Help and think my recent bf put a gps in or on my car

matme · 03-18-2007, 09:16 AM

Hi All,

My BF is afraid of me catching him having a fling with my upstair neighbor. We all live in the same condo complex. I confronted him, he denied, and trust me I have plenty of good reasons to believe that he is. He has gotten more and more clever about hiding things...but I would still keep an eye on both of there schedules. Both of them are aware that I am aware.

BF moved out of complex recently...was secretive about giving me the full address just told me some info. When he left I thought this is how he is going to end it with me...just move and I won't know where he lives and he won't get caught being with my neighbor.

Since he moved he has invited me over, however he seems to know where I am at all times of the day.....I know there is a gps system in my car. I just don't know how to find it.

Does anybody know how to find a hidden gps system in my car. Knowing him it is probably is top line. Please help me out of this mess. I don't know why he is doing this to me...I feel like I am losing it.

I can't believe what a coward he is being...to go to this length

Beyondthesea · 03-18-2007, 09:22 AM

Um, this is your BOYFRIEND? He is obviously mentally ill and you need to break it off. Anyone who would go to this length to know where you are all day is sick, very sick. How on Earth did he end up with keys to your car?

Go to a garage and ask one of the mechanics if there is one installed. If there is, have it removed. Then break it off and get the heck away from this guy. There's love, then there's obsession. If he would honestly do that, he is dangerous.

astaro · 03-18-2007, 09:57 AM

do you actually have any proof he did something? because this sounds like an awful lot of speculation on your part.

Edit - a GPS tracking device like that would be VERY expensive, very hard to get and you would need special equipment to monitor it, plus anything that small you most likely wont be able to track from more then 3-4 miles away (and even that's optimistic)

southerngirl · 03-18-2007, 10:00 AM

Go to a mechanic and have them look for it.

If one is found, break it off with him and file a restraining order with the police on the grounds that he is obsessed and a stalker.

You think he is cheating on you. You do not trust him, and you think that he has installed a tracking device in your car.

True or not.... break up with him and move on with your life.

**annie24** · 03-18-2007, 10:38 AM

how do you know there is a gps in your car? what is the proof you have? I agree, go to an automechanic. Either that, or maybe ask some very technically oriented people, like at radioshack or best buy, someone who knows a lot about GPS. Ask if they can detect where the signal is coming from with one of their instruments.

itsallgrand · 03-18-2007, 11:40 AM

Eesh. Yes, take your car in to the mechanic. Just so you know one way or another. For your own peace of mind.

Why are you still with this guy, if I may ask?

What a horrible situation to be living in. You must be a bundle of nerves all the time!

mtastic · 03-18-2007, 12:33 PM

Hi Matme,

Quote:

Since he moved he has invited me over, however he seems to know where I am at all times of the day.....I know there is a gps system in my car.

I'm a grad student whose done a fair amount of research on GPS and wiresless tracking, and i can say that its pretty unlikely your boyfriend is using anything inside your car to track you. Really its not even possible unless you've got an onboard computer like the Northstar system, or a PDA-type smartphone, and even then its highly unlikely.

Now, you said he seems to know where you are at all times. Maybe its just that, he seems to know, but isn't actually sure. From my own experience, when people have the right combination of obsession, intelligence and resourcefullness, they can become pretty good detectives.

I guess I echo alot of other poster's sentiments when I say the best way out of this situation is to dump him, take legal action if necessary. This situation can't be good for you as your post indicates the paranoia is going both ways.

Mtastic

Q10 · 03-18-2007, 12:57 PM

If he hid a gps in your car, that won't let him see where you are live. It can, however, record where you have been and he can take it out, plug it in a computer and see that. But he can not see it live unless with expensive special equipment which is highly unlikely that he has them. Because those things either require a satellite connection (REALLY expensive) or must use a cellular network (still expensive and also would drain the batteries pretty darn quick)

I think you're being paranoid BUT it's obvious that you're not comfortable in the relationship, I think you should question the whole relationship itself.

Maverick32x · 03-18-2007, 12:57 PM

i REALLY doubt there is a GPS tracker in your car... like other people say its expensive, and not something you can pick up at your local Best Buy....

Why are you so paranoid? It almost sounds like this is a serious trust issue on your side... you claim to believe that he is having an affair with your upstairs neighbor? how so? And I'm curious as to your rationale behind believing he put a GPS in your car...

BeStrongBeHappy · 03-18-2007, 01:03 PM

this does not sound like a healthy relationship at all... him not really telling you much about where he was moving, you worried about him having an affair with someone else and planting tracking devices on your car...

i think you should be focusing on getting out of this relationship. why would you want to be with someone who cheats with someone else, and potentially puts a tracking device on your car? either that, or he is making you crazy with lack of trust about his cheating on you (or you are making yourself crazy obsessing about it), and that is not good either.

