This is my first post on your site. I am a 43 year old man who has been married for 18 1/2 years to a very wonderful woman. The only problem we have as a couple is insecurity and trust with our relationship. My wife is insanely jealous and does not trust me in almost any situation. When we are out in public, she swears that other women are looking at and/or flirting with me. We have a divorced woman who moved in across the street from us that my wife has known since high school and does not like very much. Apparently, the neighbor was extremely "loose" in high school. She is so suspicious that I will not look out the front windows and will not go out in front of my own home unless she is with me becuase of the accusations she makes. It infuriates me because I have never even talked to this woman ... not even a polite hello. She even dislikes the women I work with and female clients of the company I work for. Phone calls and e-mails from these females are met with suspicion and accusations. I have let her read all the e-mails and let her listen to voice mail messages. Everything about these items are work related and nothing could be construed as "friendly". But to no avail. We routinely argue over these same issues. How do I get her to trust me and not be so insecure. The truth is that I have never cheated on her and never would cheat on her. I send her e-mails and call her frquently from work trying to show her that I love her and think about her all the time. I have absolutely no life outside of work and my family (I don't go out with the guys, I don't have any hobbies, etc.). I don't really mind her insecurity as much as I mind what she does when she gets so wrapped up init and starts accusing me of sleeping with every woman she thinks I would like. I just want her to start putting her energies into positive things and trust me. How do I do this?