Beauty in the eye of Darwin

Clementine orange · 03-26-2007, 12:16 PM

I think that societies state of shallow has reached new depths. I just read that there is a on-line dating services reserved for "hot" people only. You have to send some pictures in and if you are an "8" or up then you are in - below that and you are rejected.
According the the article I read, only 8% of those who apply get in.

If you google "hotenough" then you will find masses of articles about this webpage

and here is the actual website.

[Only registered and activated users can see links. ]

I'm not really sure what to make of all this. I despair for the future of our civilization. I guess I shouldn't be shocked or surprised but I am a little. It happens in real life so why shouldn't it happen on line. It just seems to blatent and mean.

Let us all now collectively gnash our teeth.

Jayar · 03-26-2007, 12:22 PM

Hmmm... I'm gonna send my pic in!

Jetta · 03-26-2007, 12:25 PM

When I was 20's I'd make it. These days I don't look so good. Not gonna fight it, it's life.

**BellaDonna** · 03-26-2007, 12:26 PM

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I'm not really sure what to make of all this. I despair for the future of our civilization.

I would not worry about it too much. Just view the site as a place that weeds out and contains very shallow and/or troubled people. Luckily they do not make up a significant part of civilization.

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Maybe I'm bitter because:
1.) I don't have the confidence to send my picture in
2.) I don't think I would rate high enough to be allowed in the club
3.) I don't want to be told that I don't rate high enough

You have to ask yourself: Do I care? Is that a group I would want entry into anyways?

The site might be full of "beautiful people" but the content is essentially ugly. Anyone who would come right out and display themselves on the site like a piece of meat- and subject themselves to a "rating" from others on a site like that probably has a lot of problems on the inside. It cries out: low self essteem/seeking validation.

There's nothing wrong with being attractive/hot or having "standards" of attraction for potential romantic partners- but that site has to be the cheesiest thing I've seen in a LONG time!

BellaDonna

applepie · 03-26-2007, 12:37 PM

Agreed Belladonna!

shes2smart · 03-26-2007, 12:48 PM

Yeah. Saw a story about that on CNN a couple days ago.

If that's what people who want to join that site value, who am I to tell them they can't value that?

When I was younger, single and dating, I use to complain and rant about guys being shallow and not getting to know me and rejecting me just based on my appearance. It was like bashing my head against a brick wall.

Then, I figured out a couple of things:

>They have every right to have whatever standards they choose for themselves. If that means they only like tall, thin, blonde women, that's fine -- it's their choice to make, and they have a right to like whatever it is they like.

>It was ok that not everyone I dated/met was attracted to me. In fact, it was ok that most of them weren't. It really weeded out guys who weren't on the same wavelength/after the same thing as I was.

>I didn't need to take it personallly if they weren't attracted to me. They had their ideas long before I entered the picture, it really wasn't a big deal if I didn't fit their idea of what a girlfriend should look or act like. Being true to who I was - flaws 'n all - was more important than meeting someone else's standards for who I should be.

This dating site is really unimportant in the larger scheme of things. It's my guess that there are far more people who don't want to join their "exclusive" club than those who do. If there's one thing marketing people have learned, it's that if you hold up something as "exclusive" and "limited," there are some people who will want it just because of that -- not because it's anything they really need or would be interested in without that false shine on it.

I wouldn't look at the existance of that site as an indication society's going to hell in a handbasket. I'd look at it more as "here's a couple of guys who figured out how to get some folks to part with their hard-earned dollars by generating a created need."

darkpumpkin · 03-26-2007, 12:55 PM

I'm sorry but that's insane. I just clicked the link and I laughed when I read "Online dating sites are a great way to meet that future soul mate - much better than trying to make a connection at a bar or club." You want to make a soul mate match but only if your beautiful enough to. ahhh well I guess that's life. I find the internet is as much as populairity contest as high school. How many friends/favorite/matches do you have? really cause I have so many more. I would put your pic up there! why the hell not. If your declined is it really a loss?

Dako · 03-26-2007, 01:15 PM

Not surprising.

There are also dating groups for Mensa-types.
In my town, there's a site to connect the "hottest women with men of substantial wealth" thus reinforcing some ugly stereotypes.

CluelessGuy321 · 03-26-2007, 01:26 PM

What can I say?

I have a pizza face with cavier tastes.

shes2smart · 03-26-2007, 02:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Dako

Not surprising.

