Adoptive parents more invested, study says

**annie24** · 02-12-2007, 08:16 PM

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I just came across this, I found it interesting. A study found that adoptive parents are more invested than biological parents in raising their kids. This doesn't surprise me very much. I think people who can adopt tend to have more money and can spend more resources to raise these children. But, even after income was adjusted for, the adoptive parents still came out better. Plus, the study found that many gay couples who do adopt try to compensate for the discrimination they face by trying even harder to be good parents.

I really found this interesting, just wondering what you guys think?

Eva:Gina · 02-12-2007, 08:18 PM

thats suprising and really encouraging!!

The people I know well who were raised by adoptive families were treated badly and ALL grew up with terrible social problems.

**annie24** · 02-12-2007, 08:19 PM

The people i know who were adopted grew up in really loving homes. One of my friends that was adopted was abandoned as a child in a parking lot at 16 months old. so, it is so good they got adopted!

iLoveMyBabyCairo · 02-12-2007, 08:32 PM

I was adopted and my parents provided me with the most loving home one could ever ask for. They gave me everything I needed to succeed, set up a college trust fund so I would never have to worry about paying for school, taught me moral values...

So, yes, Annie, I can definitely see where that study would be correct.

Eva:Gina · 02-12-2007, 08:38 PM

Im glad the people I know are the exception to the rule!!

agent · 02-12-2007, 08:39 PM

It depends on how positive the investment is really. My (natural) parents were overly invested in me as a child and all they managed to do was mess me up.

It can be positive, but at the same time can easily go the other way (though not be design).

Dako · 02-12-2007, 09:40 PM

No offense to anyone, but the effort needed to adopt is much higher than that required to get pregnant. You cannot accidently adopt.

**annie24** · 02-12-2007, 09:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Dako

You cannot accidently adopt.

lol! it does take A LOT of effort and money to adopt. But of course, it can also require a lot of money and effort if the couple needs fertility treatments.

I wonder if they did a study on that too? or if this study included that in its controls. Any couple who goes to such great lengths to have children must really want them!

iLoveMyBabyCairo · 02-12-2007, 09:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Dako

No offense to anyone, but the effort needed to adopt is much higher than that required to get pregnant. You cannot accidently adopt.

I looked through all of my parents' adoption records and i couldn't BELIEVE what they went through... It was a 2 year process. They had to have intensive home studies, TONS of referral letters, TONS of money to give to the organization....Only once they were approved were birth mothers allowed to select them. I guess they had to go through some pretty intensive interviews with my birth mother before she decided on giving me up to them...

There was SO much paperwork involved... wow..

iLoveMyBabyCairo · 02-12-2007, 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by annie24

lol! it does take A LOT of effort and money to adopt. But of course, it can also require a lot of money and effort if the couple needs fertility treatments.

I wonder if they did a study on that too? or if this study included that in its controls. Any couple who goes to such great lengths to have children must really want them!

oh absolutely, i agree 100% with that. Those fertility treatments sound brutal..

02-12-2007, 08:16 PM	#1
annie24 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,814	Adoptive parents more invested, study says [Only registered and activated users can see links. ] I just came across this, I found it interesting. A study found that adoptive parents are more invested than biological parents in raising their kids. This doesn't surprise me very much. I think people who can adopt tend to have more money and can spend more resources to raise these children. But, even after income was adjusted for, the adoptive parents still came out better. Plus, the study found that many gay couples who do adopt try to compensate for the discrimination they face by trying even harder to be good parents. I really found this interesting, just wondering what you guys think?

02-12-2007, 08:18 PM	#2
Eva:Gina Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Aotearoa Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 3,473	thats suprising and really encouraging!! The people I know well who were raised by adoptive families were treated badly and ALL grew up with terrible social problems. __________________ Dont let the self-rightous dictate your own mind to you...

02-12-2007, 08:32 PM	#4
iLoveMyBabyCairo Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Liverpool, where the sun never shines. Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 6,037	I was adopted and my parents provided me with the most loving home one could ever ask for. They gave me everything I needed to succeed, set up a college trust fund so I would never have to worry about paying for school, taught me moral values... So, yes, Annie, I can definitely see where that study would be correct. __________________ JenSocietyOfSloreMaking!© --Lionel Hutz No that's not how you express love! You express your love by calling her a dirty little ***** and slapping her in the face with your penis! --hersmudders...always classy.

02-12-2007, 08:38 PM	#5
Eva:Gina Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Aotearoa Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 3,473	Im glad the people I know are the exception to the rule!! __________________ Dont let the self-rightous dictate your own mind to you...

02-12-2007, 08:39 PM	#6
agent Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 3,891	It depends on how positive the investment is really. My (natural) parents were overly invested in me as a child and all they managed to do was mess me up. It can be positive, but at the same time can easily go the other way (though not be design). __________________ "You have a right to experiment with your life. You will make mistakes. And they are right too." - Anais Nin "Come now, don't make such a funeral face. It isn't dying that's sad; it's living when you're not happy." -Octave Mirbeau "Don't be sad, don't be angry, if life deceives you! Submit to your grief; your time for joy will come, believe me." -Aleksandr Pushkin Last edited by agent; 02-12-2007 at 08:40 PM. Reason: add

02-12-2007, 08:19 PM	#3
annie24 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,814	The people i know who were adopted grew up in really loving homes. One of my friends that was adopted was abandoned as a child in a parking lot at 16 months old. so, it is so good they got adopted!

02-12-2007, 09:40 PM	#7
Dako Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 9,115	No offense to anyone, but the effort needed to adopt is much higher than that required to get pregnant. You cannot accidently adopt.