Virginity Vs Beauty

Neptune · 04-02-2007, 11:34 AM

I am a 24 yr male who until a year and a half ago had never been with a virgin. I finially ended up meeting a girl who was a virgin and dated her for 3 months before we had sex. However, although she was a virgin, she had only pop kissed one guy before she met me. This girl is very sweet, but very innocent as you can imagine. She dumped me recently because she found out i was smoking pot and kept it a secret from her.
Unlike her, I have been there and done that, but i must keep alot of secrets from her. Since our break up she has been trying to get back together, but im not sure i want to get back into that serious relationship. I know that if i stay with her, it would probably lead to marriage, which isn't a bad thing its just i feel i have much more to live for before settling down anytime soon. I enjoyed being single this past spring break and since then have met a few cool girls.
Now, i know i can get a better looking girl than her. Although, she is very sweet and i know would do anything for me, i cant help but feel like theres someone better out there for me. Im just afraid to look and not find anyone. What I am even more worried about is that fact that she would have sex with someone else.
Is a hot chick better than a decent looking virgin? I feel if I leave her I will never find another virgin again (she was a 22yr virgin). Would you guys rather have a hot piece of <removed by moderator> rocking your world, or a nice virgin that isn't aggressive in bed and dosnt not take risks?

doyathink · 04-02-2007, 11:38 AM

Are you serious? What kind of question is that?

kermit · 04-02-2007, 11:40 AM

What are you going to do after she's not a virgin anymore?

RooferGirl23 · 04-02-2007, 11:41 AM

She must have alot of feelings for YOU if she waited all those years and then felt that you are the ONE. She may be shy and timid now, but give her time. I did not start really enjoying myself untill about 2 years after i lost mine because it hurt.

doyathink · 04-02-2007, 11:42 AM

Well, seeing how you can lose your virginity and beauty...maybe it's best to find other qualities that you like in a woman.

Thunderforce · 04-02-2007, 11:42 AM

How old are you? Oh I see, 24 ... unbelievable. Sorry to say but you 'sound' like a teenager!

JoeWho · 04-02-2007, 11:42 AM

It's not about what "us guys would rather have" its about what you would rather have.

Do you love your ex and want to be with her; or put in your words do you want to "bang hot chicks"?

Scout · 04-02-2007, 11:45 AM

Personally, Neptune, I think you'd be better off with a girl you don't have to keep so many secrets from, regardless of her looks or sexual experience. Although I think physical attraction and having respect for someone is certainly important, too. This raises the question, of course, if you can only be attracted to super-hot girls, and only have respect for virgins.

shes2smart · 04-02-2007, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Neptune

>Unlike her, I have been there and done that, but i must keep alot of secrets from her.

>Since our break up she has been trying to get back together, but im not sure i want to get back into that serious relationship. I know that if i stay with her, it would probably lead to marriage, which isn't a bad thing

>its just i feel i have much more to live for before settling down anytime soon. I enjoyed being single this past spring break and since then have met a few cool girls.

>i cant help but feel like theres someone better out there for me.

The fact that you feel you have to keep secrets from her, say you don't want to be in a serious relationship, feel you have more living to do before settling down and feel like there's someone better for you are strong reasons why you shouldn't even be considering getting back together with this girl.

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Originally Posted by Neptune

Im just afraid to look and not find anyone.

This, frankly, is a piss poor reason to be with anyone. How'd you like it if you found out someone you thought was "THE ONE" was with you because they were afraid they wouldn't be able to find anyone else?

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Originally Posted by Neptune

>What I am even more worried about is that fact that she would have sex with someone else.

And how would this negate her other good qualities?

Dako · 04-02-2007, 11:57 AM

I don't know where to start.

I suspect you should let this girl find a guy who cares for her, and you should go chase girls that are hot-looking because that's what you value right now.

Regarding your last question:
Would you guys rather have a hot piece of --- rocking your world, or a nice virgin that isn't aggressive in bed and dosnt not take risks?
If sex is your only criteria, and you hide your past from this woman, let her find a sincere and caring man.

