Stll freaking out about AIDS!!!

Yvette84 · 03-16-2007, 01:37 PM

Sorry I'm posting again, but this is extreamly scary! We find out the test results monday morning. I am making myself sick. What are the very FIRST syptoms of HIV??? I don't wanna google anymore. I want to hear from people who KNOW people who have had it or heard facts. My bf has shingles and a swollen lymph node, would that be one of the first symptoms???? or does it come at a later stage? would he have any other symptoms right now?? would symptoms show up within 6-12 months????

How low are the odds of female to male transmission? I'm sorry if I've asked this already but like I said, I'm going crazy

any factual advice or encourgement would be soo much appreciated.

Day_Walker · 03-16-2007, 01:59 PM

You need to clam down, you are just going to have to wait. Knowing more information about HIV/AIDS wont make the situation any better. You are powerless in this situation, just wait and see the results from the test.

Scotcha · 03-16-2007, 02:03 PM

Shingles comes from the Herpes zoster virus. It is the EXACT same virus that causes chicken pox. The virus stays in your system for life. (Which is why it is impossible or at least VERY rare to get chicken pox twice.) Because of the variation in some peoples immune symptoms shingles can be a secondary effect of the virus.

AIDS does effect your immune system. If a person in the later stages of AIDS had shingles the frequency would be much more common and severe. But.. If that were the case with your boyfriend it would be the least of his concerns, trust me.

Everyone gets swollen lymph nodes. It means his body is fighting an infection of some sort, most likely in the area of the swollen gland.

Truly, these events are most likely not related to AIDS in any way, shape, or form.

The very first symptoms of HIV/AIDS are flu-like. That doesn't mean if you have flu-like symptoms you have AIDS.

I would try your best not to worry. Worrying won't change test results. Take this as a warning if you will and protect yourself as much as you possibly can in the future.

v8vachon · 03-16-2007, 02:07 PM

Yvette, I know how crazy you must be feeling inside.. wow.. minutes seem like days. People live years without any symptoms. HIV comes befor AIDS, being HIV positive means your Immune system is unable to build itself. It will continue to get weaker until a virus or desease occurs, at that point the body is unable to heal itself and AIDS settles in and takes over. Now our days they have meds to boost the immune system and people remain ok for up to 10-15 years. I know it's scary and truth is, weather you are married or single, homo or hetero.. we are all at risk. Poeple do not think that they are at risk and continue to jump from partner to partner unprotected. Please protect yourself, I pray this is only a scare for you.

kellbell · 03-16-2007, 02:12 PM

Hey there,

There is not much you can do until you get your results on Monday. It is understandable that this is a scary time for you.

It depends on the person as far the symptoms of HIV transmission. I have heard that many folks did not have any symptoms. Or some people reported feeling tired, achy, like having the flu or a cold around the time of transmission.

I work with clients whom have HIV/AIDS and Hepititis C. HIV is not only transmitted via sexual intercourse, it can be transmitted through oral sex. The cases of a women whom have HIV/AIDS transmitting it to a male through into course is harder to do. However, if the male has open sores from Herpes or Clymidia can make him more prone to transmission.

I have been to several HIV/AIDS conferences and it is absolutely remarkable to the headway that has been made at keeping the viral load down and the T-cell count higher. One conference I went to, I was stunned, absolutely amazed of the treatments and medications out there.

Yvette, as hard as this sounds but stessing over this is not going to change the outcome. Gosh, I cannot imagine the stress you feel at this moment. Whatever the outcome may be, there is many lessons to be learned due this situation. Hang tight okay?

**BellaDonna** · 03-16-2007, 02:12 PM

I understand how you're feeling. Having an HIV test is always scary. I had one just for the heck of it- as part of prenatal screening- even though I essentially had zero risk (only having one partner who gives blood every year-so he's been and is negative- no tatoos- IV, no drug use etc....but I thought about the blood plamsa transfusion I had as a young child that was done BEFORE donated blood was routinely screened for AIDS- and thought about my previous exposure to blood while working in a dentist office - even though I was safe and followed all biohazard and safety procedures)

I was nervious waiting for my results.

But as others have said, all you can do is try to remain calm- think positive- and I'm sure you'll be getting relieving news on Monday.

