Older guys + teen girls- What's the attraction?

Hannahleh · 01-16-2007, 10:50 PM

For the couple months I was single (I still am, but am hopefully in the process of getting back with my ex) I noticed that almost all the guys that tried to (or did) get with me were quite a bit older. I'm sixteen, and these guys ranged from 18 (a couple of guys who screwed me while I was very drunk and semi-conscious in the back of my car

) to 26 (he lied and told me he was 23 <still a little old> when he was really three years older with a six year old kid.) to 35 (my smoking buddy, who kissed me completely out of the blue right before I ran out of his trailer lol). I don't have a problem with older guys, my ex was a good two and a half years older than me when we dated, but it really makes me curious when they're more than five years my senior... what's the attraction? Why don't older, more experienced men want older, more experienced women? I do realize that this isn't true for all (or even most) men, but I didn't have a single guy that was still in high school express any interest in me whatsoever. Is it just because I was (am) young/naive/and vulnerable at the time, or is there something else I'm missing that makes guys want young girls? Does anybody else have the problem of only being able to get guys out of their age range?

Oh, and I realize that the first example isn't a very good one... I'm sure they only did that to me because I was the only girl at the party and drunk enough that they could carry me out to my car.

Hannahleh · 01-16-2007, 11:03 PM

Yeah, it's not much of an excuse but I was definitely not in the best state of mind for those two months, I normally am not the... easy (?) girl.. But eh. I'm not really talking about me specifically, but in general. I notice about half of the sophmore girls in my classes are going out with guys five or ten years older than them... It seems like such a gap, especially when you're my age.

AwdreeHpburn · 01-16-2007, 11:03 PM

Are you kidding?

It's MY opinon - and I'm a girl so it may not even count - but your at your prime psysical peak! What's NOT to be interested in.

Not that older girls don't look like that, cos they do of course, but it's encoded.

At least that's MY opinion....

quietgrl · 01-16-2007, 11:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Mythical_Suicide

No offense and I really am not trying to offend you or anyone else but older guys go for younger girls because they think we're an "easier lay" and dumber than someone their age. I used to get into the situations just like you described and I realized the only way to avoid those guys was to not put myself into those situations, ya know?

Your post is 100% true about older men and younger women under 21.

Luke Skywalker · 01-16-2007, 11:18 PM

Yes, your premise of having sex was to get even with your ex? Did you take photos and send it to him?

puff.tm.dragon · 01-16-2007, 11:42 PM

You don't want to know. We have dirty thoughts.

Fairy Queen · 01-16-2007, 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Mythical_Suicide

No offense and I really am not trying to offend you or anyone else but older guys go for younger girls because they think we're an "easier lay" and dumber than someone their age. I used to get into the situations just like you described and I realized the only way to avoid those guys was to not put myself into those situations, ya know?

Not all older guys who go for younger girls are like that! I'm 18 and my boyfriend's nearly 22. I'm the first younger girl he's dated and he is such a gentleman! When we first started going out he was aware that i was a virgin and really took things slowly cos he didn't want me to take things too fast. When we eventually had sex I basically initiated it and he kept asking me if I was ok and I was sure. Just made me love him all the more that he wasn't pressuring me into anything

Suesser Tod · 01-16-2007, 11:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Hannahleh

For the couple months I was single (I still am, but am hopefully in the process of getting back with my ex) I noticed that almost all the guys that tried to (or did) get with me were quite a bit older.

Easy answer:

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Originally Posted by Hannahleh

I'm sixteen, and these guys ranged from 18 (a couple of guys who screwed me while I was very drunk and semi-conscious in the back of my car

) to 26 (he lied and told me he was 23 <still a little old> when he was really three years older with a six year old kid.) to 35 (my smoking buddy, who kissed me completely out of the blue right before I ran out of his trailer lol).

Because they are way too naive and easy to take advantage of. You are a living proof of it.

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Originally Posted by Hannahleh

Oh, and I realize that the first example isn't a very good one... I'm sure they only did that to me because I was the only girl at the party and drunk enough that they could carry me out to my car.