03-18-2007, 09:16 AM	#1
matme Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 37	Help and think my recent bf put a gps in or on my car Hi All, My BF is afraid of me catching him having a fling with my upstair neighbor. We all live in the same condo complex. I confronted him, he denied, and trust me I have plenty of good reasons to believe that he is. He has gotten more and more clever about hiding things...but I would still keep an eye on both of there schedules. Both of them are aware that I am aware. BF moved out of complex recently...was secretive about giving me the full address just told me some info. When he left I thought this is how he is going to end it with me...just move and I won't know where he lives and he won't get caught being with my neighbor. Since he moved he has invited me over, however he seems to know where I am at all times of the day.....I know there is a gps system in my car. I just don't know how to find it. Does anybody know how to find a hidden gps system in my car. Knowing him it is probably is top line. Please help me out of this mess. I don't know why he is doing this to me...I feel like I am losing it. I can't believe what a coward he is being...to go to this length

03-18-2007, 09:22 AM	#2
Beyondthesea Offline Gold Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: where the streets have no name Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 1,606	Um, this is your BOYFRIEND? He is obviously mentally ill and you need to break it off. Anyone who would go to this length to know where you are all day is sick, very sick. How on Earth did he end up with keys to your car? Go to a garage and ask one of the mechanics if there is one installed. If there is, have it removed. Then break it off and get the heck away from this guy. There's love, then there's obsession. If he would honestly do that, he is dangerous. __________________ _____________________________ Dreams are renewable, whether you're five or 105, you have a lifetime ahead of you. ~Rev. Dale Turner It's never too late, in fiction or in life, to revise. ~Nancy Thayer Every day you sit back and wait for something to happen is another day lost. ~Jennifer Flavin

03-18-2007, 09:57 AM	#3
astaro Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 318	do you actually have any proof he did something? because this sounds like an awful lot of speculation on your part. Edit - a GPS tracking device like that would be VERY expensive, very hard to get and you would need special equipment to monitor it, plus anything that small you most likely wont be able to track from more then 3-4 miles away (and even that's optimistic) __________________ Absolute truths do not exist

03-18-2007, 10:00 AM	#4
southerngirl Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: NW Georgia Gender: Female Posts: 3,032	Go to a mechanic and have them look for it. If one is found, break it off with him and file a restraining order with the police on the grounds that he is obsessed and a stalker. You think he is cheating on you. You do not trust him, and you think that he has installed a tracking device in your car. True or not.... break up with him and move on with your life. __________________ A wise man learns by the mistakes of others, a fool by his own. Latin Proverb

03-18-2007, 10:38 AM	#5
annie24 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,824	how do you know there is a gps in your car? what is the proof you have? I agree, go to an automechanic. Either that, or maybe ask some very technically oriented people, like at radioshack or best buy, someone who knows a lot about GPS. Ask if they can detect where the signal is coming from with one of their instruments.

03-18-2007, 11:40 AM	#6
itsallgrand Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: following my grace... Gender: None Specified Posts: 6,798	Eesh. Yes, take your car in to the mechanic. Just so you know one way or another. For your own peace of mind. Why are you still with this guy, if I may ask? What a horrible situation to be living in. You must be a bundle of nerves all the time!

03-18-2007, 12:57 PM	#8
Q10 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 362	If he hid a gps in your car, that won't let him see where you are live. It can, however, record where you have been and he can take it out, plug it in a computer and see that. But he can not see it live unless with expensive special equipment which is highly unlikely that he has them. Because those things either require a satellite connection (REALLY expensive) or must use a cellular network (still expensive and also would drain the batteries pretty darn quick) I think you're being paranoid BUT it's obvious that you're not comfortable in the relationship, I think you should question the whole relationship itself.

03-18-2007, 12:57 PM	#9
Maverick32x Offline Gold Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: IL Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,010	i REALLY doubt there is a GPS tracker in your car... like other people say its expensive, and not something you can pick up at your local Best Buy.... Why are you so paranoid? It almost sounds like this is a serious trust issue on your side... you claim to believe that he is having an affair with your upstairs neighbor? how so? And I'm curious as to your rationale behind believing he put a GPS in your car...

03-18-2007, 01:03 PM	#10
BeStrongBeHappy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 7,417	this does not sound like a healthy relationship at all... him not really telling you much about where he was moving, you worried about him having an affair with someone else and planting tracking devices on your car... i think you should be focusing on getting out of this relationship. why would you want to be with someone who cheats with someone else, and potentially puts a tracking device on your car? either that, or he is making you crazy with lack of trust about his cheating on you (or you are making yourself crazy obsessing about it), and that is not good either.