Help - lump/wart/cyst on bf penis

SecretOrange · 03-18-2007, 08:19 AM

I recently started seeing this guy and this weekend we got initmate for the first time. We did not have full sex but did have oral sex and did not use a condom. It wasn't till the morning that I noticed he had a lump/cyst/wart like thing on the shaft of his penis near the head. There was just one and it was quite big (perahps the size of a pinky fingernail). I did not bring this up in conversation.

I've been searching the net and see that this could be herpes or genital warts. Any ideas what else it could be? I'm now very worried this could have been passed on to me. Do guys just get things randomly on their penises or does this usually mean an infection? I'm not very experienced and he knows this. He's a very responsible guy and does not seem the type to knowingly engage in activity with me knowing he had an infection...but hey who knows.

Should I bring this up with him? If so, how should I approach it?...and when is the best time to approach it (i.e. next time we start to get intimate?). Please help.

**avman** · 03-18-2007, 08:22 AM

No guys don't randomly get those things. Thats usually the sign of some sort of STD. I would bring it up with him to see if he's been checked by a doctor.

Also I definitely would use a condom for any future intimate sessions regardless of what they involve until you both get the all clear from a doctor. Don't take chances with your sexual health.

SecretOrange · 03-18-2007, 08:37 AM

thanks avman...I feared that.

Any advice on how to bring this up with him tactfully? What should I say? Thanks.

astaro · 03-18-2007, 08:51 AM

this is one of those things you wont really find a good way to say.

just ask about it, tell him your are concerned of Stds, should be a problem and if it is.....

its a little to big to be genital warts, if its roundish its probably a cyst, but better safe then sorry.

Beyondthesea · 03-18-2007, 09:00 AM

Actually genital warts can be of a variety of shapes and sizes. Definitely tell him that you want him checked, for both your sakes.

astaro · 03-18-2007, 09:05 AM

a genital wart of that size would usualy mean a clump of small warts and it would be lumpy and ... well... gross

i think she would have noticed.

in any event, defanently find out if he's seen a doctor about it and if not get it checked out, whatever it is, you have a right to know.

dawn515 · 03-18-2007, 09:10 AM

Actually, it could be a variety of things. It could even be a lump caused by cartilage, which has nothing to do with STDs or infections. (I have seen this before.) I don't know what it looks like, so I can't speculate. So, yeah, at this point, the only thing you can do is ask him about it.

Hard conversation, I know, so good luck!

SecretOrange · 03-18-2007, 09:29 AM

thanks for your help. eeek he's away till mid-week so will think abou how to bring it up. I just hope I haven't caught anything. I trust him though so wil try not to worry and see what he says....

Beyondthesea · 03-18-2007, 09:34 AM

I think you should go get tested in the meantime then. Some STD's are bacterial infections that caught early on, are completely curable.

Bringing it up is vital, so I would definitely ease it into the conversation.

under_my_amberella · 03-18-2007, 09:40 AM

It could be any number of things so be careful about assuming that it's an STI or that it's contageous. It could even be a scar.

03-18-2007, 08:19 AM	#1
SecretOrange Offline Member Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 7	Help - lump/wart/cyst on bf penis I recently started seeing this guy and this weekend we got initmate for the first time. We did not have full sex but did have oral sex and did not use a condom. It wasn't till the morning that I noticed he had a lump/cyst/wart like thing on the shaft of his penis near the head. There was just one and it was quite big (perahps the size of a pinky fingernail). I did not bring this up in conversation. I've been searching the net and see that this could be herpes or genital warts. Any ideas what else it could be? I'm now very worried this could have been passed on to me. Do guys just get things randomly on their penises or does this usually mean an infection? I'm not very experienced and he knows this. He's a very responsible guy and does not seem the type to knowingly engage in activity with me knowing he had an infection...but hey who knows. Should I bring this up with him? If so, how should I approach it?...and when is the best time to approach it (i.e. next time we start to get intimate?). Please help.

03-18-2007, 08:22 AM	#2
avman Offline Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Minnesota Gender: Male Age: 42 Posts: 6,524	No guys don't randomly get those things. Thats usually the sign of some sort of STD. I would bring it up with him to see if he's been checked by a doctor. Also I definitely would use a condom for any future intimate sessions regardless of what they involve until you both get the all clear from a doctor. Don't take chances with your sexual health. __________________ "Children are a wonderful gift . . . They have an extraordinary capacity to see into the heart of things and to expose sham and humbug for what they are." Desmond Tutu

03-18-2007, 08:51 AM	#4
astaro Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 318	this is one of those things you wont really find a good way to say. just ask about it, tell him your are concerned of Stds, should be a problem and if it is..... its a little to big to be genital warts, if its roundish its probably a cyst, but better safe then sorry. __________________ Absolute truths do not exist

03-18-2007, 09:00 AM	#5
Beyondthesea Offline Gold Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: where the streets have no name Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 1,606	Actually genital warts can be of a variety of shapes and sizes. Definitely tell him that you want him checked, for both your sakes. __________________ _____________________________ Dreams are renewable, whether you're five or 105, you have a lifetime ahead of you. ~Rev. Dale Turner It's never too late, in fiction or in life, to revise. ~Nancy Thayer Every day you sit back and wait for something to happen is another day lost. ~Jennifer Flavin

03-18-2007, 09:05 AM	#6
astaro Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 318	a genital wart of that size would usualy mean a clump of small warts and it would be lumpy and ... well... gross i think she would have noticed. in any event, defanently find out if he's seen a doctor about it and if not get it checked out, whatever it is, you have a right to know. __________________ Absolute truths do not exist

03-18-2007, 08:37 AM	#3
SecretOrange Offline Member Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 7	thanks avman...I feared that. Any advice on how to bring this up with him tactfully? What should I say? Thanks.

03-18-2007, 09:10 AM	#7
dawn515 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: NorCal Gender: Female Posts: 234	Actually, it could be a variety of things. It could even be a lump caused by cartilage, which has nothing to do with STDs or infections. (I have seen this before.) I don't know what it looks like, so I can't speculate. So, yeah, at this point, the only thing you can do is ask him about it. Hard conversation, I know, so good luck!

03-18-2007, 09:29 AM	#8
SecretOrange Offline Member Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 7	thanks for your help. eeek he's away till mid-week so will think abou how to bring it up. I just hope I haven't caught anything. I trust him though so wil try not to worry and see what he says....

03-18-2007, 09:34 AM	#9
Beyondthesea Offline Gold Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: where the streets have no name Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 1,606	I think you should go get tested in the meantime then. Some STD's are bacterial infections that caught early on, are completely curable. Bringing it up is vital, so I would definitely ease it into the conversation. __________________ _____________________________ Dreams are renewable, whether you're five or 105, you have a lifetime ahead of you. ~Rev. Dale Turner It's never too late, in fiction or in life, to revise. ~Nancy Thayer Every day you sit back and wait for something to happen is another day lost. ~Jennifer Flavin

03-18-2007, 09:40 AM	#10
under_my_amberella Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 5,035	It could be any number of things so be careful about assuming that it's an STI or that it's contageous. It could even be a scar.