HAven't you thought that maybe you should reevaluate the people you are hanging out with?

quietgrl · 01-17-2007, 12:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Fairy Queen

Not all older guys who go for younger girls are like that! I'm 18 and my boyfriend's nearly 22. I'm the first younger girl he's dated and he is such a gentleman! When we first started going out he was aware that i was a virgin and really took things slowly cos he didn't want me to take things too fast. When we eventually had sex I basically initiated it and he kept asking me if I was ok and I was sure. Just made me love him all the more that he wasn't pressuring me into anything

Fairy Queen,
"When we eventually had sex I basically initiated it". Most older men who date younger women under 21(especially virgin) will play that trick on younger women so be careful ladies. Some older man knows how to play a younger woman for sex,money and other things so keep that in mind.He doesn't have to pressure you for sex just to get what he wants(sex or other things)

Honey Pumpkin · 01-17-2007, 02:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Hannahleh

(a couple of guys who screwed me while I was very drunk and semi-conscious in the back of my car

)

Erm, not really commenting on the thread, but this leapt out at me - how are you feeling about this? Because I was reading through the thread, and it struck me that you had been raped - I hope these guys faced charges for this? Just felt really sorry for you to have been taken advantage of like that. Sorry, didn't mean to derail the thread, but I did want to ask you if you were okay.

01-16-2007, 10:50 PM	#1
Hannahleh Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Montana Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 110	Older guys + teen girls- What's the attraction? For the couple months I was single (I still am, but am hopefully in the process of getting back with my ex) I noticed that almost all the guys that tried to (or did) get with me were quite a bit older. I'm sixteen, and these guys ranged from 18 (a couple of guys who screwed me while I was very drunk and semi-conscious in the back of my car ) to 26 (he lied and told me he was 23 <still a little old> when he was really three years older with a six year old kid.) to 35 (my smoking buddy, who kissed me completely out of the blue right before I ran out of his trailer lol). I don't have a problem with older guys, my ex was a good two and a half years older than me when we dated, but it really makes me curious when they're more than five years my senior... what's the attraction? Why don't older, more experienced men want older, more experienced women? I do realize that this isn't true for all (or even most) men, but I didn't have a single guy that was still in high school express any interest in me whatsoever. Is it just because I was (am) young/naive/and vulnerable at the time, or is there something else I'm missing that makes guys want young girls? Does anybody else have the problem of only being able to get guys out of their age range? Oh, and I realize that the first example isn't a very good one... I'm sure they only did that to me because I was the only girl at the party and drunk enough that they could carry me out to my car. __________________ What a wicked thing to do To make me dream of you What a wicked thing to say... I've never felt this way. And I've, never fallen in love. And I, wanna fall in love-- With you.

01-16-2007, 11:03 PM	#2
Hannahleh Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Montana Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 110	Yeah, it's not much of an excuse but I was definitely not in the best state of mind for those two months, I normally am not the... easy (?) girl.. But eh. I'm not really talking about me specifically, but in general. I notice about half of the sophmore girls in my classes are going out with guys five or ten years older than them... It seems like such a gap, especially when you're my age. __________________ What a wicked thing to do To make me dream of you What a wicked thing to say... I've never felt this way. And I've, never fallen in love. And I, wanna fall in love-- With you.

01-16-2007, 11:03 PM	#3
AwdreeHpburn Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Tiffany's Gender: Female Age: 37 Posts: 4,639	Are you kidding? It's MY opinon - and I'm a girl so it may not even count - but your at your prime psysical peak! What's NOT to be interested in. Not that older girls don't look like that, cos they do of course, but it's encoded. At least that's MY opinion.... __________________ What i really meant to say, is that I'm sorry for the way I am......

01-16-2007, 11:18 PM	#5
Luke Skywalker Offline Gold Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 3,471	Yes, your premise of having sex was to get even with your ex? Did you take photos and send it to him?

01-16-2007, 11:42 PM	#6
puff.tm.dragon Offline Silver Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Springfield Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 369	You don't want to know. We have dirty thoughts.