04-02-2007, 11:34 AM	#1
Neptune Offline Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 1	Virginity Vs Beauty I am a 24 yr male who until a year and a half ago had never been with a virgin. I finially ended up meeting a girl who was a virgin and dated her for 3 months before we had sex. However, although she was a virgin, she had only pop kissed one guy before she met me. This girl is very sweet, but very innocent as you can imagine. She dumped me recently because she found out i was smoking pot and kept it a secret from her. Unlike her, I have been there and done that, but i must keep alot of secrets from her. Since our break up she has been trying to get back together, but im not sure i want to get back into that serious relationship. I know that if i stay with her, it would probably lead to marriage, which isn't a bad thing its just i feel i have much more to live for before settling down anytime soon. I enjoyed being single this past spring break and since then have met a few cool girls. Now, i know i can get a better looking girl than her. Although, she is very sweet and i know would do anything for me, i cant help but feel like theres someone better out there for me. Im just afraid to look and not find anyone. What I am even more worried about is that fact that she would have sex with someone else. Is a hot chick better than a decent looking virgin? I feel if I leave her I will never find another virgin again (she was a 22yr virgin). Would you guys rather have a hot piece of <removed by moderator> rocking your world, or a nice virgin that isn't aggressive in bed and dosnt not take risks? Last edited by BellaDonna; 04-02-2007 at 12:20 PM. Reason: language

04-02-2007, 11:38 AM	#2
doyathink Online Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Venus Gender: Female Posts: 5,313	Are you serious? What kind of question is that? __________________ When life hands you lemons, ask for tequila and salt and call me over.

04-02-2007, 11:40 AM	#3
kermit Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 122	What are you going to do after she's not a virgin anymore? __________________ kermit Once you go green you never go back!

04-02-2007, 11:42 AM	#5
doyathink Online Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Venus Gender: Female Posts: 5,313	Well, seeing how you can lose your virginity and beauty...maybe it's best to find other qualities that you like in a woman. __________________ When life hands you lemons, ask for tequila and salt and call me over.

04-02-2007, 11:42 AM	#6
Thunderforce Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: The Netherlands Gender: Female Age: 32 Posts: 241	How old are you? Oh I see, 24 ... unbelievable. Sorry to say but you 'sound' like a teenager! __________________ ~ Logic brings you from A to B, Imagination brings you everywhere ~ ~ Hasta La Pasta ~

04-02-2007, 11:41 AM	#4
RooferGirl23 Offline Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Florida Age: 28 Posts: 309	She must have alot of feelings for YOU if she waited all those years and then felt that you are the ONE. She may be shy and timid now, but give her time. I did not start really enjoying myself untill about 2 years after i lost mine because it hurt.

04-02-2007, 11:42 AM	#7
JoeWho Offline Gold Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: North East USA Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 836	It's not about what "us guys would rather have" its about what you would rather have. Do you love your ex and want to be with her; or put in your words do you want to "bang hot chicks"?

04-02-2007, 11:45 AM	#8
Scout Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Colorado Gender: Female Age: 40 Posts: 7,292	Personally, Neptune, I think you'd be better off with a girl you don't have to keep so many secrets from, regardless of her looks or sexual experience. Although I think physical attraction and having respect for someone is certainly important, too. This raises the question, of course, if you can only be attracted to super-hot girls, and only have respect for virgins. __________________ If your dog is fat, you're not getting enough exercise. * * * One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. - Dale Carnegie * * * Bob Ross rules! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zOpF_ZGD4Ps

04-02-2007, 11:57 AM	#10
Dako Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 9,115	I don't know where to start. I suspect you should let this girl find a guy who cares for her, and you should go chase girls that are hot-looking because that's what you value right now. Regarding your last question: Would you guys rather have a hot piece of --- rocking your world, or a nice virgin that isn't aggressive in bed and dosnt not take risks? If sex is your only criteria, and you hide your past from this woman, let her find a sincere and caring man.