serves (for me anyway) as a reasonable explanation as to why you don't always get what you ask for when working with metaphysical principles/positive thinking/affirmations. It may have nothing to do with the effort you are putting into it, but rather what you are asking for may not be in line with the highest good -- either your highest good or the highest good of all concerned. So, I learned a little phrase that really cut down on the weird outcomes. Once I "put in my request" for whatever, I also tagged on "this or something better for the highest good of all concerned." Got that idea from Peter McWilliams, and as soon as I started doing that consistantly, the weird outcomes pretty much stopped. What started happening was things may not have worked out how I thought they should....but they did work out in ways I never thought up and in ways that turned out to be better than what my limited vision could see. I have been using these principles in every area of my life for the last, oh, 15 or so years. The easiest thing to manifest in one's life is money....the hardest is a healthy relationship...at least that's the way it's worked out for me. So making the list can be useful....but not in the way you might expect. __________________ "But there's no use crying over every mistake You just keep on trying til you run out of cake"

04-13-2007, 02:07 PM	#10
Dating Coach Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 4,429	I'm atheist and I've found that I achieve my goals through relying on myself and my will. Just a thought. __________________ Yes, I changed my UserName from DiggityDogg to Dating Coach. :) Follow this link for my article; A Man's Ultimate Guide for Successful Dating: http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=210147 To hear my fiancée sing check out this link: http://www.youtube.com/user/Airicx