There are also dating groups for Mensa-types.
In my town, there's a site to connect the "hottest women with men of substantial wealth" thus reinforcing some ugly stereotypes.

True...it's not surprising.

Dating, by its very nature, is an exclusionary process.

All of us exclude based on whatever our personal preferences may be...for some its physical appearance.

Me...I got a bias against the humor-challenged. If he didn't like (or worse - didn't KNOW) Monty Python, it killed my attraction.

03-26-2007, 12:16 PM	#1
Clementine orange Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: La Belle Province Gender: Male Posts: 3,661	Beauty in the eye of Darwin I think that societies state of shallow has reached new depths. I just read that there is a on-line dating services reserved for "hot" people only. You have to send some pictures in and if you are an "8" or up then you are in - below that and you are rejected. According the the article I read, only 8% of those who apply get in. If you google "hotenough" then you will find masses of articles about this webpage and here is the actual website. [Only registered and activated users can see links. ] I'm not really sure what to make of all this. I despair for the future of our civilization. I guess I shouldn't be shocked or surprised but I am a little. It happens in real life so why shouldn't it happen on line. It just seems to blatent and mean. Let us all now collectively gnash our teeth. Last edited by Clementine orange; 03-26-2007 at 12:27 PM. Reason: spelling

03-26-2007, 12:22 PM	#2
Jayar Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 2,379	Hmmm... I'm gonna send my pic in! __________________ Jayar

03-26-2007, 12:25 PM	#3
Jetta Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Minnesota Gender: Female Age: 35 Posts: 2,354	When I was 20's I'd make it. These days I don't look so good. Not gonna fight it, it's life. __________________ "Reality is what won't go away when you stop believing in it." -Phillip K* "Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." -Carl Jung

03-26-2007, 12:48 PM	#6
shes2smart Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: same world, different server Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 5,139	Yeah. Saw a story about that on CNN a couple days ago. If that's what people who want to join that site value, who am I to tell them they can't value that? When I was younger, single and dating, I use to complain and rant about guys being shallow and not getting to know me and rejecting me just based on my appearance. It was like bashing my head against a brick wall. Then, I figured out a couple of things: >They have every right to have whatever standards they choose for themselves. If that means they only like tall, thin, blonde women, that's fine -- it's their choice to make, and they have a right to like whatever it is they like. >It was ok that not everyone I dated/met was attracted to me. In fact, it was ok that most of them weren't. It really weeded out guys who weren't on the same wavelength/after the same thing as I was. >I didn't need to take it personallly if they weren't attracted to me. They had their ideas long before I entered the picture, it really wasn't a big deal if I didn't fit their idea of what a girlfriend should look or act like. Being true to who I was - flaws 'n all - was more important than meeting someone else's standards for who I should be. This dating site is really unimportant in the larger scheme of things. It's my guess that there are far more people who don't want to join their "exclusive" club than those who do. If there's one thing marketing people have learned, it's that if you hold up something as "exclusive" and "limited," there are some people who will want it just because of that -- not because it's anything they really need or would be interested in without that false shine on it. I wouldn't look at the existance of that site as an indication society's going to hell in a handbasket. I'd look at it more as "here's a couple of guys who figured out how to get some folks to part with their hard-earned dollars by generating a created need." __________________ "But there's no use crying over every mistake You just keep on trying til you run out of cake"

03-26-2007, 12:37 PM	#5
applepie Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 408	Agreed Belladonna!

03-26-2007, 12:55 PM	#7
darkpumpkin Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: In a little office, slowly going crazy Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 1,967	I'm sorry but that's insane. I just clicked the link and I laughed when I read "Online dating sites are a great way to meet that future soul mate - much better than trying to make a connection at a bar or club." You want to make a soul mate match but only if your beautiful enough to. ahhh well I guess that's life. I find the internet is as much as populairity contest as high school. How many friends/favorite/matches do you have? really cause I have so many more. I would put your pic up there! why the hell not. If your declined is it really a loss?

03-26-2007, 01:15 PM	#8
Dako Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 9,115	Not surprising. There are also dating groups for Mensa-types. In my town, there's a site to connect the "hottest women with men of substantial wealth" thus reinforcing some ugly stereotypes.

03-26-2007, 01:26 PM	#9
CluelessGuy321 Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 802	What can I say? I have a pizza face with cavier tastes.