Hang in there,

BellaDonna

shes2smart · 03-16-2007, 02:30 PM

Back when I was dating the Alcoholic...10 or so years ago...we had an AIDS scare. Seems his ex-wife contracted AIDS and he didn't find out about it until after she died. (it was far from an amicable parting...anyway...)

The thing we didn't know was if she had contracted it before or after they ended their relationship, as he had his doubts about her faithfulness prior to their split.

We got tested and waited on pins and needles for a week waiting for the results. So, I've been where you are.

kellbell is absolutely right when she says:

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Yvette, as hard as this sounds but stessing over this is not going to change the outcome.

Your results are what they are already. You worrying about them is not going to change them at this point...it's only going to freak you out and make you miserable.

In order to get through the next few days without completely scaring yourself, I'd suggest as many distractions as possible.

Do ya know anything about horses? Well there's this piece of equipment race horses wear...they're called blinkers or blinders...pic & description here: [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]. They narrow the horse's field of vision and get him to focus on what's directly in front of him. Some horses need this when they race.

Anyway, my suggestion is to put on what I like to call "selective blinders." Stay very focused on what you are doing right now or just what you need to do today and DO NOT look/project ahead. Monday will be here soon enough, and will take care of itself when it does.

BTW, chances are you're fine.

flower99 · 03-16-2007, 03:55 PM

Yvette i noticed your signature, Jesus died for you.
Trust God. Pray about it, don't worry, this is out of your control & in God's hands.
1 Peter 5:7, "cast all your care upon Him, for He cares for you."

isisastaria · 03-16-2007, 04:23 PM

Yeah, I would pray and pray some more.

Aside from that, keep yourselves busy! If you have to, go rent a funny movie and laugh your a** off. Do something to be able to just wait. Go out and go shopping...go to a friend's house. Anything to make the time fly!

**BellaDonna** · 03-19-2007, 07:25 AM

Thinking about you today- I hope you get some good news.

BellaDonna

03-16-2007, 01:37 PM	#1
Yvette84 Offline Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Cali Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 734	Stll freaking out about AIDS!!! Sorry I'm posting again, but this is extreamly scary! We find out the test results monday morning. I am making myself sick. What are the very FIRST syptoms of HIV??? I don't wanna google anymore. I want to hear from people who KNOW people who have had it or heard facts. My bf has shingles and a swollen lymph node, would that be one of the first symptoms???? or does it come at a later stage? would he have any other symptoms right now?? would symptoms show up within 6-12 months???? How low are the odds of female to male transmission? I'm sorry if I've asked this already but like I said, I'm going crazy any factual advice or encourgement would be soo much appreciated.

03-16-2007, 01:59 PM	#2
Day_Walker Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: California Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 4,884	You need to clam down, you are just going to have to wait. Knowing more information about HIV/AIDS wont make the situation any better. You are powerless in this situation, just wait and see the results from the test. __________________ "A long habit of not thinking a thing wrong gives it the superficial appearance of being right, and raises at first a formidable outcry in defense of custom. But the tumult soon subsides. Time makes more converts than reason." Thomas Paine "The wise man questions others wisdom because he questions his own, the foolish man because it is different from his own." Leo Stein

03-16-2007, 02:03 PM	#3
Scotcha Offline Silver Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: New York Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 802	Shingles comes from the Herpes zoster virus. It is the EXACT same virus that causes chicken pox. The virus stays in your system for life. (Which is why it is impossible or at least VERY rare to get chicken pox twice.) Because of the variation in some peoples immune symptoms shingles can be a secondary effect of the virus. AIDS does effect your immune system. If a person in the later stages of AIDS had shingles the frequency would be much more common and severe. But.. If that were the case with your boyfriend it would be the least of his concerns, trust me. Everyone gets swollen lymph nodes. It means his body is fighting an infection of some sort, most likely in the area of the swollen gland. Truly, these events are most likely not related to AIDS in any way, shape, or form. The very first symptoms of HIV/AIDS are flu-like. That doesn't mean if you have flu-like symptoms you have AIDS. I would try your best not to worry. Worrying won't change test results. Take this as a warning if you will and protect yourself as much as you possibly can in the future. Last edited by Scotcha; 03-16-2007 at 02:18 PM.

