Ex's grandmother died...

laboheme · 12-24-2006, 06:53 PM

I was making small talk with a customer at work today, and she told me that my ex-boyfriend's grandmother died a week ago. I checked the obituaries later, and it was indeed true. Now, we've been broken up since the end of July, and haven't had any contact for the last few weeks. I know it's an incredibly hard time for his family, especially since his other grandmother died at the beginning of the year. I'm thinking of sending the whole family a sympathy card...Should I? Should I just address it to his mom (it was her mother who died) or to the whole family? Also, by the time the mail goes out, it will have been 9 days since her death...is that too late to send a sympathy card? And would it be odd to send one, because I didn't send them a holiday card? Or should I just send him a quick email saying that I'm sorry to find out about her death and leave it at that? Or do I just ignore it altogether?

DN · 12-24-2006, 06:59 PM

I think it would be polite and kind to send a sympathy card addressed to the entire family.

**Hope75** · 12-24-2006, 08:20 PM

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Originally Posted by DN

I think it would be polite and kind to send a sympathy card addressed to the entire family.

I agree. Nothing over the top, just a quick "I am sorry for your loss and your family is in my thoughts."

MacGyverRI · 12-25-2006, 01:32 AM

Never too late to send a card and personally I had 3 ex GF's come to my fathers wake many yrs. back. You're just showing respect.

Ripples · 12-27-2006, 04:00 AM

Did he dump you?

Is your current relationship with your ex on a healthy, mature friendship level?

Have you coped and dealt with any grief you experienced as a result of the breakdown of your relationship?

Dont use it as an excuse to get back in touch.

Move on.

lifestream · 01-02-2007, 02:01 AM

"No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend's or of thine own were. Any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind; and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee..." - John Donne

Forget the politics.

12-24-2006, 06:53 PM	#1
laboheme Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 837	Ex's grandmother died... I was making small talk with a customer at work today, and she told me that my ex-boyfriend's grandmother died a week ago. I checked the obituaries later, and it was indeed true. Now, we've been broken up since the end of July, and haven't had any contact for the last few weeks. I know it's an incredibly hard time for his family, especially since his other grandmother died at the beginning of the year. I'm thinking of sending the whole family a sympathy card...Should I? Should I just address it to his mom (it was her mother who died) or to the whole family? Also, by the time the mail goes out, it will have been 9 days since her death...is that too late to send a sympathy card? And would it be odd to send one, because I didn't send them a holiday card? Or should I just send him a quick email saying that I'm sorry to find out about her death and leave it at that? Or do I just ignore it altogether? Last edited by laboheme; 12-24-2006 at 07:01 PM.

12-24-2006, 06:59 PM	#2
DN Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 23,445	I think it would be polite and kind to send a sympathy card addressed to the entire family. __________________ Immaturity is not defined by him not doing what you want him to do. Hartman's Law of Prescriptivist Retaliation: "any article or statement about correct grammar, punctuation, or spelling is bound to contain at least one eror".

12-25-2006, 01:32 AM	#4
MacGyverRI Offline Silver Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Warwick, R.I. USA 41.7N. / -71.41W Gender: Male Age: 56 Posts: 613	Never too late to send a card and personally I had 3 ex GF's come to my fathers wake many yrs. back. You're just showing respect. __________________ Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new. ~Einstein Imagination is intelligence having fun. ~Einstein Please Note: No trees or animals were harmed in the sending of this contaminant free message! We do concede that a significant number of electrons may have been inconvenienced... ;)

12-27-2006, 04:00 AM	#5
Ripples Offline Silver Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: London Posts: 329	Did he dump you? Is your current relationship with your ex on a healthy, mature friendship level? Have you coped and dealt with any grief you experienced as a result of the breakdown of your relationship? Dont use it as an excuse to get back in touch. Move on.

01-02-2007, 02:01 AM	#6
lifestream Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Toronto Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 204	"No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend's or of thine own were. Any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind; and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee..." - John Donne Forget the politics.