Laws of Attraction..hmmm

GQstatus · 02-21-2007, 01:56 AM

I read a couple posts on here talking about the book the "secret", and a video online. Talking about the Laws of Attraction and if you stop all the negative thinking, and start thinking positive, things will work in your favor.

I can see how this could apply to your dating life, work life, social groups etc. But when it comes to just "believing your ex will come back", isn't that a little far fetched? I mean regardless of your situation, someone is going to come back because they love you, or realize they made a mistake.

I can't see them coming back because YOU believe, and think positive about it. Don't get me wrong, the whole positive thinking process makes a lot of sense. As usually the happiest people, the most free loving, are people who always think positive, I know many of them. Their happiness is almost sickening at times LOL. But they ALWAYS look up on the upside of things. It's definitely a great tool to change YOU. To help your confidence level, to help you grow and mature.

But as far as it working to get an ex back, just seems like another form of false hope to me. Anybody else have an opinion?

Eva:Gina · 02-21-2007, 02:01 AM

imo, its stupid to try get back with an ex anyway... relationships end for a reason.

I do agree with you... You should use hte break up in a postive way, by learning from it and applying hte lessons to your next relationship

shadow34 · 02-21-2007, 03:19 AM

Hey guys

Thanks for your responses and I agree.

The LOA clearly states that when you are trying to use it on another person then they still have their free will.

I have never been an advocate of using LOA for getting an ex back.

But to apply it to all the areas in your life definately.

Think of it this way though, by applying LOA to your break up, you really are just healing and moving on...it really has nothing to do with getting an ex back so people using it that way will probably be sorely disappointed.

It really is about questioning yourself, your emotional level and thoughts and patterns. Because we choose to feel depressed and sad, we can change that at any time by changing our thought patterns...so I think that is more the point.

By all means I advocate LOA im a firm follower, as for getting my ex back LOL...1) free will comes first and 2) quite honestly yes Id be a moron to take someone back like that.

Cheers to you

renaissancewoman101 · 02-21-2007, 03:22 AM

If LOA could get someone who was losing interest in you, back, hell I would do it.

Sometimes we go all out to regain the interest of the person who lost interest in us.

mr_echo · 02-21-2007, 04:57 AM

I think my Ex would benefit from watching The Secret and the LOA stuff. But if I told her about it, she is so perverse and stubborn that she would view it as an attempt at manipulation.

Some people just don't get it heh heh

ebsmith1 · 02-21-2007, 06:03 AM

I was the person who mentioned this a few posts back. I do not think that you can change a person's mind using the LOA. We have free will and if they don't want to be with you all of the positive vibes in the world aren't going to make them come back. However, in my case, I unknowingly used the LOA to end my relationship (even though he played his own part) and I've always felt like deep down he still wants to be with me, so I put the LOA to work. I asked that if he still loves me and thinks there's a chance I would hear from him. I did and he told me that he still loves me. Some tell me that he's just using me because he's lonely or whatever, but we've been apart since August and he has not contacted me on his own during that time. But, the very day after asking for what I wanted I heard from him. I think that you can use the LOA to undo a lot of things in your life that you did wrong. You can attract positive things into your life. I had a lot of negative energy due to my own fears when we were together and I don't have that anymore. I'm sending out new energy and he's responding.

Phedre · 02-21-2007, 07:11 AM

I think NC is about LOA... and vice versa.

It is about focusing on what is right for yourself. And therefore RIGHT and POSITIVE. It is about letting go as well. I see no contradiction between both.

I think it brings you the best that is supposed to happen in life. Even though sometimes you get real crap YOU DO NOT deserve at all.

It's about optimizing your potential of happinness.

celene · 02-21-2007, 07:46 AM

I watched the "SEcret" as well. This whole phenomenon has been in existnece for a really really long time. The Hinduas and the buddhists especially believe that the mind is very powerful which is why both these religion stress so much on meditation. I recently read an article on how scientists recently discovered that if your brain is thining of something like say" I hate this person a lot" then the other person picks up on the vibe. They might not hate them back but the brain knows that they hate them. The same is true if you like someone. You dont have to do anything physically to tell them you like them but the brain picks up on the vibe. They might not like you back but their brain know.There is more research that is beign done on this brain waves . Its like what ebsmith said she was emitting negative energy and her boyfriend picked up on it!!!
Also why do u think doctors have started to recommend meditation? Because its scientifically proven that the more you meditate the more you tend to relax and de-stress. I dont know the scientific explanation for this. Also its a known fact that we use just 5% of our brain which is why there is more and more research beign done on how to apply the rest of the 95%.
The more closer you are to nature the more you will realize that we are connected. Its such a tragedy that we humans have somehow come to think that we are above nature and we have disconnected from it.
LOA is not some magic or witchcraft. Its been there for ages, that mind is powerful and we are all connected and that we emit negative/postive energy. Its not something new as the book itself claims.

Locke2121 · 02-21-2007, 07:50 AM

This isn't exactly a new thing. One of the laws of Wicca states that we are forbidden to use our mental and spiritual energies, what you call magic, to bend the will of any living thing. We have to allow them the freedom to live their lives the way they see fit, without any influences from us.

Spugly Fuglet · 02-21-2007, 07:52 AM

As a Taoist I used the Law of Attraction and now I have a small moon folowing me around, I think all call it Bob.