03-16-2007, 02:07 PM	#4
v8vachon Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Sunshine State Gender: Female Age: 34 Posts: 136	Yvette, I know how crazy you must be feeling inside.. wow.. minutes seem like days. People live years without any symptoms. HIV comes befor AIDS, being HIV positive means your Immune system is unable to build itself. It will continue to get weaker until a virus or desease occurs, at that point the body is unable to heal itself and AIDS settles in and takes over. Now our days they have meds to boost the immune system and people remain ok for up to 10-15 years. I know it's scary and truth is, weather you are married or single, homo or hetero.. we are all at risk. Poeple do not think that they are at risk and continue to jump from partner to partner unprotected. Please protect yourself, I pray this is only a scare for you. __________________ She was born in 2004, yet i don't remember life before her!

03-16-2007, 02:12 PM	#5
kellbell Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Colorado Gender: Female Age: 33 Posts: 4,334	Hey there, There is not much you can do until you get your results on Monday. It is understandable that this is a scary time for you. It depends on the person as far the symptoms of HIV transmission. I have heard that many folks did not have any symptoms. Or some people reported feeling tired, achy, like having the flu or a cold around the time of transmission. I work with clients whom have HIV/AIDS and Hepititis C. HIV is not only transmitted via sexual intercourse, it can be transmitted through oral sex. The cases of a women whom have HIV/AIDS transmitting it to a male through into course is harder to do. However, if the male has open sores from Herpes or Clymidia can make him more prone to transmission. I have been to several HIV/AIDS conferences and it is absolutely remarkable to the headway that has been made at keeping the viral load down and the T-cell count higher. One conference I went to, I was stunned, absolutely amazed of the treatments and medications out there. Yvette, as hard as this sounds but stessing over this is not going to change the outcome. Gosh, I cannot imagine the stress you feel at this moment. Whatever the outcome may be, there is many lessons to be learned due this situation. Hang tight okay? __________________ "Let your soul be your pilot, let your soul guide you, it will guide you well." Sting <---- me and my mom :) "Get busy living or get busy dyin', damn right..." Morgan Freeman, Shawshank Redemption.

03-16-2007, 02:12 PM	#6
BellaDonna Online Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: U.S. Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 6,586	I understand how you're feeling. Having an HIV test is always scary. I had one just for the heck of it- as part of prenatal screening- even though I essentially had zero risk (only having one partner who gives blood every year-so he's been and is negative- no tatoos- IV, no drug use etc....but I thought about the blood plamsa transfusion I had as a young child that was done BEFORE donated blood was routinely screened for AIDS- and thought about my previous exposure to blood while working in a dentist office - even though I was safe and followed all biohazard and safety procedures) I was nervious waiting for my results. But as others have said, all you can do is try to remain calm- think positive- and I'm sure you'll be getting relieving news on Monday. Hang in there, BellaDonna __________________ "Well behaved women rarely make history." "Friendship should be a refuge, not an ordeal." Please see the forum rules for posting on enotalone:http://www.enotalone.com/forum/forum-rules.php

03-16-2007, 03:55 PM	#8
flower99 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 1,950	Yvette i noticed your signature, Jesus died for you. Trust God. Pray about it, don't worry, this is out of your control & in God's hands. 1 Peter 5:7, "cast all your care upon Him, for He cares for you." __________________ ~Love is not gazing into each other's eyes; it is looking together in the same direction.~ ~ There are a lot of changes in life, how we react to them that matters, it's what makes us who we are. ~

03-16-2007, 04:23 PM	#9
isisastaria Offline Silver Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Gender: Female Age: 32 Posts: 441	Yeah, I would pray and pray some more. Aside from that, keep yourselves busy! If you have to, go rent a funny movie and laugh your a** off. Do something to be able to just wait. Go out and go shopping...go to a friend's house. Anything to make the time fly! __________________ I love people too much to hide what I truly see.

03-19-2007, 07:25 AM	#10
BellaDonna Online Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: U.S. Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 6,586	Thinking about you today- I hope you get some good news. BellaDonna __________________ "Well behaved women rarely make history." "Friendship should be a refuge, not an ordeal." Please see the forum rules for posting on enotalone:http://www.enotalone.com/forum/forum-rules.php