"life is a state of mind"

02-21-2007, 01:56 AM	#1
GQstatus Offline Silver Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: East Bay Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 430	Laws of Attraction..hmmm I read a couple posts on here talking about the book the "secret", and a video online. Talking about the Laws of Attraction and if you stop all the negative thinking, and start thinking positive, things will work in your favor. I can see how this could apply to your dating life, work life, social groups etc. But when it comes to just "believing your ex will come back", isn't that a little far fetched? I mean regardless of your situation, someone is going to come back because they love you, or realize they made a mistake. I can't see them coming back because YOU believe, and think positive about it. Don't get me wrong, the whole positive thinking process makes a lot of sense. As usually the happiest people, the most free loving, are people who always think positive, I know many of them. Their happiness is almost sickening at times LOL. But they ALWAYS look up on the upside of things. It's definitely a great tool to change YOU. To help your confidence level, to help you grow and mature. But as far as it working to get an ex back, just seems like another form of false hope to me. Anybody else have an opinion?

02-21-2007, 02:01 AM	#2
Eva:Gina Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Aotearoa Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 3,473	imo, its stupid to try get back with an ex anyway... relationships end for a reason. I do agree with you... You should use hte break up in a postive way, by learning from it and applying hte lessons to your next relationship __________________ Dont let the self-rightous dictate your own mind to you...

02-21-2007, 03:19 AM	#3
shadow34 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: South Australia Gender: Female Age: 37 Posts: 158	Hey guys Thanks for your responses and I agree. The LOA clearly states that when you are trying to use it on another person then they still have their free will. I have never been an advocate of using LOA for getting an ex back. But to apply it to all the areas in your life definately. Think of it this way though, by applying LOA to your break up, you really are just healing and moving on...it really has nothing to do with getting an ex back so people using it that way will probably be sorely disappointed. It really is about questioning yourself, your emotional level and thoughts and patterns. Because we choose to feel depressed and sad, we can change that at any time by changing our thought patterns...so I think that is more the point. By all means I advocate LOA im a firm follower, as for getting my ex back LOL...1) free will comes first and 2) quite honestly yes Id be a moron to take someone back like that. Cheers to you __________________ "The life which is unexamined is not worth Living "..Plato "What we fear we create"

02-21-2007, 07:50 AM	#9
Locke2121 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: The South, nuff said. Gender: Male Posts: 1,661	This isn't exactly a new thing. One of the laws of Wicca states that we are forbidden to use our mental and spiritual energies, what you call magic, to bend the will of any living thing. We have to allow them the freedom to live their lives the way they see fit, without any influences from us. __________________ Blessings Be. http://www.myspace.com/locke2121 "Bald is beautiful......at least thats what I keep saying to myself!"

02-21-2007, 07:52 AM	#10
Spugly Fuglet Offline Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: London Village Gender: Male Posts: 1,707	As a Taoist I used the Law of Attraction and now I have a small moon folowing me around, I think all call it Bob. "life is a state of mind" Last edited by Spugly Fuglet; 02-21-2007 at 07:56 AM.

02-21-2007, 03:22 AM	#4
renaissancewoman101 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: the land by the sea Gender: Female Age: 36 Posts: 8,563	If LOA could get someone who was losing interest in you, back, hell I would do it. Sometimes we go all out to regain the interest of the person who lost interest in us.

02-21-2007, 04:57 AM	#5
mr_echo Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: UK Gender: Male Posts: 51	I think my Ex would benefit from watching The Secret and the LOA stuff. But if I told her about it, she is so perverse and stubborn that she would view it as an attempt at manipulation. Some people just don't get it heh heh

02-21-2007, 06:03 AM	#6
ebsmith1 Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 242	I was the person who mentioned this a few posts back. I do not think that you can change a person's mind using the LOA. We have free will and if they don't want to be with you all of the positive vibes in the world aren't going to make them come back. However, in my case, I unknowingly used the LOA to end my relationship (even though he played his own part) and I've always felt like deep down he still wants to be with me, so I put the LOA to work. I asked that if he still loves me and thinks there's a chance I would hear from him. I did and he told me that he still loves me. Some tell me that he's just using me because he's lonely or whatever, but we've been apart since August and he has not contacted me on his own during that time. But, the very day after asking for what I wanted I heard from him. I think that you can use the LOA to undo a lot of things in your life that you did wrong. You can attract positive things into your life. I had a lot of negative energy due to my own fears when we were together and I don't have that anymore. I'm sending out new energy and he's responding.

02-21-2007, 07:11 AM	#7
Phedre Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 41	I think NC is about LOA... and vice versa. It is about focusing on what is right for yourself. And therefore RIGHT and POSITIVE. It is about letting go as well. I see no contradiction between both. I think it brings you the best that is supposed to happen in life. Even though sometimes you get real crap YOU DO NOT deserve at all. It's about optimizing your potential of happinness.

02-21-2007, 07:46 AM	#8
celene Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 67	I watched the "SEcret" as well. This whole phenomenon has been in existnece for a really really long time. The Hinduas and the buddhists especially believe that the mind is very powerful which is why both these religion stress so much on meditation. I recently read an article on how scientists recently discovered that if your brain is thining of something like say" I hate this person a lot" then the other person picks up on the vibe. They might not hate them back but the brain knows that they hate them. The same is true if you like someone. You dont have to do anything physically to tell them you like them but the brain picks up on the vibe. They might not like you back but their brain know.There is more research that is beign done on this brain waves . Its like what ebsmith said she was emitting negative energy and her boyfriend picked up on it!!! Also why do u think doctors have started to recommend meditation? Because its scientifically proven that the more you meditate the more you tend to relax and de-stress. I dont know the scientific explanation for this. Also its a known fact that we use just 5% of our brain which is why there is more and more research beign done on how to apply the rest of the 95%. The more closer you are to nature the more you will realize that we are connected. Its such a tragedy that we humans have somehow come to think that we are above nature and we have disconnected from it. LOA is not some magic or witchcraft. Its been there for ages, that mind is powerful and we are all connected and that we emit negative/postive energy. Its not something new as the book itself claims.